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What Kind of Person Are You?

I said this in a play once as Madea... LOL. But I thought I'd revisit it as Tyler for those of you who may not have heard it :-)

I have this tree analogy when I think of people in my life, be it friends, family, acquaintances, employees, co-workers, whomever...They are all placed inside what I call my tree test. It goes like this:

Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can't be angry at them, it's just who they are.

There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it's possible that you could lose them. Most times they break away when it's tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can't handle too much weight. But again, you can't be mad with them, it's just who they are.

If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don't let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.

Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots. Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people's lives?

THANK GOD FOR YOUR ROOTS! You may want to call them today or share this message with them and attach your own note saying, "thanks for being my root".

By the way, don't waste your time sending this to a leaf, they won't get it anyway.

Love you,


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  • MONICA SMITH Savannah Georgia

    Tyler, you have no idea that in so many ways even though I'm older than you, you are just like a father to me! Thanks for being obedient to God and always sharing with us what He shares with you! (The daughter you never met)! Monica!

  • Larie Goldsboro, NC

    "Don't bother sending this to a leaf, they won't get it anyway..." LOL

  • monique Netherlands

    I think I have something of all!!!!

  • Deborah the Netherlands Europe

    Thanks Tyler for this leaf message. All leaves are current in my life....except for the rooted leaf...still waiting for him in this life. I am god his beautiful daughter so I am confident that he will come into my life!!!! Love ya

  • Jeanette Maryland

    Good Morning Tyler, Thank you for this message regarding "What Kind Of Person Are You". I'm not going to be modest about this I am a ROOT in other peoples lives but I can't say the same about some of them. I have about seven roots in my life, quite a few branches, and leaves, I don't care to mention. I recall Madea talking about this in the play "Madea Goes To Jail" and I have never forget it. Thank You Tyler for all the wisdom you give and for all the joy you bring into the lives of many. God Bless You and may all of your endeavors be fulfilled. I'm your ROOTED Supporter. Love You, Jeanette

  • erey01 United States

    I consider myself a complete tree. I have learned to be rooted in what I believe is best and right for me although I am continually learning more about this everyday, even through your posts. That also means that when I need to be a leaf in someone's life, I leave - lol, pun intended. There are some people whose trees are so unhealthy that I can't s**** around and watch them waste away. Then, there are times when try as I might to give my strong branches to a another tree/ friend, they don't appreciate it. They carelessly hang on it, ignore it, think that it thinks it's better than their branches and overall, they don't value my extended branches. In those cases, I've learned to take hold of my branches and protect them before they break off or weaken. I still try to nourish other trees in my life unless I see that they want to wither. I try to learn from every situation so my own tree can grow and ultimately, I try to be in the company of trees who want the same kind of air and environment as I do. Thanks for sharing and encouraging us to express ourselves.

    • erey01 United States #1739327

      Not sure why that one word had to be edited. It said that I can't "sit" around...

  • Karen Melbourne, Australia

    I'm so glad I follow you on twitter Mr. Perry, I've had trouble figuring myself out. I know your not a psychiatrist but I just need help with well, me? I'm not sure who I am. I'm the person, that blames myself when certain things happen. I don't know why? I just do. I've realised I'm very emotional when it comes listening to others hardships, its hard to hide my feelings. The problem is I've been a root for my family for a long time, that I'm slowly becoming a leaf and am becoming a compulsive liar, I'm supposed to be helping them and now I'm blaming them. Why am I becoming a leaf?

  • Joy tennessee - currently

    I am blessed to have one root person; it isn't many but I thank God for her. I admire you, Tyler. Keep up the good work - keepin' it real. You depict we Christians the way we should be portrayed - as real and gutsy and fallible, not some sappy Billy Graham character or a Left Behind character! Bravo! my brother!

  • Nicolasa Sandy Springs, GA

    I am a root but sometimes as a "root" I personally tend to feel lonely or average sometimes, I guess since I am the root to the older generation of my family but reading this makes me proud to be a "root".

  • Jashawnda Las Vegas, NV

    This is a really sensitive issue but I have formed them but The Father has saw fit to take them home before me now the faithful five has become 3 but we love each other enough to stand strong.

  • Tierra Beasley Jackson, MS

    Whew!! That's awesome!

  • monique Netherlands

    I think I have from all three something! 30 january 1969

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