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That Is Your Past And There Is No Future In It

We have some golf carts at the studio. We use them to run around the campus, getting actors from here to there and so on. But the thing that bothers me the most about them is that when you put them into reverse a beeping alarm goes off. And it doesn’t stop until you go forward. It is so annoying to be in the middle of a shot, when I need it very quiet, to hear that beeping noise. I wanted the facilities guys to disconnect the reverse alarm but I was told that they couldn’t because it is a safety measure. The alarm is there to let people know that you’re about to go backwards.

I walked back to my office thinking about this and this thought popped into my head: wouldn’t it be great if we as humans had an annoying alarm that made a loud continuous beep when we are about to go into reverse? When we’re about to look back, like when you’re about to pick up that phone and call an ex that you know is no good for you, wouldn’t it be great if that alarm went on and stayed on until you hung up the phone? Wouldn’t it be great for all the people around you to hear that alarm so that they know you are about to go backwards and bring up some old crap? I think husbands and boyfriends would love that… LOL.

But seriously, there are a lot of people who are living their lives stuck in reverse, alarms going off, beeps beeping very loudly, but they can't get it out of reverse. You know these kinds of people, the ones that nobody wants to be around because they can be so annoying, always dwelling on the past. Full of “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I could have done that”. These kinds of people are sad to me, not focusing on the beauty of today, they’d rather dig through the ashes of yesterday. Listen to me, you can’t change anything that you have done in your past, all you can do is go forward. No matter how many mistakes you have made, no matter how many things you have done wrong, you have got to move forward. That is your past and there is no future in it.

And the only way to move forward is to ask for forgiveness from the people who you have hurt and wronged. Whether they forgive you or not you must ask… sorry that’s just the way it is. If you don’t you will continue to reap bad things from what you have done to them, even if they don’t forgive you. You will have the power to be free because you asked for forgiveness. And secondly, you must forgive yourself. Forgiveness is the key that can move your life forward… and turn off the reverse alarm.

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  • Rolinda Montgomery, AL

    Good evening Tyler, reading your pos t past and future. Makes me want to order the alarm if it was available. God has given you a wisdom that is far. When I'm down, I can always count on one of your plays to pick me up. Laughter is good for the soul. Love You. May God continue to Bless you!

  • Fabiola Eugene

    Loved the message and wish people could move on. I seem to attrack people who always stuck in the past and even if you pray with them and God instructs them on what to do; the are comfortable living in the past because the taught of letting go and embracing the future is scary. Honestly if they had an alarm it would help me more than them cause Ill know when to run away. Not because I dont want to help but when you are around them to long it gets depressing.

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    I am waiting!

  • Ms. Proverbs Owings Mills, Maryland

    Hi Tyler I was just thinking that it would have been nice to spend my birthday with ______ (Can you fill in the blank please...Thank You :-) I'm just saying Talk to you later :-) Ms. Proverbs

  • Denise Lize The Netherlands

    Wow, Tyler you are a genius! What a brillant connection you made between the golf cart in reverse and thinking back. Very clever. Yes! It would be very convinient to have a alarm or something else to stop us for going back to things that did hurt us and made us sad by thinking about It!. For now , I just have to recall your message and use It as a alarm and continue focusing on the future and enjoy the present. Makes me feel good already :-) . Thanks for sharing this and all the previous messages which made me and I assume a lot of people very happy... Stay Blessed! Greetings and Love from The Netherlands, Europe. Denise

  • Ms. Proverbs Owings Mills , Maryland

    Great Morning to you Tyler.....I'm so excited and I just can't hide it :-) and the reason why is Today "It's My Birthday It's My Birthday....YAY!!!!! I'm so tickled pink :-) ..God has blessed me to see another year and I'm so grateful..Tyler God is a good God..I love the Lord more on today :-) Welp anywho my day has started off just right..I woke up greeted with so much love and flowers (absolutely love flowers) that were given by my son and daughter :-) beautiful meaningful cards. I'm happy and blessed Although my children are grown they will always be my babies....I'm going to enjoy myself This day will be filled with WOOSAHHHHHH!!! (Niecey Nash word) LOL! Thank You for that powerful message to forgive...Believe it Not Unforgiveness is so unhealthy for the body it causes all kinds of sicknesses and diseases. Daily I ask God for forgiveness and to give me the strength to forgive. myself and or others...So grateful that Lord Jesus he will answer prayers...Unforgiveness will keep you stuck in the past not moving forward ...My saying is this "Looking Back is not an Option therefore Keep Moving Forward" (I tweeted this not too long ago) Remember the story of 'Lot's Wife" in the Holy Bible she was told not to look back, but she did and she turned to a pillar of salt...The bible says in 2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ he is a new creature Old things are past away behold all things are become new" Thanking God for our eternal alarm system from within called 'The Holy Ghost" Halleluyer!! (Madea) LOL! Daily I purposely strive to live a stress free life..I Thank God for you Tyler who inspires and uplifts so many of us with encouraging words and wisdom..Oh and Tyler I appreciate you sir :-) I really do You are blessing! I love to Chit Chat with you more but "It's My Birthday, It's My Birthday" LOL! I'm singing "This is the day that the Lord has made I will rejoice and be glad in it" Tyler, Enjoy Your Day Talk to you soon :-) Ms. Proverbs

    • Ms. Proverbs Owings Mills, Maryland #1828483

      Whew Tyler my message above sure was long...LOL! ..Ok talk to you later :-) Ms. Proverbs

    • Waneda Jackson United States #1828525

      Have an AWESOME God filled birthday Ms. Proverbs!!! That is my favorite book in the bible. The book of wisdom.

    • Ms. Proverbs Owings Mills, Maryland #1828740

      @Wanda Thank You So Much I appreciate Birthday Shout Out I agree with you I love the book of Proverbs too God Bless You :-)

  • Ernest Bennett Atlanta, GA

    Hey Tyler, I read the note that you wrote, “That Is Your Past And There Is No Future In It” and I thought that is was very inspiring. I also thought about your noise problem with the golf carts at your studio. Some of the streets in New Orleans are constructed with passageways, which cut across the neutral grounds to allow cars to make a U turn when needed. If you instruct the golf carts to “Only Go Forward” then there would never be any sound of beeping alarms on the campus. The drivers of the golf carts should always allow themselves enough room to make “U turns” if needed so that the carts are always in forward motion. Sometimes Life allows for “U Turns.” Whenever we revisit a memory from our past, which helps us to proceed forward that’s a U Turn. Also, all of our warmhearted memories of loved ones who have passed are all U Turns. Even in our Spiritual Lives we were given The Holy Spirit as A Comforter and Keeper, and one of the greatest functions of The Holy Spirit is to Remind us of The Word of God. Each Reminder is a U Turn in forward movement. In short, one solution to your beeping noise problem would be to instruct all drivers of the golf carts on campus to “Always Move Forward” and to always allow themselves room (be proactive and anticipate enough space) for U Turns, and that may solve your noise problem on the set while filming. I wish you much continue success. I always love and support all of your work becuase they are always straight from the heart.

  • Zandi south Africa

    Hi Tyler U are truly are a remarkable human being. U have such wisdom and encouraging words a.d thoughts. I just wish a lot of men can be like u then perhaps we would not have such a high rate of women and child abuse, and such a high rape rate in our country. PS

  • Mrs. P Maryland

    Hello Tyler! What an awesome comparison to golf carts!! Thank you!! You have a way of getting peoples attention on stage, on screen and online. I can relate to the warning signs and alarms that are automatically there to remind us of danger ahead, to shift gears, or to go another way! These alarms have always been there, but many people refuse to take heed! The consequences are sometimes fatal - unfixable! Doing the right thing is what makes the alarms stop! It's not easy for some, but it is do-able! Everything in life comes down to a choice - we choose!! When we refuse to pay attention to the alarms of life (and there are many!), we refuse to grow and move forward to greater things! We become stagnant! Instead of going with our choices, we should ask GOD to lead the way!! He will, but we must ask first!! As always Tyler, I am praying for you and everyone else out there!! Keep your eyes on the prize Tyler!!! Hope to meet you one day!! Mrs. P

  • Jannie Fort Wayne,Ind.

    Thank you Tyler, well said awesome words of wisdom. I needed that today. God bless you!

  • Waneda Jackson United States

    I am not saying be stuck on stupid. I am saying take what you have learned and apply as needed. No, you do not need to be consistant in throwing someones wrongs in their facem Personally, I would not want to be bothered either. Common sense would tell you to mind your tact. Forgive and move forward, but also learn so you don't make the same mistakes and only when it's a necessity pass the rope of knowledge to someone hanging on by a thread.

  • Doug Williams Warren, Mi

    I agree with you about no future in your past. Just like looking back and spinning your wheels but not going anywhere. Also there are some golf carts that don't make that reverse noise. I love the game of golf and the next time I go to a course where the cart does not beep I'll send you the information.

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