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That Is Your Past And There Is No Future In It

We have some golf carts at the studio. We use them to run around the campus, getting actors from here to there and so on. But the thing that bothers me the most about them is that when you put them into reverse a beeping alarm goes off. And it doesn’t stop until you go forward. It is so annoying to be in the middle of a shot, when I need it very quiet, to hear that beeping noise. I wanted the facilities guys to disconnect the reverse alarm but I was told that they couldn’t because it is a safety measure. The alarm is there to let people know that you’re about to go backwards.

I walked back to my office thinking about this and this thought popped into my head: wouldn’t it be great if we as humans had an annoying alarm that made a loud continuous beep when we are about to go into reverse? When we’re about to look back, like when you’re about to pick up that phone and call an ex that you know is no good for you, wouldn’t it be great if that alarm went on and stayed on until you hung up the phone? Wouldn’t it be great for all the people around you to hear that alarm so that they know you are about to go backwards and bring up some old crap? I think husbands and boyfriends would love that… LOL.

But seriously, there are a lot of people who are living their lives stuck in reverse, alarms going off, beeps beeping very loudly, but they can't get it out of reverse. You know these kinds of people, the ones that nobody wants to be around because they can be so annoying, always dwelling on the past. Full of “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I could have done that”. These kinds of people are sad to me, not focusing on the beauty of today, they’d rather dig through the ashes of yesterday. Listen to me, you can’t change anything that you have done in your past, all you can do is go forward. No matter how many mistakes you have made, no matter how many things you have done wrong, you have got to move forward. That is your past and there is no future in it.

And the only way to move forward is to ask for forgiveness from the people who you have hurt and wronged. Whether they forgive you or not you must ask… sorry that’s just the way it is. If you don’t you will continue to reap bad things from what you have done to them, even if they don’t forgive you. You will have the power to be free because you asked for forgiveness. And secondly, you must forgive yourself. Forgiveness is the key that can move your life forward… and turn off the reverse alarm.

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    "Whether they forgive you or not you must ask." That statement found me at a time in my life I can honestly say is just the right time. After they don't forgive me, I still must move forward regardless. I must accept it and wait.

  • Guilaine Brooklyn

    Your words are the true meaning of natural beauty Your actions is like a angel sent down to earth You are the voice, now today & eternity I love you because your real I love you because you are the truth.



  • cheryl jax, fl

    Tyler, I wanted to take a few minutes to say. Your mamma raised an amazing guy. I actually got hooked on your films a few years back. After starting to work for Natasha O, and outstanding author of "Airing Grandma's Laundry & Other hush, hush secrets. Ms. O, is an amazing woman. She has overcome so much adversity in her life, yet she still does so much for others. She lost her husband a few years ago, was raised by her "big mamma", even though, her mom was still alive, Big Mamma was her saving grace. Natasha has taken care of all of her family over the years, even when they don't deserve it. She has given me a second chance, by having the privilege to work for her. She has her hands in everything, but most of all, I would love to see someone give her a shot. She has an amazing book trailer. Airing Grandma's Laundry and Other hush, hush secrets. I would love to see if you might at least take a look at it, and see what you all think. She would probably kill me, but I think she is amazing. I think Madea could have a field day with this novel. This woman is amazing. I love her so much. I would just like to see something good come to her, as she so much deserves it. Her direct email want to see her dreams come true. I'd like to do something nice for her, since she has given so selfishly to others. We are know as ebony and ivory, to all of her friends. BYW....I absolutely love Madea gets a job. What an awesome message in that play. I even had my 15 year old niece watch it with me again. Tyler, you will never know how many lives you have touched with the messages in your films & plays. They have real substance! May God continue to bless the Tyler Perry Studios.

  • Mrs

    Hi, just like to say my husband took me to watch Temptation this weekend in Jamaica, it was a blessing in disguise as my husband was suppose to take me to watch Iron Man 3, but this was sold out, three nights in a row. I was a bit surprised that my husband picked this movie as the last time I suggested watching one of your movies, He replied that I should take his mother... Lets leave it there! I just wanted to say that me and my husband appreciated this film, and we both learnt alot, for example if we have any problems with each other we will discuss them together. Also there were quite a few couples in the cinema and when the storyline started to unfold people started to air their views and they had plenty to say. Some of the men gave a round applause when things ended badly for her, to my surprise. Me personally, I felt sorry for her, one mistake cause so much pain. It is a powerful movie and I would like to thank you for making this film, as it has had a positive effect on my marriage.

  • Nakeisha Mazon sarasota fl

    It would b an honor to share my story with u and for you to play it out on the big screen. I'm a 30 yr old women with 5 children who managed to graduate high school and college but the struggles and poor choices I had that went along with it. If interested plz contact me I will only share my life with u oprah or dr.phil

    • Candy Denver #1829577

      Hello Ms. Mazon: I don't frequent this website often, but I am a fan of Mr. Perry's work so every once in a while when I need some inspiration in my life I come on here and then I end up reading a few of the posts and yours happen to be one of them. It sounds like you've led a very interesting life, one that is filled with one of victory. It sounds like your story or what I prefer to refer to you as your testimony is an awesome one. You said in your posts " I will only share my life with u oprah or dr.phil", This is simply an observation...but what if Mr. Perry, Oprah and/or Dr. Phil" for whatever reason were unable to honor your request, will you just let your story be hidden? If you wanted to share your story, you would find a way to do so. Again, this is just an observation and opinion and not a judgement. I have a saying that I live by "I refuse to give up even or especially if the odds are against me". I'm not saying that should be everyone's mantra, but it's definitely mine. I wish you all the best in your life. Best regards, CNC

  • Norda Cali

    Tyler, I just read your comments that you posted about moving forward and I want to thank you for taking time out to share your thoughts. This post was poignant and it feels as if you were talking directly to me. Just today, I was tempted to reach out and contact an ex-friend. Our freindship/relationship was toxic for me and I felt like in order make real progress I had to resist the urge to reconnect to this person. When you move on, you must keep moving forward. Ain't nobody got time for taking two steps back. By the way, let me expand on your thoughts about this alarm that should go off. I really feel that we have an internal alarm that warns us when we are about to regress. This alarm can be intuition, a sixth sense, or if you are saved, the Holy Spirit. The thing is, we have to STOP and recognize that the alarm is warning us and we must make a choice. Whatever, choices we make, we must live with the consequences. - Peace.

    • Mishelle Houston, Texas #1837000

      Hi Tyler; I had the opportunity to sit and watch both of the new shows aired Tuesday and Wednesday. I loved both of them and wise you the very best in your next endeaver. Hopefully, Madea is coming back with her next appearance soon. Stay encouraged... I could sit and share some things with you that I have personally experienced through your success stories and contentment. You have been an inspiration to me and my life. His eye is surely on the sparrow. Much Love Mishelle

  • lydia South Africa

    Hi Tyler, thank you for all the emails. Temptation is out in South Africa this weekend. after reading the comments about it, I can't wait to see

  • Eileen Indy

    Hey Tyler I have a great for a story. I am a new idea for a business. Do you help finance new ventures. If so how would I get in contact with you for financial help? Any financial help would be appreciated.

  • Dyan Brooklyn, NY

    Hello Tyler, I just wanted 2 thank u 4 sending me this email! I don't get online everyday but I got up here 2day & seen your email. I just finish reading it & it touch me so much because I needed 2 heard that. The things you were saying was so true 2 me. I've been gong thru some thing recently & it hit home. God knows the time & place 4 everything & he knew I was thinking about some things & he had me 2 read this email. Usually I don't read my emails until a couple of days later but I just wanted 2 read yours soon as I seen it. It help me 2 put my thoughts together in the right order. I thank you once again 4 sending it 2 me & I want 2 thank you 4 letting God use you the way that he does! Keep enjoying life & letting God use you! Luv u TP! Be Bless!

  • Adrian Chaney Magnolia, Tx.

    That is so true and I believe every word you said, forgiveness is for both parties and looking forward and not backwards is key. I have all the tools, evidence and will power to go forward instead of being in a relation with someone that constantly cheats. Weather its texting other women etc its been ongoing since my freshman year in high school. I'm now 41 and still thinking this man I've spent my life with smothered some of his kids and he still not right after all these years of marriage. Last year I found out he was calling texting a woman he messed over me in school with etc and Tyler I'm still here for my kids. Enough is enough trying to move forward but I've always had a home base job workeded from home and a few jobs outside the home, so not employed and stuck.... But God is good I have a cool head seeking employment and housing. God will make a way he know y heart and desires and know im a good woman worthy of someone deserving of a woman of my statue.. Have a Blessed Day cause I can do a movie and a book on the life with this man sticking by his side with cheating, children outside of us etc... God gonna show up and show out on my behave. Was doing good in New Orleans as an Extra on Ray and Mr. 3000 with the late great Bernie Mac before hurricane moved me to Tx and I decided to stay here for school stability for my kids.. love u Tyler keep doing good and God work..

  • Ms. Proverbs Owings Mills, Maryland

    Hi there Tyler....Aww spending time walking your dogs (babies) I know they are enjoying that but it looks like one was missing in the picture Was it Mary? trying to keep up with the rest of them :-) Today, I had a blast on my birthday :-) Oooh I didn't know what to do with myself I had lots of fun Enjoying Life :-) I took myself to see the movie "Peeples" Tina did a great job writing the funny scripts..All Star Cast Kerry, S.E patha, and others ..it was hilarious Craig Robinson and David Alan Grier are so funny..my favorite part was Moby D*** Day and when Wade was in that hot tent...OMG! I screamed laughing so hard..It was so hot in that tent he began to hallucinate..too funny :-) The Peeples family had some hidden mess going on but Wade kept it real and honest I like that..As you get older you become wiser and it is so important to keep your relationship transparent, honest, and real...Over the years...I've learned that it's ok to agree to disagree but with respect..I've learn that I may not say what he wants to hear (or vice versa) but speak the truth anyway in love and respect even if you are upset, hurt, and or angry. Depends on the situation because if you are too angry to talk it out then it's best to speak when you are not so angry so that you will have a clear and focus mind to listen to each other instead of screaming at each other....God and experiences has really matured and helped prepare me for my future ..Being more open minded...Knowing how to build a strong solid relationship...I keep in mind that I will continue to learn until I see my Lord Jesus face to face not trying to be deep but it's the truth anyhow (as the old folks would say) :-) Tyler isn't it funny how your past try to come back into your life? which means it is a clear indication that God has something bigger and better for your life..I am waiting on God trusting and believing in him so that I can see my promise :-)I'm looking forward to your next projects:-) I really am..Well I am going to rest my eyes "For I's tired" LOL! from having so much fun today :-) Sweet Dreamzzzzz Night Night Ms. Proverbs

    • Ms. Proverbs Owings Mills, Maryland #1828763

      WOW!! OMG! Tyler another long message I wrote on your board..LOL! I hope your eyes are not burning right now from reading these long messages...LOL! Whew I tell you...Ok Good Night :-) Ms. Proverbs

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