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We Can Do Better!

A couple of days ago a storm came through here that was crazy. I’ve never seen that much hail and rain.  It reminded me of when I was living in my old house. Every time there was a bad storm I had to go through some major things to get the lights back on in the house. One time there was a storm so bad that lightning hit the house and all the power went out. I looked across the street and my neighbor had power, so I knew the problem was just in my house.

Stay with me, I’m going somewhere here…

I knew I had to get to the circuit breaker to fix what was going on. Now, in my old house, the breaker box was in the attic, and in order to get to it I had to climb a ladder, go up a flight of stairs and then climb over an air conditioning unit, all the while trying to not step through the ceiling joist or I would go straight through the sheet rock. And imagine trying to do all of this in the dark. But I had to do it if I wanted lights on in my house.

I got to the breaker box and started turning the breakers back on. For those of you who are not up on your DIY (do it yourself, LOL), the circuit breakers protect the house from further damage by turning themselves off if they get too much power or pull too much power to them.

As I was thinking about this yesterday I started thinking about us as people, as souls... me, you and any other human on this planet. What is common about us all is that we all, at one time or another, will go through or have been through a storm, and sometimes the storms are so bad that they turn off circuit breakers in our lives. We can look at others who have gone through the same storm and they are fine, like my neighbor across the street. They had power, but I was in the dark. Same storm, but it affected me differently. Many people can have the same experience and get over it but it affects each of us differently. Never let someone tell you to just get over it because they did. It’s not that simple.

When circuit breakers shut down in our lives they usually turn off to protect us from trauma, but just because they turn off doesn’t mean that they are supposed to stay off. A lot of times we leave them off because we don’t want to do all that is necessary to reach the breaker box to turn them back on. So what happens? We begin to live a life that is not as bright and fulfilling as it was originally designed to be. You just stay in the dark because it’s easier to not go through what you need to go through for healing. Trust me, I’ve been there, lived there for a while until I realized that I wanted all the lights on in my soul. I had to get these breakers back on.

Why am I saying this to you? Well I know that God designed all of us to live the fullest life that we can, to live in the light, love and joy. It is my hope and prayer today that you will start to do the work to turn on some of the breakers that may have been turned off in your life by difficult moments. What do I mean by that? If you have a dream and you stopped dreaming because it got too hard, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on. If you decided that you wouldn’t love anyone else because you’ve been hurt, that’s a breaker that’s been turned off. Turn it back on. If you have decided to give up on life because nothing seems to go right, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on. If you have given up on your kids because they won’t do the right thing, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on.

You see what I mean? Go through your life and look at all the people who have hurt you. Look at all the situations that have left you in the dark. Turn those breakers back on. Live in a full house. One of my favorite scriptures says, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father, which is in heaven.”  Light up your soul!

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  • Lilliana

    Thank you...that just touch my heart and turn something on. I've been a single parent and not having the right relationship with men. I stayed in a relationship that was not healthy but I stayed because he did for me financially but he was married, had other children and I also have a child by him. He recently was killed and I have not been myself. I've been strong for my child but deep down I am hurt. Now I am just living for my children. But your message touch me and turn something on that I am I can still find true love. Thank you!!!

  • Claudia Texas

    I have always admired you and your words inspire me thank you so much for your words you are truly an angel sent from GOD

  • Bonnie Jo Ithaca, NY

    Hi Tyler, I wanted to take a moment out of my busy day to just say "Thank You". I have purchased all of your movies and all of your plays. I just watched your play, "Madea Gets A Job". Wow! There are a lot of powerful messages in that play. The one that stood out for me the most was when you were talking about how we have to give up are own will and let his will be done. For the longest time I struggled with this. After watching your play, I think I finally "got it". I am currently single and not really dating anyone. I walked away last October from a relationship that I should have walked away from a long time ago. It was not a healthy relationship. I tried to make someone be what they are not. In the process of doing that, I almost destroyed myself. I really feel that when God feels I am ready he will send someone my way. I won't have to go looking for that person. He knows what is best for me, even when I don't. I have been through a lot in my life, some good and some bad. I refuse to allow the bad take over in my life and make me a bitter person. I won't allow the devil to win. I meant for this comment to be short, sorry about that. I get to writing and I can't stop. In closing, your posting about turning breakers back on, really hit home for me. I am so glad I read it. Thank you so very much again, and GOD BLESS!!!!

  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    :-) How your day going, Love? 4th of July!!! LoL!!! :-) OMG!!! What are we gonna do for the rest of the day? Who you working for, Baby? You working for us? Kiss! Thank you Love! You are so amazing. A Dream come true, you are. And so much more. Where we going to eat at tonight? What do you have a taste for? Would u like to get dressed & have dinner there or break it back home? Your Call!

  • Tony Australia

    Right on Tyler! Breakdowns can become Breakthroughs!

  • Meagan Cape Town, South Africa

    Wow... Just reading made me realize how many light were turned off in my life and that I don't want to be in the dark any longer... I know now that it takes a while for you to get to that switch but it's posible, even in the darkest of days. Thank you Mr Perry for that powerful message, It truly touched my heart and gave me a ladder to reach that switch and turn those lights back on.

  • Loleta Springer Annapolis, MD

    This really hit home for me about a few things. Thank you, so much for posting this.

  • Derrick St.louis

    Awesome! Simply awesome testimonial.

  • Andrea

    All I can say is thank you Tyler for showing us how to keep the lights on when there is a storm.

  • Arnita Bryant Omaha, Ne

    Tyler, These words came just on time. I was feeling the pain, despair, tiredness in continueing a much needed program for our children and youth. We are like a ghost town when it comes to providing quality after school programing. I ran my program for a few years now, with my own funds and with the help of small donations. I have went to every donor within the city, including mayor, senator, city, community foundations and over the years they have taken my ideas but to no avail, nothing substantial as of yet, its all political. However I have a waiting list of families wanting our program to continue, so your message made me get up and say ok I will continue this goal of helping our children. Thank You Tyler for the encouraging words of wisdom.

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  • Rhonda Greer Smyrna GA

    Mr Perry you were so on point with your response . I felt it down in my spirit, and I had to glorify God for bringing me through. I pray that you will always be the blessed man that you are, you are an inspiration. Thank you

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