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Whitney. Still Praying.

For many years, I couldn’t turn my ringer off on my phones because my mother was very ill.  My phone would be on all night. This is tough for me because I’m the type of man who loves to be in pure quiet when I’m home. No TV, no radio, no nothing. Just quiet. Mainly because there is so much noise in my life.

After my mother died in 2009, I started turning my ringer off without the fear of missing a very important call. After you lose someone you love, nothing seems very important. So I was at my house in L.A. last year on February 11th, dreading facing February 12th. That would have been my mother’s 67th birthday. I’m always a little sad around that time but that morning started out okay. I thought I wouldn’t be able to get through the 12th. All I had to do was protect my spirit, let me just leave the TV off and turn the ringer off so that I could not be reminded of the grief that I had been enduring.

I decided to turn in early. I was getting in the bed and my cell kept lighting up. So I finally looked at my phone and I had text about Whitney. The one that was most shocking was a friend who said, “Tell me it’s not true.” I immediately knew what that meant. I tried to call Pat, her sister-in-law, but couldn’t reach her. Within a few minutes Pat called me back and asked me to come down to the hotel.

I went to the Beverly Hilton Hotel, got out of the car and I thought it was some kind of sick joke. There were hundreds of people standing around, laughing, drinking and screaming for autographs from celebrities as they arrived for a Grammy party. People were screaming my name and taking pictures as I pushed through the crowd. I went up to the floor and saw the police and coroners outside of the room. I went into the room and Whitney’s family was broken down, inconsolable. We must have been right above the party because there was a glass of water on the nightstand that was vibrating from the bass and the screams below. It was so surreal. Such a juxtaposed position to see this family breaking down and hear laughter and cheers from below us. It really made me think about her life. While her voice brought so much joy, there was so much sadness inside of her.

As I am seeing all these tributes to her on this one-year anniversary of her death, I want you to know something: Whitney was a fighter. She really tried to get herself together. She really tried to overcome. She really wanted to, and I also know that, like me, a lot of you were praying and rooting for her. So, for all of us that were praying for Whitney’s full recovery, for all of us who cared that she was on this planet, for all of us who loved her, I just want you to know that even though she is gone, there are still things that we can do for her. We can keep her daughter and her family lifted up in prayer. We can also pray for other people in this business, especially these young people who come in so bright eyed and eager, only to have it tear at their very souls.

I thank God I didn’t become successful until I was older. The younger you are when you start in this business, the more at risk you are.  Speaking of that, we can also pray for the children of these people. If you only knew what people in this business have to endure to sit in their seat. I’m not asking you to feel sorry for anyone. I’m simply asking you to pray for us all.

God bless. Miss you Whitney.

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  • Holly Long OK

    Just a note from a longtime fan a sister in Christ, Tyler. I just wanna thank you for walking out our faith continually. You certainly have the gift of Encouragement, and I am so glad that you share it with us.. As an educator of many years, I can tell you we must NEVER underestimate God's gift of being hope - bearers to others! :)

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  • Satarawilliams Miami FL hi

    hi mister Tyler Perry.

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  • LAVADA THOMPSON

    i tyler perry me and my kids really want to meet u we love her shows and by faith to see u oneday jesus love u

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  • RAYONNA

    HI TYLER ......................... MOM LOVE U

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    • RAYONA #1799125

      HI GOODNIGHT MY MOM LOVE U CALL HER

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  • Tyjhae Hawkins Atlanta, georgia

    you said your mama died in 2009, my mama and little sister died in may 2009. i never got to see my little sister. and i miss my mama all the time. my grandma take care of me and im 10 years old now and my brother is 7 years old now and sister is 9 years old now. my grandma cry all the time because she say she miss my mama and sisier, and her mama too. my grand ma try her best to take care of us but she is sick too. she was in the car with my mama and sister when they died. thank you for your movies and play we all like them and they make us laugh a lot. God loves all of us and he take care on me and my grand mama and my sister and my brother because we do good in school.

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    • Simone Seattle #1799069

      You sound SO sweet! I'm sorry for the loss of your Mom and Sister. I'm glad that Jesus will never leave you or forsake you and I know that He'll comfort and strengthen your Grandma too. You kids keep on loving her and pray for her too because you'll be amazed at what God will do. You'll see her smile again. You have a loving Grandma. Caring people cry sometimes from the overflow of their great care and concern for others. These people don't always need you to solve the reason for their tears, they merely need you to hold them while they cry and sincerely care. I can tell that you love your Grandma and want to help heal her hurts. You're doing great! Just keep loving on her. God Bless You and Yours!

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  • Miss Dee US

    Yes, that's a sobering moment and something no one forgets. Forever etched in memory is that final call. The caller that asks "Are you the relative?" The answer given is "Yes" The caller calmly delivers the words not ready to be heard. The finality still hasn't yet registered. A long pause and a bubble of silence.Whether expected or sudden, there is no preparation for this dreaded moment pushed deep down inside like an invisible do not disturb sign. Listening in silence releases what never ever could be expressed in words. When your loved one physically departs this earth you've lost the once visible connection you had. All that remains now is a wall of silence. The once familiar voice is silenced. Your mind travels back to the last conversation on the phone or the last long look with unspoken silence at thier bedside. Love never dies.

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  • Shundra Denise Mcdonough, Ga.

    I just had to say THANK YOU and your cast for your presence in Mcdonough, Ga.! This was an experience that my kids and myself will never forget! thankyou and we love you! Continue to trust God and allow Him to use you, and have Him to guide your footsteps...all of them!

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  • Tasha

    I LOVE YOU!

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  • satara williams MIAMI FLA

    HEY, MR. TYLER PERRY Hope you are Enjoying the Holidays, But I want you to know, that I'm Praying for the Houston Family. And the Family , That Work and Live in the Enertainment WorldWide. THATS ONE OF THE REASON,S WHY I ASK YOU TO HELP ME WITH STORY. TEAR,S OF WOMEN. BECAUES IT WILL GIVE ME A CHANCE TO SAY, I LOVE YOU AND I NEED YOU TO SURVIVES. YOU SEE LOOKING THROUGH A WINDOW OF A LOST SOUL, JUST MAY BE ONE WILL LIVE. LOVE IS A POWER TOOL. SATARA WILLIAMS.

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  • OnaMarie Dallas,Tx

    I wont stop until someone finds it in themselves to hear my plea: "Help me save children in local communities #xTheStigma..no money required. Love, ~OnaMarie

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  • D.R. Usry Virginia

    Thank you Mr. Perry for that compassionate wake up call. You woke me up.

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  • MINE Washington DC

    I LOVE YOU

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