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That Is Your Past And There Is No Future In It

We have some golf carts at the studio. We use them to run around the campus, getting actors from here to there and so on. But the thing that bothers me the most about them is that when you put them into reverse a beeping alarm goes off. And it doesn’t stop until you go forward. It is so annoying to be in the middle of a shot, when I need it very quiet, to hear that beeping noise. I wanted the facilities guys to disconnect the reverse alarm but I was told that they couldn’t because it is a safety measure. The alarm is there to let people know that you’re about to go backwards.

I walked back to my office thinking about this and this thought popped into my head: wouldn’t it be great if we as humans had an annoying alarm that made a loud continuous beep when we are about to go into reverse? When we’re about to look back, like when you’re about to pick up that phone and call an ex that you know is no good for you, wouldn’t it be great if that alarm went on and stayed on until you hung up the phone? Wouldn’t it be great for all the people around you to hear that alarm so that they know you are about to go backwards and bring up some old crap? I think husbands and boyfriends would love that… LOL.

But seriously, there are a lot of people who are living their lives stuck in reverse, alarms going off, beeps beeping very loudly, but they can't get it out of reverse. You know these kinds of people, the ones that nobody wants to be around because they can be so annoying, always dwelling on the past. Full of “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I could have done that”. These kinds of people are sad to me, not focusing on the beauty of today, they’d rather dig through the ashes of yesterday. Listen to me, you can’t change anything that you have done in your past, all you can do is go forward. No matter how many mistakes you have made, no matter how many things you have done wrong, you have got to move forward. That is your past and there is no future in it.

And the only way to move forward is to ask for forgiveness from the people who you have hurt and wronged. Whether they forgive you or not you must ask… sorry that’s just the way it is. If you don’t you will continue to reap bad things from what you have done to them, even if they don’t forgive you. You will have the power to be free because you asked for forgiveness. And secondly, you must forgive yourself. Forgiveness is the key that can move your life forward… and turn off the reverse alarm.

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  • Queen Samonye Colorado

    Mr. Perry You are the one and only for me Boo- Boo Will you marry me? Say Yes You All I need to get by

  • Zaron Deanglo Gamble Powder Springs, GA

    Wow, This really touched me cause its so true. I was chasing in the past thinking I can make a future out of them mistakes. It's time for me to do the right thing, It's going to be hard but I think It's best for me to move on.

  • Diane Carroll Berkeley

    Hi Tyler, In my head I understand what you mean about looking in the past. But you evet been so hurt and angry that everytime you see that person, think of that person, or anything to with that person and/or event come across your mind your mind just goes into overdrive! I am so angry because these people hurt my child and to see them move forward and leave all this rage in my child makes it so hard to turn that beeping off. I have given my life to my child and to watch her in pain makes it so hard to turn the beeping off. Yes repeated my thought because I am stuck between forgiveness and rage... So how do you turn off something that keeps hurting. Its like a sore, as soon as you think its healed, it opens up all over again.

  • Mother's Day Poem Charlotte NC

    Tyler you are my son, I haven't left you.Tyler I am still your mother, and always will be. I need you to get out of bed, and bring my flowers to me. I see you crying, and weeping; I am not DEAD and remember God is four steps ahead. I kept you safe; and we laugh and pray. Now Tyler! I need you to remember today is Mother's Day ; Joy and Peace we will always share. Tyler breath I am in the air! My gift that I need from you is a smile. and I will talk to you later baby and dry those droppings eyes (Love You). From: Spirit of Love

  • Yolanda Orlando, Fl

    Morning Tyler, I truely thank God for you and this message came right on time for me because I just got finish thanking God for all that he has done for me and more. I also had to put the enemy in his place he tried to so the same thing to me so I can go backwards in my life. Im always the one to encourage others, pray for others etc, but today you helped me and I needed that. Thank you again and May God continue to bless you in a mighty way now and forever more. Love you much...

  • zsa zsa (Bahamas) Bahamas

    Agreed. Behold today.

  • Ladypoohbear Ohio

    So true..moving forward

  • straightupcarla Long Beach, CA

    Preach, Pastor Perry, preach! I was feeling worn down this morning (crazy children!) but that message lifted my spirits. Now I'm uplifted and can go on and minister to the community that comes through my office every day. Thank you for being open to receive a message and willing to share it.

  • Me golf cart

    Wow! Amen! I like that. I can't wait to see what comes out of your head next. :0) That was deep.

  • Brandi

    This morning I woke up with a hurtful reminder of my past. For years I have struggled with the mistakes I have made, and the things that happened to me early in life. In 2004, I asked God to forgive me, accepted Jesus as my saviour, and ultimately found freedom from the sins of my past, but every now and then Satan will creep up and try to condemn me. Today was one of those days. It is so amazing how God works. He puts people and things in our paths and sometimes even people we have never met face-to-face, but people who inspire and encourage us through a movie, play, or blog. People who lead by example by telling the world it is ok if you make mistakes, and to forgive those who have done you wrong. Thanks for the encouragement this morning. God is good all day long, and I appreciate Him working through you to send this reminder to me today. God bless you.

  • peter south africa midrand

    im inspired to go forward and face the future by this post

  • Veronica Clement Somewhere USA

    Good morning Tyler, I Love this message and I must say that I have been there and understand what you mean. I myself used to hear a banging at the door and for a long time I didn't understand what it meant but I won't go any further as I will save the rest for my book, in fact, that will be a book by itself. I will say this though, I fight looking back on a daily basis. What I have learned to do is as soon as I start looking back and having negative thoughts, I immediately start thinking about Love which is a powerful source and is positive and I send Love to those who have hurt me and to those I have hurt, it helps me to overcome daily. I mean it really helps me conquer looking back. I would Love to get together with you and may do a project after I finish writing about it, you can give me some feed back on it. Next I wanted to know if you would like to invest in my future and help make my dreams come true. I want to know if would like to purchase a new laptop for me, which will help me since my laptop is so old and I cannot afford a new one. Also my son's dream has always been to be a movie director, dating back to when he was about 5, he is now about to turn 20 years old and I would Love if he could work with you under some type of internship. He is highly intelligent and I already know that he is going to be big, I will see him one day on the Academy Awards show and his name in lights for the many movies he is already in the process of writing. You can send the Laptop to 160 Mark Randy Place Apt 208, Modesto California 95350 I trust that this information will not show up once I post the comment. I am sure that no matter what, my son, has a bright and prosperous future ahead of him. Since you already have the phone number, I won't leave it and look forward to one day meeting you and hopefully working with you. I am a writer but only God knows if I will one day be a director as well. One thing is for certain, my son is a future film maker.

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