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A couple of days ago a storm came through here that was crazy. I’ve never seen that much hail and rain.  It reminded me of when I was living in my old house. Every time there was a bad storm I had to go through some major things to get the lights back on in the house. One time there was a storm so bad that lightning hit the house and all the power went out. I looked across the street and my neighbor had power, so I knew the problem was just in my house.

Stay with me, I’m going somewhere here…

I knew I had to get to the circuit breaker to fix what was going on. Now, in my old house, the breaker box was in the attic, and in order to get to it I had to climb a ladder, go up a flight of stairs and then climb over an air conditioning unit, all the while trying to not step through the ceiling joist or I would go straight through the sheet rock. And imagine trying to do all of this in the dark. But I had to do it if I wanted lights on in my house.

I got to the breaker box and started turning the breakers back on. For those of you who are not up on your DIY (do it yourself, LOL), the circuit breakers protect the house from further damage by turning themselves off if they get too much power or pull too much power to them.

As I was thinking about this yesterday I started thinking about us as people, as souls... me, you and any other human on this planet. What is common about us all is that we all, at one time or another, will go through or have been through a storm, and sometimes the storms are so bad that they turn off circuit breakers in our lives. We can look at others who have gone through the same storm and they are fine, like my neighbor across the street. They had power, but I was in the dark. Same storm, but it affected me differently. Many people can have the same experience and get over it but it affects each of us differently. Never let someone tell you to just get over it because they did. It’s not that simple.

When circuit breakers shut down in our lives they usually turn off to protect us from trauma, but just because they turn off doesn’t mean that they are supposed to stay off. A lot of times we leave them off because we don’t want to do all that is necessary to reach the breaker box to turn them back on. So what happens? We begin to live a life that is not as bright and fulfilling as it was originally designed to be. You just stay in the dark because it’s easier to not go through what you need to go through for healing. Trust me, I’ve been there, lived there for a while until I realized that I wanted all the lights on in my soul. I had to get these breakers back on.

Why am I saying this to you? Well I know that God designed all of us to live the fullest life that we can, to live in the light, love and joy. It is my hope and prayer today that you will start to do the work to turn on some of the breakers that may have been turned off in your life by difficult moments. What do I mean by that? If you have a dream and you stopped dreaming because it got too hard, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on. If you decided that you wouldn’t love anyone else because you’ve been hurt, that’s a breaker that’s been turned off. Turn it back on. If you have decided to give up on life because nothing seems to go right, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on. If you have given up on your kids because they won’t do the right thing, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on.

You see what I mean? Go through your life and look at all the people who have hurt you. Look at all the situations that have left you in the dark. Turn those breakers back on. Live in a full house. One of my favorite scriptures says, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father, which is in heaven.”  Light up your soul!

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  • Apostle Kiplon Taylor East Point, GA

    Bless you man of God, how profound of you to use the circuit breaker as a metaphor too expound life's many hurts, complaints, misgivings and betrayals. I can well identify with this column and know all to well what it is to be hurt by someone, who was supposed to have one's best interest atty heart. Late last year I was engaged to get married and flow in town full of smiles as my then fiancée now wife went down to the count building and obtained a marriage license. We were only days from that blissful day, but little did I know that a hurricane of a storm was brewing in the heart of someone I thought had my back, and the very next day the stoing frm hit landfall. Ironically I had a conversation with the person while I was waiting on my departing flight and all seemed well as we laughed about things and was even asked if they had an invitation to the ceremony, with an overjoyed response "absolutely," only to later find out that,that person hung up with me and called my fiancée and began top release destructive force winds that slapped me in my face after I landed at my mid-point. Still beaming about our upcoming nuptials, was not ready for the staunch I CAN NOT MARRY YOU response coming from the other side of the phone. With for hours of flight time still ahead l of me, I literally felt as if my breath had left my body. I arrived home and walked to my car, devastated beyond measure. Once inside I cried so hard I don't think driving in that moment would've been the right thing to do. What's even worse, is I had to go to work three next day and act like my life was intact. I think I operated on autopilot for days after that, so I know about the circuit breaker kicking off. I didn't develop a cold heat and we were able to work through the debris field and repair the breach and are married today.

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  • Stacey MD

    All I can say is we serve an on time GOD. HE knows when to bring confirmation to your situation. Tyler, all that you said was right on point at this juncture in my life. When I say long long weeping may endure for a night, but that awesome joy comes in the morning. This letter answered so many questions for me. Tyler, keep allowing GOD to use you in a mighty way. You don't know how many lives you have touched or even saved from suicide by being obedient and sharing what was on your heart.

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    • Catina Goldsborough Bridgeton, New Jersey #1807042

      My dearest Tyler (Abraham), You always manage to say the right things at the right time! I know about the life storms that turn out the lights and it seems as though the power will never come on again. You may see others going through the same things, as you mentioned, but yur house (life) seems like it was hit the worse. My life storms came in sets of two. My vision was taken from me around the same time my only aunt, who was like a second mom to me, passed away. then my grandmother and dad passed away a year apart from each other on the same day, Feb. 12th 2007and 2008. this happen to be the birthday of my aunt who passed away before them. I know what that day means to you as well. My vision is returning and I don't feel as though I am finished with my life. I am only forty, but it seemed as though my dreams were not gong to come true...including meeting you. With the grace of god I have found that circuit breaker box and I have turned every light on in my house. all the dreams that the Father has given me will come true...including meeting you. I thought that it would be at the Ball that you were going to plan but I guess I missed it. You were going to plan a Ball to celebrate the opening of your studio and invite a few online family members. I guess that I missed that opportunity. I will mwwt you one day. I don't know when or wehre, but I will. With love and continuous prayer, Catina, your Jersey family and friend

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  • Diane Ohio

    Tyler, I could not have read this message at a better time. I just called my Pastor this morning and told him I wanted to step down from all I was doing. I felt I was doing things just because I had to not because I wanted to and I wasn't finding any enjoyment in my work . Well we had a long talk and to make the story short he told me keep pressing on and not to let satan win. Your story let me know that some of my circuts have turned off and I need to do all I can to get them turned back on. Thank you very much. Diane

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  • cindy GA.

    hi mr. perry i love your email it help me a lot i just lost my mom by read this is helping me .

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  • Shirlette Deveraux Huntsville, Texas

    Hi Tyler: Thank you for your wonderful e-mail today. Believe it or not, I have turned off a lot of breakers in my life lately. Your words of encouragement touched my soul, and I will try to take heed, and do better. Sometimes life's "situations" just seem to kick us all the way down to the curb, and it seems like no one understands or cares. It's just great to know that God is still in charge of all things! Take care, and be blessed.

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  • Becks Dallas, Tx

    I so needed some encouragement right this minute. Thanks for this message. God Bless and I love you.

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  • Kitty Puyallup, WA

    God bless you, Tyler God bless you abundantly!! This is a good message.

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  • Nikole Magnino Bakersfield, CA

    Amen and Hallelujah!! Don't let others or situations take away from what God has already prepared for you and given to you! He made you in a specific way for specific situations. Let His light shine through you!!!!!

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    • Dena Philadelphia #1807085

      God Bless you, Mr. Tyler. We all need encouragement from time to time. Yes, I will keep that breaker on.

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  • Kimberlee West georgia- Villa Rica

    Thank you for your message today. I needed that. It hit home in a hard way. Now I have to crawl around in the attic of my soul and turn on some lights. I'm working on it. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  • Rachel Missouri City Tx. 77489

    Thank you so much for the so needed story of turning the breaker back on I needed it today Because some days I feel like I need to turn my lights back on.

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  • babygirlforeverlovingjah Sunny Florida

    Afternoon Tyler, Hope you r well wanted just 2 say thanks as always fe de words of encouragement U ROCK luved this article u did bout "turn de breaker back on"! Wowow did it ever make sense how u broke it down we are all full of energy and amazing what zaps us of our mystical power within(sometimes prayer,work,sleep, and eat r the only things that occupy our day 2 day lives) u couldn't have broke it down any better may de Lord keep love, life, and Tyler Perry right an dust ya shoulder off when u fail get up and jog ur self right back 2 success cause ur right our mind is what makes us gogogo Can't wait for next play sure need to laugh out loud !!!!! One LOve star blessings and fabulous ideas are upon u so work ur magic Tyler and well hope ur part 2 Alex Cross is a success as well God never really does give us more than we can handle. Ur mi favorite actor(when ur urself +actress when ur Madea das Ma to de DEA)Go Tyler Go Keep it going de World Loves U sir!!!!!!! Raspect big Love Babygirl4evalovingjah

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  • Sherry Lipscomb, AL

    "We can do better" was definitely worth reading. It made me realize that I needed to take a step back and look at my life and what I needed to do in order to take control of my life and find peace. Thank you for taking the time to share such inspirational stories about your life. On a different subject--I know I am late seeing the movie "Good Deeds." However, I just sat down last night and watched it and let me say it was awesome!!!! I loved every bit of it. I loved the role you played.

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