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A couple of days ago a storm came through here that was crazy. I’ve never seen that much hail and rain.  It reminded me of when I was living in my old house. Every time there was a bad storm I had to go through some major things to get the lights back on in the house. One time there was a storm so bad that lightning hit the house and all the power went out. I looked across the street and my neighbor had power, so I knew the problem was just in my house.

Stay with me, I’m going somewhere here…

I knew I had to get to the circuit breaker to fix what was going on. Now, in my old house, the breaker box was in the attic, and in order to get to it I had to climb a ladder, go up a flight of stairs and then climb over an air conditioning unit, all the while trying to not step through the ceiling joist or I would go straight through the sheet rock. And imagine trying to do all of this in the dark. But I had to do it if I wanted lights on in my house.

I got to the breaker box and started turning the breakers back on. For those of you who are not up on your DIY (do it yourself, LOL), the circuit breakers protect the house from further damage by turning themselves off if they get too much power or pull too much power to them.

As I was thinking about this yesterday I started thinking about us as people, as souls... me, you and any other human on this planet. What is common about us all is that we all, at one time or another, will go through or have been through a storm, and sometimes the storms are so bad that they turn off circuit breakers in our lives. We can look at others who have gone through the same storm and they are fine, like my neighbor across the street. They had power, but I was in the dark. Same storm, but it affected me differently. Many people can have the same experience and get over it but it affects each of us differently. Never let someone tell you to just get over it because they did. It’s not that simple.

When circuit breakers shut down in our lives they usually turn off to protect us from trauma, but just because they turn off doesn’t mean that they are supposed to stay off. A lot of times we leave them off because we don’t want to do all that is necessary to reach the breaker box to turn them back on. So what happens? We begin to live a life that is not as bright and fulfilling as it was originally designed to be. You just stay in the dark because it’s easier to not go through what you need to go through for healing. Trust me, I’ve been there, lived there for a while until I realized that I wanted all the lights on in my soul. I had to get these breakers back on.

Why am I saying this to you? Well I know that God designed all of us to live the fullest life that we can, to live in the light, love and joy. It is my hope and prayer today that you will start to do the work to turn on some of the breakers that may have been turned off in your life by difficult moments. What do I mean by that? If you have a dream and you stopped dreaming because it got too hard, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on. If you decided that you wouldn’t love anyone else because you’ve been hurt, that’s a breaker that’s been turned off. Turn it back on. If you have decided to give up on life because nothing seems to go right, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on. If you have given up on your kids because they won’t do the right thing, that’s a breaker that went off. Turn it back on.

You see what I mean? Go through your life and look at all the people who have hurt you. Look at all the situations that have left you in the dark. Turn those breakers back on. Live in a full house. One of my favorite scriptures says, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father, which is in heaven.”  Light up your soul!

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  • Mama Sabine Southgate, MI

    Oops! Almost forgot to share with you: Yesterday my husband and I watched Pastor T.D. Jakes' sermon "Can You hear Me now?" on the internet. Very powerful! It made me think of you. Have a special Monday!

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  • Mama Sabine Southgate, MI

    Thank you so much for your deep reflection, Brother Tyler! I really like your long messages when you share like this! God Bless You so MUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCHHHHHHH!

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  • Bible Book of Job

    Tyler, you are such an inspiration. Your story reminds me of Job. I pray that you get all that your hearts desire as you delight yourself in Christ. Since you have the GREEN LIGHT wherever you are going, can I COME with you? May I COME with you?Job 23:10-11

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  • Marletta Priscilla Fomby downtown atlanta

    Hey Tyler That is a nice story, but we know that it is deeper than just turning on the light. sometimes after turning on that power we still havv to call in a specialist and in waiting it leaves people either despert where they shock themselves to death trying to fix it on their own when they know they dont have all the equptment to fix the problem. or they just up and move leaving that dream to die. See keeping your faith is hard to do for some who never had it before so its easy for them to give up because no one has given them that specialiness that god put us all here to do for each other. people if you see someone in need and just want to give please offer them faith. Because they just need that specialness from you.

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  • Yolanda Lumpkin Palestine, Texas 75803

    All I can say to your comment, is "Amen! Amen!" Can't wait for the new movie, Temptation. I know I am going to see something in that movie that reminds me of my past, some kind of way. You always have a way of making us think. I find something, comforting in that thought. Peace! Good luck. I will be seeeing the movie.

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  • Yvonne East Cleveland, Oh

    Tyler, the encouragement given in your letter "We Can Do Better," is so very needed in these chaotic last days. Today people are experiencing trials and tribulations they never thought they'd be going through. Sometimes we shut down, and that's okay. But there comes a time when we have to get up, brush ourselves off, get back in the fast lane, learn from our horrible experience and keep on pushin'. Sometimes we have to encourage our own self. I remember what an old Jewish man said to me when I shared a discouraging experience with him: eat the fish...spit out the bones. Paul said it even better than that: we go through our trials so that we can help someone else who might be going through the same thing. Thank you Tyler. God has surely blessed you to keep your feet on the ground and in the real world. If you hadn't been through what you've been through, you wouldn't be to speak to us with such wisdom. In All Things We Give Thanks. May He continue to Bless You and Keep You.

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  • Tashema Suwanee, GA

    Its true we all can do better! But, like anything else in life it takes time. We have to allow ourselves to grieve whatever we are feeling and somehow find the courage to move forward. Its not easy to turn the breaker back on when you are scarred, fearful and have lost hope in the future. But, when we courageously take steps each day we eventually realize that we only live once and we should enjoy the time we have alive, and then we slowly began to turn on the breaker. Its a shame that some of us will give up and just s**** with what is normal. I pray that we all continue to dream and live the life that we want. Thank you Tyler for this moving experience. It helps to have others that we look up to - to remind us to continue the journey and not give up!

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  • Phyllis

    Hey Tyler, As a personal rule I vent what I believe I need to release and then I journey through the highs & lows clinging to every glimps of hope that I hold dearly. And there have been some hidden crisis moments. First a separation and then the divore after over two decades of sharing the same life, and believing some of our dreams and goals were real. When I look back at the house which we shared I realized where I lost my identity more then once. And regrouping got harder and harder. I was the only one in the relationship that knew if I ever wanted my children and me to really understand values and happiness. Which sometimes would mean knowing when to let go but not give up. That was back in 2008 and I knew it wasn't going to be this easy road to success and all that I ever dreamed for my children's future and the goals that I would map out for my life. The craziest thing happened which is beyond my understanding. The first few years of my separation I moved to a diferent state all together got a job with in two months and I had my childtren all setup in school. It seemed liked smooth sailing and peace was certainly in the atmosphere. Then somewhere in 2010 things begin to shatter at seemed all at once. Sometimes we never see it coming that big wrecking ball ready to swing and raze your world. With that said, you can imagine the debris from 2. Somehow from all the the darken days I still have dreams I want to accomplish. So glad the flame stays lit as I pursue in 2013.

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  • Ms Proverbs Owings Mills, Maryland

    Hi there Tyler, Good Morning to you sir...Preparing for worship and I wanted to let you know that you are in my prayers ..Thanking God in advance for pouring back into your life as you always share your heart by speaking Life (Word of God) into so many of us....I receive your messages with gladness because I know who is the source (his name is Jesus our Lord and Savior) behind your messages We can never get tired of hearing and receiving the Word of God that is encouraging and uplifting. Yes We are the light of the world a city that is set on an hill cannot be hid (Matthew 5:14-16)While I'm posting this message to you I'm smiling (*-*) Enjoy Your Day Peace & Blessings Ms. Proverbs P.S. Talk to you on Thursday 03/28/2013 :-)

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  • Fee Fee Dallas texas

    I'm sorry. I knew this message was coming. I never meant say get over it because I did. I'm truly sorry. I meant what you said in this message. I know that going through the loss our death of a loved one is not easy. It is very hard. I just hate readin messages when you are sad. It breaks my heart to hear that you are In pain. I pray for peace in your soul. My grandfather shared the same birthday as your mother and when you send yearly reminders, it makes me sad. They died in the same month too. I forget on purpose and try not to think about those days because it always leads me to a very dark place like it does when you think about your mom not being here. I understand. I was selfish for telling you to let it go. I meant well. I just want you to live. We cant bury ourselves with them. You are right. We have to let our light shine. I am happy to hear that you made progress. Im glad you decided to live again. I wish I could hug you right now. I love you and I apologize.

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  • Dawn Garrett 201 st.charles ave

    Everyday I wake up I pray for families in New Orleans especially males. I work with males that have been arrested and trying start all over again. The hardest part about this ministry is that I can find them a job, but the fact that they won't remain drug free brings tears to my eyes. All I want is to see is them do better, however this is a mission that they must achieve for themselves. I give everyone Ephesians 3:20 so that they will know that they posses the power for change, but that power comes only from within. I pray that everyone that comes into my office see CHRIST and not Dawn Garrett for I am only the vessel that he uses to fill them up. Thanks for allowing me to say this may GOD bless you. Dawn Garrett, MSW.CSW

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  • Mark Norris Long Beach, CA

    Tyler, I have been a fan of yours since the beginning. I watch you go from just a household name in some black families homes to a household name in everyone's home. You are blessed because you are constantly being a blessing to others, and this latest message was a BIG blessing to me. I will just say that there are a few "breakers" in my life that have turn off in the last 3 years or so, and partly, because of your letter have I found the strength to turn those suckers back on. I broke down as I read the last paragraph in your message. I did not w*** the tears from my face because I needed to feel every emotional pain that I have been feeling. (*Sigh), thank you my dear brother Tyler for helping me get my life back together, or should I say, turn my breakers back on.

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