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Move On!

Here’s a thought (I DON'T WANT YOU TO DO THIS, JUST THINK ABOUT IT). Get into the front seat of your car, then turn your body around. Knees on the front seat with your back on the steering wheel, your face looking toward the trunk. Stay in that position and try to drive the car forward. It’s impossible, right? If by some miracle you do manage to go forward I guarantee you won't get very far. If the car represents our lives then the way we are sitting in the driver's seat represents the way we approach it. It’s really hard to move on when you’re looking the wrong way. There is nothing wrong with the car... what is wrong is the position some of us are sitting in, meaning there is nothing wrong with your life, and you’re just facing the wrong direction.

There are many things that can cause you to be out of alignment with life, but instead of focusing on the many, I’d like to talk about one thing in particular... And that is GUILT.

I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday. He was telling me about all the guilt that he feels. Guilt that his marriage fell apart. Guilt that he doesn’t get to see his kids very often. Guilt that he’s not in a financial position to do more for them. Guilt over the mistakes he’s made in his past. Guilt over lots of money that he wasted doing the wrong things. So much guilt about everything.

I had to stop him and remind him of a few things. What I know about guilt is this: guilt is a tool that is used to destroy you. We all make mistakes. We all have fallen short. We have all disappointed someone, including ourselves at some point. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. It's done. Instead of beating yourself up about it, how about putting that same energy into making sure that it doesn’t happen again and healing anyone who may have been hurt by it?

You can’t let guilt win or consume you. You can’t let it take over your thoughts because if you do, you will start a downward spiral. It’s like this... guilt is the trick that makes you feel that you’re unworthy, and if you feel that you’re unworthy then you will feel that you don’t deserve any good thing to happen to you. And so, as a man thinks so is he. If you think you don’t deserve good things you will never have good things. And when things are falling apart you will feel guilty that they are falling apart. Do you see the cycle? There is no winning here. In order to be free and be lifted you must let go of the guilt or it will keep you bound.

How do you do that? Well, it’s a process, but you start by asking forgiveness of whomever you hurt, ask forgiveness of God, and most of all ask forgiveness of yourself. Although God forgives us most easily, we sometimes can't forgive ourselves. You can’t get to great things ahead if you're always looking behind you. It’s like trying to drive your car in that awkward position.

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  • Teahnna Philadelphia

    Best advice I heard all year! but its kind of hard when you've been through what I've been through. Long story lets just say it involves my sister and something she has done to permanently scar me literally. Forgiveness is necessary for my sanity but our relationship can not be repaired. I admire you and how you were able to overcome so many obstacles. I also strive to be great in life but its hard to get there when so many people around you try to pull you down. Not the place to vent so I just want to say thanks for all your amazing words of wisdom they don't fall on deaf ears many blessings to you.

  • Catina Goldsborough Bridgeton, New Jersey

    WOW!!! WOW!!! WOW!!! You words are so familiar. I say them often to others and repeat to myself. People ask me how come I don't allow them to marinate in their sorrow. They say that I am always trying to make them see the brighter side of things and what they have accomplished. Your words are so inspiring, they always have been. It is heart warming to know that there are others out there like me. You are truly a light shining in the darkness, Tyler. Keep doing what you do and your light will continue to show others the way and warm the hearts of those who are suffering. Be Blessed!!!

  • J. A. Lindsay South Carolina

    My God, My God, Beloved...the POWER of your words...there is such an infinite connection with you and the Almighty, Mr. Perry. Clearly, it is quite evident, that I can "feel" the God in YOU! You are not just a world renowned entertainer, you are TRULY a visionary, a motivational speaker, a prolific Ambassador for Christ. Your words, your thoughts evoke HEALING. It's totally inconceivable how you are able to speak to so many emotions that overtake so many souls, just merely with your words. You are truly a GIFT to humanity, a gift from the Almighty for the entire world to become inspired by! I THANK GOD FOR YOUR EXISTENCE! I thank God for your mother, for her being chosen to bring forth your life into this world. God knew and predestined the plans for your life. He orchestrated these thoughts that YOU would put to paper/text/verbalization. Thank you Tyler Perry, for being such a willing vessel to allow God to work through you, in order to inspire and motivate others to face life, head on and embrace the bitter with the sweetness, that life may bring our way. Thank you, Beloved for this message, this post. Thank you for allowing the God (IN YOU) to be witnessed and experienced by sooooo many of your fans, that earnestly LOVE and pray God's unmerited FAVOR upon your life. Thank you for being so transparent and secure with the mighty being you are, to share your thoughts, struggles and inspiration with the world. I consider myself BLESSED, just to have had the opportunity to experience such a phenomenal being in my lifetime....for experiencing a true testament and gift of love, bundled up in "YOU"! Blessings abounding.... J. A. Lindsay

    • satara wiliams miami fla #1772262

      HI , how are doing . hope all is well.

  • Charla Inola, Oklahoma

    Tyler, Thank you so much for posting this! This is what I needed at this moment in my life. I have dealt with guilt for many years for many reasons. This message has helped me more than you know. Thanks again, Charla

  • Evangeline Rand Virginia Beach, Virginia

    I lost my brother on July 7,2011. I was on my way to work, I am a nurse, when I got a text that told me that he died today. I turned around to go to where he lived, but everyone kept telling me they didn't know anything about it. My brother and I was not talking for about a month so the last time I saw him he was walking pass my car and we caught each others eye. I drove around the corner to his best friends house and he was sitting laid back in a chair with a white sheet over him. Mr Perry I didn't think a human could feel so much pain until you just cannot feel at all. My family isn't close so I gave what I had and the people on my job gave money and the one brother who lives in California gave the rest. I have two older sisters and two more older brothers. Although, I am the youngest my brother that died was like my son. He was on drugs and he drank a lot, but this didn't make me love him any less. He was the life of the party even when there was no party. I feel so much guilt and pain I wanted to literally die. I am a nurse and have been for 17 years, but I wasn't there for him. I got really sick and finally went to the mental health clinic and they put me on so much medications. It seemed like his death brought back every bad thing that had happened in my life. The sexual assaults that I had blocked out, the stress of trying to take care of everyone and everything for so long had finally taken it's toll. I am 48 years old and I have two wonderful sons that stood by me Robert is 24 and has a 2 year old son, he works two jobs and I have an 18 year old son Jaivon who attends Virginia State University he is a freshman wide receiver and an A/B student. He is one of the top 5 rookies for the CIAA. I am trying to fight the good fight for them, but I don't know if I can. I lost my job like so many other Americans so now we are homeless and staying with someone who really doesn't want us to, lost my car, my furniture,but most of all I have lost my joy and guilt for being unable to take care of myself and my family has overwhelmed me. Thank you for posting the story about guilt and about abuse sometimes you feel like it's just you. I am a Veteran of the Air Force so the staff at the VA are really trying to help me. Thanks for listening.

    • Tameca #1770514

      Don't give up just trust God and know that God loves u and has a plan for your life


    Hi Tyler. I would just like to say (HAPPY THANKGIVING)!!! too you,your family, and your staff. You been a blessing to me and so many others. Take this time out to rest and enjoy family if you can LOL.(LOVE YA)

  • April Jacksonville Florida

    Thanks Tyler for sharing Move On! I have been sitting in this seat for a while. You named it and it shows up. I was breaking inside. Now, I can thank God I can begin to move on. But

  • Aura OH

    I get what you are saying,and as always Tyler, you said it well. Someone hurt me down to the core and know I must forgive this person. I know it was not totaly this persons fault because if your were taught better you would know better. How do you get past the pain and trust again?

    • CHATIQUE USA #1766518


  • aretha scruggs

    it's crazy, i have never used twitter, somehow ive set up an account, but ive never used it! And i posted my first tweet and i said, how do you dream again, how do you move forward-thinking i have so many regrets, so many things ive done wrong. I saw new people to add, and there, i find tyler perry and his tweet has an attachment to this post! wow! moving forward... that's exactly what i needed to hear. ive been driving like that in my driver's seat all year long! boy! God is real, he is surely speaking...thanks Tyler or Mr. Perry!

  • ayo umoh Nigeria

    nice one bro, am glad you wrote this, keep it up.

  • Joni White Covington GA

    Thank you Mr. Tyler you are inspired to know what to write to your fans.I appreciate you and your wisdom form on high. I had written a poem and will like to share this with you. Please read and respond prove you read comments. "Civilized Deeds " "You who called yourself civilized, dressed up in fine suits and dainty clothes, pampered in sweet perfumes rings of gold and diamonds on fingers and toes. Homo-sapiens, whose languages were perfect,versed scholars, achievers. Writers of his-story. Please review this document of the true story. " You!"who called yourself civilized, went to many nations on the earth. Conquered and broadened your borders with the blood of men, women and children. Tortured and burned the native towns down. Removed people from fertile land to desert sand. Destroyed communities by mass murder called civil and world war. Plundered and destroyed both man and beast to gain wealth. "YOU" called the native of the land " Savages!" They hunted and planted food to feed their families; they lived together with nature with the basic knowledge to survive. They worshiped their gods and performed spiritual rituals. "You" preyed on the opportunity when they accepted your God, then you sent your army to desecrate and annihilate them. Who are these savages? Africans and American Indians- Tribes who taught you how to survive when you arrived. Now judge the civilized deeds. Tell me and the world who are the savage beasts? This era has passed, but the deeds still live on. Injustice in the courts and the system; You imprisoned the poor and the destitute. You planted the seed of hate among nations. The Rich becomes Richer, while the poor suffer more poverty. Thus says the Lord of Host, " I require of you justice, to love mercy and to walk humbly with thy God!" Practice daily the golden rule. Love God with all your heart and love others as yourself. Repent! Repent! of your civilized deeds! by Joni White RN Mr. Tyler pass this poem on maybe one day people will not deny this guilt.Instead make a change for the better in society. I also wrote scripts that will be great episodes on OWN. Please contact me. Remember I love you and will do you no harm! God bless you.

  • Bethany BartlettQUEEN32 WEST ORLANDO, florida


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