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That Is Your Past And There Is No Future In It

We have some golf carts at the studio. We use them to run around the campus, getting actors from here to there and so on. But the thing that bothers me the most about them is that when you put them into reverse a beeping alarm goes off. And it doesn’t stop until you go forward. It is so annoying to be in the middle of a shot, when I need it very quiet, to hear that beeping noise. I wanted the facilities guys to disconnect the reverse alarm but I was told that they couldn’t because it is a safety measure. The alarm is there to let people know that you’re about to go backwards.

I walked back to my office thinking about this and this thought popped into my head: wouldn’t it be great if we as humans had an annoying alarm that made a loud continuous beep when we are about to go into reverse? When we’re about to look back, like when you’re about to pick up that phone and call an ex that you know is no good for you, wouldn’t it be great if that alarm went on and stayed on until you hung up the phone? Wouldn’t it be great for all the people around you to hear that alarm so that they know you are about to go backwards and bring up some old crap? I think husbands and boyfriends would love that… LOL.

But seriously, there are a lot of people who are living their lives stuck in reverse, alarms going off, beeps beeping very loudly, but they can't get it out of reverse. You know these kinds of people, the ones that nobody wants to be around because they can be so annoying, always dwelling on the past. Full of “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I could have done that”. These kinds of people are sad to me, not focusing on the beauty of today, they’d rather dig through the ashes of yesterday. Listen to me, you can’t change anything that you have done in your past, all you can do is go forward. No matter how many mistakes you have made, no matter how many things you have done wrong, you have got to move forward. That is your past and there is no future in it.

And the only way to move forward is to ask for forgiveness from the people who you have hurt and wronged. Whether they forgive you or not you must ask… sorry that’s just the way it is. If you don’t you will continue to reap bad things from what you have done to them, even if they don’t forgive you. You will have the power to be free because you asked for forgiveness. And secondly, you must forgive yourself. Forgiveness is the key that can move your life forward… and turn off the reverse alarm.

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  • Sheena

    My God My God!!!! Mr. Perry u are truly a inspiration n Thanks for all that u do!!!

  • Mark R Moss sicklerville nj 08081

    Gdmorning Mr Ty that is perferctly said and thats why you are where you are today your heart and your thoughts you are unbelievably amazing and if we had more people like you this would be a much better place Thankyou i love you keep up the great thoughts and work and stay blessed.

  • Briana

    I JUST went through this with my father! Learning to forgive is hard but, it feels SO good to be able to FINALLY move on. Even though the outcome wasn't what I expected, my mommy was there beeping the WHOLE time and remained until I shifted gears and moved forward. You can't LIVE until you FORGIVE! P.S. Are you still looking for new talent? If so, how can we submit any information since the site says its still on hiatus?

  • Karen Atlanta

    When is your book coming out? I love how you used the golf cart to make a complicated emotional issue so simple and entertaining. It resonated with me with friends. You want to believe in them, but sometimes you have to walk away. I'll remember this story the next time I go backwards. Thank you as always.

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