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Warning! Be Careful How You Treat Your Children!

In my prayer and quiet time at 5am, I was praying about how to (one day) be the best father that I can be. I have no doubt that I will be a great dad, but as I looked back in my life for an example, all I could remember were all of the horrible things that were said and done to me as a kid. But before I could get sad about it, I remembered something I wrote a while back about "learning in reverse".

If you are like me and had no good examples, then your lesson is in reverse. I learned many years ago that if I do the opposite of what was done and said to me then I have learned how to be a good father some day. Which lead my mind to a line in one of my favorite songs of all time. It's called “Mary Did You Know”. I've written about this before, but I think it's worth sharing again.

The song is about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and in the song the lyrics ask the question, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” Such a powerful question. I want to ask parents this question today. Do you know how special your child is? Do you know who God has put into your house? I know sometimes you think it's just your child but I'm sure many parents of children who went on to change this world had no idea who was sleeping down the hall from them. Be careful, because the child that you delivered may one day have to deliver you. Meaning, the very child that you gave birth to and you took care of in your youth may be the child that has to take care of you as you age. If my mother was alive she would testify, I'm sure.

My prayer for us today:

I pray this morning, oh God, for every parent of children born and yet to be born to have a clearer understanding of the blessing that their child is. I also pray for the safe return of the Nigerian girls. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Have a beautiful day.

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  • Loraine Collins NJ

    So totally agree with this blog, God used my daughter to deliver me into my present and ministry: PoetykPrayz. PoetykPrayz, the ministry that utilizes my poetry, was birthed out of the ashes of my past ...overcoming postpartum depression. "Thank God for My Child" She's my little angel sent from above/My precious little bundle of love/But when I looked at her hands and feet/And realized just how much she needed me/Responsibility gripped with fear/I loved her, love her still/ But the enemy snuck in/With what's classified postpartum syndrome/It's not something faked or imagined by women to receive attention/It was real/A sense of despair was all I could feel/But isn't it funny/Now I miss those ten lil fingers and ten lil toes/Because 'oh how those fingers and toes have grown/Now I miss those ten lil fingers and ten lil toes/Because they don't cling to me as much anymore/And isn't it funny/What the enemy may use to destroy you/ God uses to build your character/For where there was depression/God's restored my joy and laughter/Thank God for my child. © 2008 www.PoetykPrayz.net

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  • thelma francis baltimore maryland 21244

    sorry you have not hard from me I had 3operitons I fill better now , you came up most like me, one day I will set down and we will talk about it ok I been watching the have nots, wonderful show, I like my girl Candace . I send out prayers to sorry you have not heard from me I had 3 operations I been keeping up with you and the haves and the have nots the best after the movie love you miss talking to , you came up the way I did for me as a girl worst please lets set down and talk about one day I might need to barrow the peace maker, keep up the good work love you prophetess Thelma

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  • Daniel W Smith Lexington, NC

    Dear Mr. Tyler Perry First let me tell you a little about myself. I am a disabled vet and owner/operator truck driver. On July 7 1996 God gave me a great gift, a baby girl. With the help of my family I have had custody of her since birth. As a toddler I endured the pain of watching her cry saying her mother don't love he cause she would come visit or pick her up. But through it all I have treys to give her the best of me. If I went on a date with a lady or weekend getaway that lady had to understand my daughter is going to be right there with us. At an early age she took it a pond herself to ask the pastor of our church if she could be baptized which she hadn't spoke to me or my parents about. She became the youngest at our church to be baptized. She became attached to watching religious shows and plays. Then alone came Tyler Perry plays on DVD and the movies. I couldn't watch TV because she wanted to watch them things over and over and over. Surprised the even play as many time as she watched them. Over time she wanted to be the female version of Tyler Perry and decided she wanted to become a film producer. She excelled in school so much that the approached me twice about letting her skip a grade. She attended Davidson County Early College earning an Associate degree. After which she applied at Western Carolina to study film and production. She was able to get a student loan with her grandmother co signing. Now with the start of her second year the bank would not extend a second loan. And I am unable to sign because of bad credit stemming from a fall down my stairs that put me out of work for six months on top of my truck having so many breakdowns. I don't want my daughter to give up on her dreams this is why I am writing you. I was hoping that maybe you had a program where you could pay for her college and in return she sign a contract to work for you till it's paid back. Any help would be greatly appreciate and I would understand if there is nothing you can do Thank you Daniel W. Smith

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  • AG177 LA

    Oh Tyler, it took away my smile when I read you may become sad thinking of those horrible things. Yet, all resulted in the great father you'll be for your child. Not only him, but a huge blessing for us, me at least. You love The Lord, have been called for His purpose, I know, so all I can see is Romans 8:28 - working together for the good. Well, let's just say I trust God's Word. For when my only child died of cancer in my arms recently, Tyler Perry's work was the only thing that made me laugh as I watched her waste away with the excruciating pain of bone cancer. The Potter did an awesome job molding you. Everything played a part. Even the cross you bare. Tyler, it brought healing. I thank The Lord AND You! Blessings galore, His chosen.

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  • Thomese Hollins Beaumont Texas

    What a beautiful post very touching Tyler Perry God Bless You..

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  • Arlisha Trotter Athens

    AMEN! Speechless!

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  • Julie Russell Harlem NY

    I just want to say I love you Tyler and all you stand for...

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  • Heather G United States

    What a beautiful post. Though you wrote it months ago, now you're dad. Humbling isn't it? God was just showing me the other day and this post is another reminder, to treat my children as SACRED. I don't know how else to describe it. They're sacred to HIM and I want to be a better steward of that gift, when my 6 year old is back-talking and my 2 year old is learning to test boundaries. Take deep breath and remember they're sacred to God; they're HIS children too. Love you Tyler! Bountiful Blessings pour over your new family!

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  • Sherrel Ky

    I could have written the prequel to your childhood was exactly like mine

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  • wilma burns humble tx 77338

    This is so true. I don't know what I would do without my 3 wonderful children. Thank you God.

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  • jazmin Francois Hampton ga

    Yes you should watch how you treat them because I know how it feels because my adopted parent called me names and hit me and made me take care of the other foster children while she did nothing i was mommy and she just bought the cood and payed the bills i did there hair for school i cooked cleaned the house i washed there clothes and gave them baths put them to sleep and i was locked up because she told the police officer that she was my legal guardian until I turned 21 but turns out she wasn't and when i was released i went to live with a friend of mine and i have no legal documents providing who i am still working on getting them well God bless you and your work that you do for him you are one amazing man of God

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  • shonna varnville sc

    I always knew that the father of my child would be awsome because of his situation but I was wrong. His childhood wasn't the best but he used to always say he wanted better for his child. Now our daughter is about to turn 7 and he havent been there for her but the up about our situation is she is a straight A student and have been since she's been in school "4 yesrs" she's at the top of her class. She is well known in our county and she meets no strangers everyone loves her and she has been blessed from day one by others besides her father. They call her the local town celebrity. I pray often that he get it together before its to late because I know God has bless me with something extra special I can just fell. I needed to read this passage. Thanks

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