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Here’s a thought (I DON'T WANT YOU TO DO THIS, JUST THINK ABOUT IT). Get into the front seat of your car, then turn your body around. Knees on the front seat with your back on the steering wheel, your face looking toward the trunk. Stay in that position and try to drive the car forward. It’s impossible, right? If by some miracle you do manage to go forward I guarantee you won't get very far. If the car represents our lives then the way we are sitting in the driver's seat represents the way we approach it. It’s really hard to move on when you’re looking the wrong way. There is nothing wrong with the car... what is wrong is the position some of us are sitting in, meaning there is nothing wrong with your life, and you’re just facing the wrong direction.

There are many things that can cause you to be out of alignment with life, but instead of focusing on the many, I’d like to talk about one thing in particular... And that is GUILT.

I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday. He was telling me about all the guilt that he feels. Guilt that his marriage fell apart. Guilt that he doesn’t get to see his kids very often. Guilt that he’s not in a financial position to do more for them. Guilt over the mistakes he’s made in his past. Guilt over lots of money that he wasted doing the wrong things. So much guilt about everything.

I had to stop him and remind him of a few things. What I know about guilt is this: guilt is a tool that is used to destroy you. We all make mistakes. We all have fallen short. We have all disappointed someone, including ourselves at some point. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. It's done. Instead of beating yourself up about it, how about putting that same energy into making sure that it doesn’t happen again and healing anyone who may have been hurt by it?

You can’t let guilt win or consume you. You can’t let it take over your thoughts because if you do, you will start a downward spiral. It’s like this... guilt is the trick that makes you feel that you’re unworthy, and if you feel that you’re unworthy then you will feel that you don’t deserve any good thing to happen to you. And so, as a man thinks so is he. If you think you don’t deserve good things you will never have good things. And when things are falling apart you will feel guilty that they are falling apart. Do you see the cycle? There is no winning here. In order to be free and be lifted you must let go of the guilt or it will keep you bound.

How do you do that? Well, it’s a process, but you start by asking forgiveness of whomever you hurt, ask forgiveness of God, and most of all ask forgiveness of yourself. Although God forgives us most easily, we sometimes can't forgive ourselves. You can’t get to great things ahead if you're always looking behind you. It’s like trying to drive your car in that awkward position.

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  • Johnny Johnson Brookings SD

    Thanks for that message tyler. It came at the right time. You Rock!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Charlotte Brown

    Thank you!!!

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  • Onelia Miami, FL

    Thank you Tyler for such inspiring words. I have someone in my life (a great friend) that has and continues to face difficult times. He is dealing with a lot of "guilt" issues and subscribes to your mailings. When he received your message yesterday, he truly had a moment of clarity in his life. For this, I thank you and pray God continues to guide you and us (your followers). Have a blessed day!

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  • Regina Dover, DE

    Thanks Tyler for being so inspiring. I needed to hear those inspiring words.

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  • Audrey Little Rock, AR

    LOVE IT! Keep Inspiring.

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  • Nancy Nairobi, Kenya.

    This is the wake up call I needed, hit me right between my eyes, thank you so much TP and God bless ya.

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  • Dyana Los Angeles, CA

    Awesome word Tyler. I stand to say "I'm Not Guilty!" Thanks for your words of wisdom and great enouragement. Keep up the good work and many more Blessings to you always ~ Love you TP!

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  • Ezra Chioma Nigeria

    I couldn't be more proud of you tyler you are indeed an inspiration to this generation and the world at large. God bless you.

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  • Tasha

    I love you!

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  • ELAINE MIAMI FL

    THANK YOU TYLER FOR ALWAYS BEING POSTIVE AND HELPING OTHER PEOPLE EVEN THOUGH, YOU YOURSELF GO THROUGH THINGS TOO. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR LIFTING THE SPIRITS OF THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU AND YOUR WORK. WE AS YOUR FANS SUPPORT YOU MATTER WHAT. WE GLAD TO HAVE YOUR BACK. WE ARE ALWAYS HERE FOR YOU. THANK YOU FOR TAKING AWAY THE PAIN AND BONDAGE OF YESTERDAYS. GOD GAVE YOU THIS TO BLESS AND HELP THE PEOPLE. THANK YOU TY, YOU ARE INDEED A GIFT FROM GOD. MAY ALL YOU DO BE BLESSED 100 FOLD EACH, AND THAT CONTINUE TO STRENGTH.

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  • Sam Norfolk,VA

    Yes sir, we all needed that; thank you my brother! Keep the positivity going, <3 you!

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    • vanessa San Diego,CA #1763132

      I Enjoy reading it. Thank You Mr.Tyler<3

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  • Bonita

    Thank you I needed that:)

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