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Untie the Rope

Hey there guys, you good? :-)

So, I just finished filming a really good movie called GOOD DEEDS. It's me like you've never seen me before. It comes out in February, brace yourself. :-) There were a lot of long days on this shoot, so I wanted to take a break.  I decided to do some traveling and since I still have 20 more pounds to lose before I start my next movie, ALEX CROSS, I thought I would go to the Grand Canyon and do some hiking, climbing and so on.  At one point in the climbing, I was over a steep drop and was tied to a safety rope, while a buddy's safety rope was tied to me. It was my responsibility to help him up, since I was bigger and weighed more.  I told him, "I'll hold on to you to help you up but if you start to pull me over with you, I'm going to untie this rope." We had a good laugh about it, but I was serious...  :-)

I started thinking about that moment a few days ago. How many times are we tied to a person, people or things that are pulling us down and we won't untie the rope?  For whatever reason, be it family, friends, society, or just the feeling of being obligated, trapped or that if you don't, no one else will.  I have watched so many people go over a cliff with a person that they are trying to help up, it's sad.  YOU MUST UNTIE THE ROPE!!! 

This is your life and you are wasting it being tied to someone who is destroying his or her opportunities and yours. If the person that you are trying to help does not know that they are worth being saved, how do you expect them to put any value on you saving them? You're not worth it to them.  They can't get it! SO YOU NEED TO! Listen to me, untie the rope and don't lose yourself trying to hold on to someone who can't survive on your level. You hear me? Maybe they have gone as high as they can go.  Just because you can survive on that level doesn't mean that everyone else can. Stop trying to help them, UNTIE THE ROPE! I know you may feel this is cruel, but what is more cruel is dying a death that's not your own. Letting your destiny go to hell because someone else pulled you there. Are you kidding me? That isn't God!

Here is what I have learned over the almost 20 years that I have been in this business. Let me tell you, I have seen and worked with some of the most talented people you can imagine and I used to wonder why they never got any higher than they are. You know, the kind of people who always seem to be at the door, but never can go in.  It used to blow my mind until I got a revelation from God.

For many years I was the same way, I would get close and things would fall apart. I couldn't get any traction, not in my career, not in my personal life and not in the pursuit of happiness. I just couldn't move forward. Through much prayer and self-discovery, I found out that I used to be, notice I said "USED TO BE," a self-saboteur. I would find a way to subconsciously destroy every good thing that was in my life and I didn't even know I was doing it. Most self-sabotaging people don't know that they are doing it.  I don't think there is anyone sadder than a person who blames everyone else, but themselves for their situation.   The very revelation that I was causing my own problems was one of the greatest blessings God could have allowed me to see. Once I realized the behavior, I was able to change it. That is why my life is in such a great place right now.  I realized that my very thoughts were keeping me from being successful at everything.  "So, as a man thinketh, so is he."

Many times a lot of us sabotage subconsciously because of what mamma or daddy said, traumatic childhoods or any number of things that happened growing up that made us feel that we shouldn't have or that we didn't deserve it.  I'm here to tell you all, that misinformation was wrong. You do deserve it! You are worthy of it! For me, knowing that Jesus died and rose again makes me know we are all worthy. 

Why am I saying this? I'm just tired of people being upset with people who have realized their dreams.  The only difference in someone who is living their dream and someone who can't get it to come to pass is they don't feel they deserve it. They don't feel they are worthy of it.  So many of us have dreams, dreams that the world is waiting for, talents that will help heal and change nations, but we keep destroying our own successes. I know for a fact that if I had not figured this out, you wouldn't be reading this email right now. Nor would I be a happy soul.

The world is waiting for your gift. Give it to yourself and you will give it to them, but first you have to UNTIE THE ROPE.

Tyler

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  • Wow!

    Look at God! Thank you for this message. I love you!

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  • Suite Lady Charlotte NC

    Mr Tyler I am so glad I found this posting again it really minister to my soul my spirit and my mind I printed out this message but I lost it I gave this message to a very good friend of mine which is an evangelist and she preached on it what topic untie the rope I have been in a marriage for so long that I was feeling the same way but then I saw wrote down well not so much on paper until after I print print out the message what is minister to me so much and gave me so many answers I thank the Most High God for you and your life. I do bid you God speed that you continue to minister to us in every way the Lord allows. Praise the Most High God

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  • M.H

    Reeeaaaalllllllllyyyy?????

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  • Torres Santa P.R

    HOLA TYLER, TU ERES EL MEJOR REGALO QUE EL MUNDO HA PODIDO TENER ... DIGO MUNDO PUES IMPACTAS A MILES EN TODO LUGAR ,LUGARES QUE AUN USTED NO HA PISADO CON SUS PIES, PERO TU TALENTO SI... TUS HUELLAS HAN LLEGADO A MI ... ERES UN SER HUMANO BRILLANTE Y LLENO DE LA SERENIDAD DE DIOS ... ERES PARTE DE MI PORQUE EL ES PARTE DE MI... Y BIENAVENTURADO EL QUE NO ENCUENTRA TROPIEZO EN TI ... Y SI ASI FUERA ES PORQUE EL TAL NO CONOCE A DIOS ... TODO EL QUE VIENE DE DIOS TE AMARA Y RESPETARA Y EL QUE NO VIENE DE EL SOLO IGNORALO CON MISERICORDIA... TU ERES UN SER MARAVILLOSO... Y ES UN PRIVILEGIO QUE ADORNES MI PAGINA DE FACEBOOK .CON DESEOS DE LO MEJOR PARA TI SIEMPRE...

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  • Sandis Cape Town South Africa

    Thank you!!!! I am speechless. I read all your posts but I cant stop referring back on this one. I just love you more, God bless you. Thank you once again.

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  • Jevette Atlanta GA

    Wow you ministered to me! I have condemned myself for years for past failures andthat's not of God. He came that I may have life and have it MORE ABUNDANTLY!! I receive that in Jesus name. You have so much more to offer this world and I cast down everything that says different. I have a lot to offer as well and that's why I love God so much because I'd never thought I would say that. But so as a man thinketh, so is he. I serve a God of redemption and when He cleans you up there is no residue!!! Many blessing to you!!

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  • Lashunda Atlanta

    Love the message. You are right, but sometimes the rope you are trying to unity just keep getting tighter the more you try to pull away. So what do you do? Have you ever had a not in a rope and the more you tried to untie it or pull , it kept getting tighter, so you had to take your time to see how it was tied up in the first place, well that's what some people have to do, take time to think about how and why they are associated to people: were they mourning at the time? was their confidence shattered? when they realize why they are connected to people its easier for them to untie the rope and realize that they are in a different phase in their life, and the person served their purpose for that season and now its time to move on, or untie the rope. Lashunda

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  • Jessica E White South Carolina

    I'm glad I read this email. I feel like my dreams can come true with the grace of God and my faith and work into. I just don't know where to start. I've been writing since I was 16 yrs old and now im 26. I got recongized for my poems from poetry.com. I entered a contest three times and won editor's choice three times. Now i thought they would give everybody that award who didn't win the cash prize but i know this guy who enter their contest also and he didnt win anything and his poems are great. So i felt special. I'm writing poems til this day. Right now im writing a book about my life and how i overcame suicidal thoughts and my depression stages. What happened in my past relationships n how i met my true love. How i grew up to be a lovely lady.... Also i would be talking bout my family....The bad the ugly and the beautiful moments with them. I'm also working on a new movie and i have some ideas for a couple of other movies.....now when i think i could come up with some interested things... I have all these ideas and things i wanna do but i just don't know where to start.... Thank you for inspiring me to follow my dreams and goals.... Thank you for also sharing some deep things over the yrs.... Ever since I've seen a dairy of a mad black woman i have been following your shows and plays and i just love them to death..... my fiance' loves ur house of payne and thanks for bring it back with new shows....WE LOVE YOU TYLER N WISH YOU NOTHING BUT THE BEST!!!!!!

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