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Whitney. Still Praying.

For many years, I couldn’t turn my ringer off on my phones because my mother was very ill.  My phone would be on all night. This is tough for me because I’m the type of man who loves to be in pure quiet when I’m home. No TV, no radio, no nothing. Just quiet. Mainly because there is so much noise in my life.

After my mother died in 2009, I started turning my ringer off without the fear of missing a very important call. After you lose someone you love, nothing seems very important. So I was at my house in L.A. last year on February 11th, dreading facing February 12th. That would have been my mother’s 67th birthday. I’m always a little sad around that time but that morning started out okay. I thought I wouldn’t be able to get through the 12th. All I had to do was protect my spirit, let me just leave the TV off and turn the ringer off so that I could not be reminded of the grief that I had been enduring.

I decided to turn in early. I was getting in the bed and my cell kept lighting up. So I finally looked at my phone and I had text about Whitney. The one that was most shocking was a friend who said, “Tell me it’s not true.” I immediately knew what that meant. I tried to call Pat, her sister-in-law, but couldn’t reach her. Within a few minutes Pat called me back and asked me to come down to the hotel.

I went to the Beverly Hilton Hotel, got out of the car and I thought it was some kind of sick joke. There were hundreds of people standing around, laughing, drinking and screaming for autographs from celebrities as they arrived for a Grammy party. People were screaming my name and taking pictures as I pushed through the crowd. I went up to the floor and saw the police and coroners outside of the room. I went into the room and Whitney’s family was broken down, inconsolable. We must have been right above the party because there was a glass of water on the nightstand that was vibrating from the bass and the screams below. It was so surreal. Such a juxtaposed position to see this family breaking down and hear laughter and cheers from below us. It really made me think about her life. While her voice brought so much joy, there was so much sadness inside of her.

As I am seeing all these tributes to her on this one-year anniversary of her death, I want you to know something: Whitney was a fighter. She really tried to get herself together. She really tried to overcome. She really wanted to, and I also know that, like me, a lot of you were praying and rooting for her. So, for all of us that were praying for Whitney’s full recovery, for all of us who cared that she was on this planet, for all of us who loved her, I just want you to know that even though she is gone, there are still things that we can do for her. We can keep her daughter and her family lifted up in prayer. We can also pray for other people in this business, especially these young people who come in so bright eyed and eager, only to have it tear at their very souls.

I thank God I didn’t become successful until I was older. The younger you are when you start in this business, the more at risk you are.  Speaking of that, we can also pray for the children of these people. If you only knew what people in this business have to endure to sit in their seat. I’m not asking you to feel sorry for anyone. I’m simply asking you to pray for us all.

God bless. Miss you Whitney.

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  • sherry price charlotte nc

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  • Veronica E. Hill Dallas, Texas 76376

    net I Can Appreciate This Message And My Prayers Are With All Of You! We Must All Pray For Each Other! God Loves You Tyler Perry! 2-11-2013!

  • Sharon New York

    Dear Tyler, I send my love and prayers to you and to Whitney's family. Word can never express the magnitude of losing a loved one, so just offering a ear to listen, an open heart to care and arms to embrace can mean a great deal to someone in need. I truly miss Whitney. I remember her songs....singing them.....dancing to them....loving them, and loving her. I still cannot believe that she is gone. My heart goes out to Bobbi Kristina. Prayer changes things, I know and believe, and with the constant help from so many who can make the difference, our prayers become the protective force field we need to survive. You, Tyler, have been one to make the difference for Bobbi by opening the door for her to live, despite all of her pain. God bless you! Take care of yourself. I know that your mom is you guardian angel watching over you. Mom's never really leave. Love and Hugs

  • Glendina Nassau, Bahamas

    The lost of a love one is never easy and it is something we will never get use to. Each individual decides on how they will deal with the process. It is also a good idea to recommend a counselor for those who are experiencing depression due to grief. Giving ongoing genuine support along with prayers goes long way. Be encouraged.

  • LaTonya McCarroll Greenville, SC

    Tyler, you are in my prayers, as well as Whitney's entire family. I also will definitely pray for all celebrities. I think many people forget that celebrities are human beings who live just about every moment in the spotlight. In times of pain, I know this is NOT a good thing. We definitely need to stay prayed up for each other. Love, Tonya

  • Ukn

    I am praying for you Mr. Perry and especially for Whitney's Family. Feeling sorry for someone does not help so much but prayer changes things! Losing a mother at such a young age is just unfair and I pray for Bobby Kristina each time I think of her. The best thing we can do is remember the positive legacy Whitney left and leave a positive one for other generations. Each day we are given enough strength for the entire day although it does not always appear that way. When I am at my worst God reminds me that he loves me and he cares for me.

  • Quencella Achan Humble, Texas

    I am truly humbled by today's date. It is a surreal time because I sat a watched the Grammy's last night and I had Ms. Whitney Houston on my mind because the Grammy's brought me back to that evening last year. Ms. Houston is someone who will be so missed I just thank GOD for giving her a platform so that we will always hear her angelic voice and won't forget who she was. A mother, daughter, sister, friend, and one of the greatest voices of all time. I will continue to pray for that family because as I have seen in recent weeks the family is still grief stricken. Being a mother myself I cannot imagine the pain her mother must be going through as I watched her interview with Oprah. God Bless you for remembering her and reminding us of the beautiful person she was. I must go now because this day has brought sadness to my own front door as I have lost a dear friend of 29 years so God Bless the Houston family as well as the McDonald-Baldwin family.

  • Tangelia Campbell Fayetteville,NC 28390

    I have been an avid fan of Ms. Whitney Houston for at least 25 years! I am still a fan of hers, and I will always be until my departure from earth! With that being said - I know that she was an extraordinary person, and she touched many lives, including mine. I remember her one song when I was growing up! Greatest Love Of All ! That One Song Literally change the course of my life when I was a young teen! See my mother God rest her soul- departed from earth when I was a fresh 13! And she was my best friend! The one who I thought was the only person who loved me! Time did reveal that even though my mother loved me dearly! and this is a fact! There we re others who may love you just as much! My earthly father was that person for me! I gave him h*** when he didn't deserve it! but what I'm praying for you Mr. Perry and Bobbie Christina is that you embrace the people who do love so much! They will never replace of your departed loved! But you all should embrace that love ! You know who Loves You!

  • Debbie Lake City, MN

    I was also in such a state of shock, my Husband could not console me as I read the news on my Facebook. I prayed that it was not true, I did not except it for a couple of days, it was like an out of body experiance when I finally heard it on the news, I loved Whitney so much and prayed for her recovery, for I too had gone through some tough times once in my life and I knew the hard road Whitney was traveling. Sometimes you have to go through it to really understand just how very hard recovery is, she had too many people around her who was not in recovery, Sometimes to get well, you have to lose some friends.

  • Janice Marshall Birmingham,Alabama 35214

    When losing a loved one who you really and truly love with all your heart, it is hard to imagine life without them. As time passes the mental anguish gets more subdued. I believe our loved ones are in a much better place now. You are so right. We must keep those left behind lifted in prayer. I know prayer works. We just gotta use it!!! Thank you for thinking of someone other than yourself. Prayers going up right now!!!! Alabama girl believing in the power of prayer.

  • Shirlette Atlanta,GA

    Dear Mr.Perry, I receive your message today and I'm sorry that you had to endue that pain but God has a way of working things out for your good. I too was hurt by the passing of the Queen Mrs.Whitney when I heard I said the same thing I was in tears, Mr. Perry I well be praying every day for all of you cause you right you guys have a very stressful life on a day to day so may God & His Grace & Mercy be with you daily.. (Psalm 91) I read it daily for strength!

  • Brandon Virginia

    It is unbelieveable that we lost a icon and she inspired us with her voice n music n so many ways.... and her songs got me through so many things... it still feels like it just happened yesterday. my soul keeps wondering why we lost a beautiful person like whitney... I pray for her mother cissy because she is a praying warrior n she is a strong fighter n her god is awesome n her beautiful daughter bobbi kris.... she is in my prayers... I will keep u in prayer n keep me in prayer also

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