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Whitney. Still Praying.

For many years, I couldn’t turn my ringer off on my phones because my mother was very ill.  My phone would be on all night. This is tough for me because I’m the type of man who loves to be in pure quiet when I’m home. No TV, no radio, no nothing. Just quiet. Mainly because there is so much noise in my life.

After my mother died in 2009, I started turning my ringer off without the fear of missing a very important call. After you lose someone you love, nothing seems very important. So I was at my house in L.A. last year on February 11th, dreading facing February 12th. That would have been my mother’s 67th birthday. I’m always a little sad around that time but that morning started out okay. I thought I wouldn’t be able to get through the 12th. All I had to do was protect my spirit, let me just leave the TV off and turn the ringer off so that I could not be reminded of the grief that I had been enduring.

I decided to turn in early. I was getting in the bed and my cell kept lighting up. So I finally looked at my phone and I had text about Whitney. The one that was most shocking was a friend who said, “Tell me it’s not true.” I immediately knew what that meant. I tried to call Pat, her sister-in-law, but couldn’t reach her. Within a few minutes Pat called me back and asked me to come down to the hotel.

I went to the Beverly Hilton Hotel, got out of the car and I thought it was some kind of sick joke. There were hundreds of people standing around, laughing, drinking and screaming for autographs from celebrities as they arrived for a Grammy party. People were screaming my name and taking pictures as I pushed through the crowd. I went up to the floor and saw the police and coroners outside of the room. I went into the room and Whitney’s family was broken down, inconsolable. We must have been right above the party because there was a glass of water on the nightstand that was vibrating from the bass and the screams below. It was so surreal. Such a juxtaposed position to see this family breaking down and hear laughter and cheers from below us. It really made me think about her life. While her voice brought so much joy, there was so much sadness inside of her.

As I am seeing all these tributes to her on this one-year anniversary of her death, I want you to know something: Whitney was a fighter. She really tried to get herself together. She really tried to overcome. She really wanted to, and I also know that, like me, a lot of you were praying and rooting for her. So, for all of us that were praying for Whitney’s full recovery, for all of us who cared that she was on this planet, for all of us who loved her, I just want you to know that even though she is gone, there are still things that we can do for her. We can keep her daughter and her family lifted up in prayer. We can also pray for other people in this business, especially these young people who come in so bright eyed and eager, only to have it tear at their very souls.

I thank God I didn’t become successful until I was older. The younger you are when you start in this business, the more at risk you are.  Speaking of that, we can also pray for the children of these people. If you only knew what people in this business have to endure to sit in their seat. I’m not asking you to feel sorry for anyone. I’m simply asking you to pray for us all.

God bless. Miss you Whitney.

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  • Trinia Redwine Rome,Ga.

    Tyler you're so right about all that u said..That's how it's starts u have so much when you're younger ..And that's when all H*** break loose ..The Drugs ,drinking and smoking.I think that's what happen to Whitney ..But I don't care how it happen she was a someone's daughter,mother,sister and also she was loved.. As of right now , not 1 day go by I don't listen to her . I Can't go to sleep without lising to Whitney ..My family ask me every day do u not get tired of Whitney Houston , I be like never in my lifetime..So get use to it.. So like said all you can do is Pray ...I do that every day .. Thanks Tyler !!!!

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  • Tracy

    While searching for a particular item on my iPad, I some how became blessed by receiving this face page instead. I read your article, and it bought me to memories of my mother as well. She was a God fearing, strong, will driven, rock of our family. It saddens me because Mother's Day is approaching. It has been three years, but I miss my mother EVERY day. She was informed of her illness and lived six months there after. I say this to point out that grief can be trusted upon you, without any warning, but Our God really prepares us by our believing in Him. Stay prayed up. Love and Peace. Tracy

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  • Elaine Knox Mississippi

    You know,I believe when God take someone home, He's making room for the next special person to come into your life, also if they were sick; He was tired of them suffering.. I believe that your mom, Whitney and my mom was truly special,I don't know much about your mom, but the man you are; says alot about the man she raise.

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  • Elaine Knox Mississippi

    If You will contact me i believe you can find your next Inspiration....Be Blessed Man Of God..

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  • chitownblu ILL

    THE SHE INFLUENCE She glides through the everglades Mounting on the outskirts of the horizon Resting her womb on the banks of the Jordan Praising all that heaven has created Sorrow surrounds her land Still zion yearns for release Escaping to safety beyond her billows Birthing nations who find healing in her words Reaching for new heights While cascading her dreams beyond Lend me your ear As the sights and sounds of womanhood fill the air......SHALOM

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  • terri charlotte nc

    Even me lord even me let some drops.i love acting singing and most of making people laugh tyler i want to audition to be in one of your plays not asking for a whole lot just blessing to be in a play that you created.maybe one day madea and hattie will move into the prijects and go on foodstamps or madea sings in a church choir

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  • terri charlotte nc

    I truly loss my mom october62007 to csncer i left out of durham nc in 20008 i couldnt live there anymore but still have family still there its hard for me when thanksgiving comes around and mothers day but with God to talk to he answer all prayers and comfirt your hearti am prsyer for you tyler that you stay strongone day i am going to be one of your actors

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  • Kimberly Houston, Texas

    Please consider giving me just 1 audition. I love you and you inspire me like u have no idea. Just "One" Audition. I will play any role given to me! I live to do this. And tell my story. I promise you, I have a story like no other. Please just 1.

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  • Dana Lynn Cullman, AL

    Tyler - It's true that these folks in the industry go through hell. Always having someone telling them what to do or what not to do. They sometimes lose themselves. I often think do they dread having gotten to this point of no privacy and having to go to extremes to get to be with their inner selves. I'm sure it's nice to be famous and have talent. Everything has it's ups and downs. But I always put this into perspective with "Elvis". God rest his soul. The life he lead and with no privacy at all. However to this day I still love to see his 68 Comback Special. I hope all entertainers that have gone on do RIP and those struggling get some help and contentment in their lives. I wish I could fix this and bring all those great talents back. In loving memory of them all.

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  • Lacordia Xaba South Africa

    Mmmh! Death leaves a void that no one can close,but then again love leaves memories no one can erase,this is how I choose to remember my late Mother,my Sister and all of my friends. it is so true that time heals everything,it might not be now but eventually ....having said all of this may your Mom's precious soul rest in perfect peace

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  • levi tchongwe East Chicago

    Sorry to hear about the death of your mother and of Whitney, sure the big dreams that our dear sister, how she wanted even to help the upcome youths to venture into her big shows, but now all is perished, it leaves a sad and shocking memory. We will put our faith together and continue praying for her family as well as your business. Even though I was not so close to Whitney, but I am sure she had a heart of going around the world to provide assistance to poor communities, such as school education, medical aid assistance, through her business of music, etc, may her soul rest in peace.

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  • Dorothy Taylor Preston MS

    I am sorry to hear about your Mother and Whitney because I lost my Mother a few years ago and it is still very difficult. I thank God for the time we had together and the wonderful Memories; Filled with so much Joy and Laughter .We are Blessed !!!

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