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That Is Your Past And There Is No Future In It

We have some golf carts at the studio. We use them to run around the campus, getting actors from here to there and so on. But the thing that bothers me the most about them is that when you put them into reverse a beeping alarm goes off. And it doesn’t stop until you go forward. It is so annoying to be in the middle of a shot, when I need it very quiet, to hear that beeping noise. I wanted the facilities guys to disconnect the reverse alarm but I was told that they couldn’t because it is a safety measure. The alarm is there to let people know that you’re about to go backwards.

I walked back to my office thinking about this and this thought popped into my head: wouldn’t it be great if we as humans had an annoying alarm that made a loud continuous beep when we are about to go into reverse? When we’re about to look back, like when you’re about to pick up that phone and call an ex that you know is no good for you, wouldn’t it be great if that alarm went on and stayed on until you hung up the phone? Wouldn’t it be great for all the people around you to hear that alarm so that they know you are about to go backwards and bring up some old crap? I think husbands and boyfriends would love that… LOL.

But seriously, there are a lot of people who are living their lives stuck in reverse, alarms going off, beeps beeping very loudly, but they can't get it out of reverse. You know these kinds of people, the ones that nobody wants to be around because they can be so annoying, always dwelling on the past. Full of “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I could have done that”. These kinds of people are sad to me, not focusing on the beauty of today, they’d rather dig through the ashes of yesterday. Listen to me, you can’t change anything that you have done in your past, all you can do is go forward. No matter how many mistakes you have made, no matter how many things you have done wrong, you have got to move forward. That is your past and there is no future in it.

And the only way to move forward is to ask for forgiveness from the people who you have hurt and wronged. Whether they forgive you or not you must ask… sorry that’s just the way it is. If you don’t you will continue to reap bad things from what you have done to them, even if they don’t forgive you. You will have the power to be free because you asked for forgiveness. And secondly, you must forgive yourself. Forgiveness is the key that can move your life forward… and turn off the reverse alarm.

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  • Nickey G stl

    I can't tell you bad I needed to read this today. I asked God for a word this morning I am so encouraged. Thank you so much for sharing this with us! :)

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  • Sherri United States

    Hello Mr. Perry. Just wanted to let you know we are on the same wave length. I am publishing a book that talks about that very thing. I tried to cut and paste the book cover to you, but I was unsuccessful with that mission. I would love to tell you more about my book and One Women Show. You have always been such an inspiration. Many continued blessings. Thanks for the conformation this morning with your awesome email. Have an Awesome Day!. SSN

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  • Ethan Clemons Detroit, Mi 48219

    At this moment in my life, what I read from you had to be for my eyes. Yesterday I haven't cried as much in my 26 yes of living since I was sent to prison when I was younger. I try my hardest not to live in the past but the fact of the matter is I can't. All those immature decisions has lead me to position that's difficult to get out of. A continuous downward spiral that seems to never end. Young blk man with a felony, shoot I see no hope anymore. As a father , husband, and friend I've done more to help those who I love but now I need help, I need motivation, I need someone to uplift me. All.the advice doesn't help when u don't have to nickels to rubbing together, or how u go make it to work, what about when the stress starts to make u lash out against your child or wife. The pain I'm feeling can't be suppressed by kind words. When do we humans getpast this verbal sense of ccomfort and Start actually helping one another out? For instance, this post will not be read by anyone who cares. Or by chance if someone skimmed through this, they'll make they way on to the next article or their exciting lives. The struggle is so real and can be told about but nobody hears the truth anymore. Ironically another piece of advice I was givenough was to write a letter to God, but just like this letter....it'll more than likely fall on death ears. I wouldn't be amazed, nice guys finish last...maybe if I went back to the streets doing the works of the devil I bet I would be recognized and well off then. Who knows, only the man upstairs.

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  • Mina Washington D.C

    I love your analogy. That is exactly how and why I love and view airplanes. Unlike a car, an airplane in the air can only go forward, no reverse. Yes, I agree, you don't have to be stuck with your past but you have to learn from it to build the future. Have a nice day.

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  • Carmen South africa

    Wow! I know exactly what you talking about! Been there! I couldn't forgive myself and was feeling as if God had to punish me for what I did. But I was told by my sister that God does not punish us, we move away from Him when we sin. I was chatting to an ex and I am married. Nothing came of it but we kept on reliving the past relationship we had which was not the best at the time. I've since asked for his (the ex) forgiveness for leading him on and asked for God's forgiveness too. I stopped all the chatting and am free of guilt, resentment, deceit and everything else that comes with messing around behind your spouse's back. I love your work and admire you! May God continue to bless you and work within you!!!

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  • jENNIFER ANCHORAGE ALASKA

    I wish i had that alarm. I would go crazy though. I love this message about forgiveness. It says it in the bible but sometimes I don't really ask for forgiveness from a person. I just assume I get it by the way things end up. I see I need to start asking every time. Thank you and God bless you Mr. Perry

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  • Mark R Moss sicklerville nj 08081

    Hey Mr Ty thats why you are where you are today your heart and your thoughts your are amazing and i love you Thankyou for all the knowledge i get from you stay blessed.

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  • Sandra Mount Morris, Mi

    True..so true, Mr. Tyler Perry....Asking for forgiveness and being forgiving go hand in hand. But why is it so hard for people to accept this rule?..if they really are a true Christian, it wouldn't be a problem. Therefore, I just pray about and move on...Don't be stuck in "reverse" as you say but move forward to a better life, especially in the sight of God.

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  • lillian

    Please forgive! I have forgiven you and I'm definitely moving forward with my Father GOD guiding me every step of the way.

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  • Sheena

    My God My God!!!! Mr. Perry u are truly a inspiration n Thanks for all that u do!!!

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  • Mark R Moss sicklerville nj 08081

    Gdmorning Mr Ty that is perferctly said and thats why you are where you are today your heart and your thoughts you are unbelievably amazing and if we had more people like you this would be a much better place Thankyou i love you keep up the great thoughts and work and stay blessed.

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  • Briana

    I JUST went through this with my father! Learning to forgive is hard but, it feels SO good to be able to FINALLY move on. Even though the outcome wasn't what I expected, my mommy was there beeping the WHOLE time and remained until I shifted gears and moved forward. You can't LIVE until you FORGIVE! P.S. Are you still looking for new talent? If so, how can we submit any information since the site says its still on hiatus?

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