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Whitney. Still Praying.

For many years, I couldn’t turn my ringer off on my phones because my mother was very ill.  My phone would be on all night. This is tough for me because I’m the type of man who loves to be in pure quiet when I’m home. No TV, no radio, no nothing. Just quiet. Mainly because there is so much noise in my life.

After my mother died in 2009, I started turning my ringer off without the fear of missing a very important call. After you lose someone you love, nothing seems very important. So I was at my house in L.A. last year on February 11th, dreading facing February 12th. That would have been my mother’s 67th birthday. I’m always a little sad around that time but that morning started out okay. I thought I wouldn’t be able to get through the 12th. All I had to do was protect my spirit, let me just leave the TV off and turn the ringer off so that I could not be reminded of the grief that I had been enduring.

I decided to turn in early. I was getting in the bed and my cell kept lighting up. So I finally looked at my phone and I had text about Whitney. The one that was most shocking was a friend who said, “Tell me it’s not true.” I immediately knew what that meant. I tried to call Pat, her sister-in-law, but couldn’t reach her. Within a few minutes Pat called me back and asked me to come down to the hotel.

I went to the Beverly Hilton Hotel, got out of the car and I thought it was some kind of sick joke. There were hundreds of people standing around, laughing, drinking and screaming for autographs from celebrities as they arrived for a Grammy party. People were screaming my name and taking pictures as I pushed through the crowd. I went up to the floor and saw the police and coroners outside of the room. I went into the room and Whitney’s family was broken down, inconsolable. We must have been right above the party because there was a glass of water on the nightstand that was vibrating from the bass and the screams below. It was so surreal. Such a juxtaposed position to see this family breaking down and hear laughter and cheers from below us. It really made me think about her life. While her voice brought so much joy, there was so much sadness inside of her.

As I am seeing all these tributes to her on this one-year anniversary of her death, I want you to know something: Whitney was a fighter. She really tried to get herself together. She really tried to overcome. She really wanted to, and I also know that, like me, a lot of you were praying and rooting for her. So, for all of us that were praying for Whitney’s full recovery, for all of us who cared that she was on this planet, for all of us who loved her, I just want you to know that even though she is gone, there are still things that we can do for her. We can keep her daughter and her family lifted up in prayer. We can also pray for other people in this business, especially these young people who come in so bright eyed and eager, only to have it tear at their very souls.

I thank God I didn’t become successful until I was older. The younger you are when you start in this business, the more at risk you are.  Speaking of that, we can also pray for the children of these people. If you only knew what people in this business have to endure to sit in their seat. I’m not asking you to feel sorry for anyone. I’m simply asking you to pray for us all.

God bless. Miss you Whitney.

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  • Nicole Huff Mobile,Al

    I still feel sadden by Whitney Houston death. Someone recently said to me, why do you put yourself through that. Why do you cry when you remember Whitney or listen to her music. To be honest I don't know, maybe my soul cries out for answers. God has never fell me not even when I felt he had forgotten my very being. I will pray that every year on your mother's birthday, that the Glory of God falls on you. You will walk in strength and wisdom. I pray for you, please pray for me.

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  • Tolufunsho LA-NGN

    "there was so much sadness inside her " what goes on inside us is what matters. i pray that those is similar situation will be able to make right decisions and that God will guard our hearts from the lies around us.

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  • latoya raleigh nc

    that is so true tp sometimes its best to go into success later down the road because for simple fact you're more equip with what ever comes your way. i hear so many people jump into stuff and later wish they would have took another route. like the bible says be anxious for nothing. know matter how you want a thing hold out and wait b/c its for your own good.

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  • Janelle Smith Philadelphia Pa 19151

    Every one wish and hope for fame and success ,not understanding the price you have to pay for it. God place a lot of stars on my heart to pray for. He showed me how they are slowly dying from loneliness on the inside because there is no one that they can really trust. Just like with Michael Jackson he was very misunderstood. God showed me that the reason that he wanted kids around is because there heart was sincere and there wasn't any hidden motive with the children he didn't had to watch his back while with them.Plus the things he done for them he knew that they would appreciate it and would take advantage of it. With them he could be who he was not what they expected him to be.When people are lonely they do things that they wouldn't originally do. I sometime dislike what God shows me because it is like everyone that is no longer alive I seen it coming, but by them being stars I could not get close enough to help or talk them through it. I will be praying though for you and everyone else that God has placed in my Spirit. I now know that God don't just place people on your heart for nothing he does that so you can pray for them so every time some say to me you have been on my heart all week I always say did you pray for me and there is never a response. That is why I don't take that lightly when God place people on my heart to pray for them any more because I have realized that this prayer that I pray may be saving someones life. I just believe its time to be Christ like and take one for the team because I am tiered of seeing hurt people suffer in silence. Just because I knows what that feels like so I try to stop people from going through what I had to go through for some reason I am happy when when I see others happy. Much Love to you Tyler,I pray that you will have super natural Joy Peace and a sound mind I pray that God will cover your emotions with think layer of the blood of Jesus cover you mind with the Blood of Jesus. Stay Blessed Janelle

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  • Pamela Schertz, Tx

    Whitney is still in my prayers so is her family.I went to sleep last night listen to Waiting to Exhale album on my IPad.God Bless you Mr.Perry

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  • Debbie Mulcahy-Cugier Chicago Suburb

    Dear Mr Perry, Everyone Needs A Mom. & Once they r gone; there is no other that can fill those shoes. My Mom has been gone for 25 years & I still stop in my tracks when I smell her perfume in public. And I still miss her terribly. I have written a very special poem regarding losing a Mom; I will send it to you, as it is on the home computer. (If u don't mind - it was written on the 2nd Anniversary of my Mothers death) I pray your grief regarding your Mom will be lessened by HIS Promise to us. And I Loved your words about Whitney - with all that she did have - she did appear to still sad. I often wonder if the pressure of Grammy's was just too much for her to take. My Prayer's go out for all who where close to her & especially her daughter. As there is never a good time to lose someone - young people Need A MOM" Thanks for sharing your story. May you know Peace & Find Strength. Sincerely, Debbie

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  • Galina Galanos

    A wonderful way to say how much you loved her, and how much you miss her. Wherever she is, she must be looking on you with love.

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  • Regina Los Angeles

    Mr. Perry, I will continue to pray for her family and hope that her daughter get closer to God and not caught up in the lime light.

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  • caroline M durham.n.c.

    my prayer for Whitneys family: the light of God surrounds you, the love of God enfolds you. the presence and power of God protects, wherever you are God Is. Thanks to Tyler Perry for all you do and give to your fans and the world... LoveLove Caroline .

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  • Ameer Baraka New Orlesns

    I still have my Moma man. She is my all. We joy talk about each other and have a po boy each Friday. How do u live without your moms. I know one day my Moma will die. I hope I can be strong like u. Share next time how u make it without her. Because it will prepare me for that day when my Moma will leave. You have a good heart. We from the same place man. Keep helping people until I get where u r and we can do it together. We can get many to help. This world is not our home. We r kingdom men. Thank man for helping me see that giving up is not a option. C u soon

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  • Mine D.C.

    Inspiring and very nicely written. You are heavenly talented. Love

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  • Adeola Ajax, Canada

    Atimes, I feel like asking God why He allows evil overcome good despite our trust in Him and struggles in life to be the kind of person He created us to be. Whitney's memory will remain fresh in those that has gone through life's battle and still trust in God even when it seems all is lost and life does not worth living. At this time, we need to pray and encourage the family to take solace in their God and think more of the lives she positively impacted while alive and even in death. Tyler, keep on doing your good works. Though your mum is no more but God is always there for you. "God will w*** away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall their be anguish (sorrow or mourning) nor grief nor pain anymore. For the old conditions and the former order of things have passed away. ( Rev. 21:4)" Stay blessed.

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