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This Ticked Me Off

I was doing an interview recently and the interviewer asked me why was I glorifying single moms. I explained to him that single moms needed to be celebrated, not ostracized. Most single moms are not that way by choice. Circumstance caused them to be in that situation and just like my Aunt Jerry, who raised four boys by herself, she never complained and never asked for handouts. She did what she had to do. Why hate on single moms? Are you kidding me? I know so many people who were raised by single moms and I know a lot of single moms. It’s the hardest job in the world when you do it right.

So this movie is dedicated to the single moms that are doing it right and a wake up call to the ones who aren’t. You never know who you’re raising.

Let’s be clear: this is not a male-bashing, woe-is-me, I’m-a-single-mother movie. This is a movie about the strength of the single mom. I did this movie to show the world what a lot of you go through. It’s funny, it’s heartfelt, it’s full of hope, but most of all it’s about how coming together can change your life. I want you to go see it, single mom or not.

This movie is important for so many reasons. It celebrates one of the most overlooked people in our country. I just want to say that I see you single moms, I hear you, and to everybody out there that knows one or was raised by one, bring them to the movies tomorrow. Lets show them that we are thankful.

This one’s for you, single moms, HAPPY SINGLE MOTHERS DAY!

Enjoy The Single Moms Club, in theaters tomorrow.

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  • Mitnee Atlanta

    I too am a single mom and I concur, That's Ludicrous! That person must not like his/her mom. Well, it's confirmed that there are still narrow minded people living in this world walking around with their eyes SHUT!

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  • Sandra Papuni New Zealand

    Hi Tyler. Being a single parent doesn't make us less a parent than a couple. We are actually motivated to work twice as much or more than the partnership package. Being a member of a Church group helps tremendously because we're never alone to raise our children. God is the Ultimate Father of us all. If we commit to what we're capable of toward our responsibilities, He will add the increase, or the remainder, if not more, of what we require to balance our household. I am a single mother of 5 boys, and three grandchildren. Fortunately I have adult children in this package who are co-ops with me in raising and providing for this family. Abiding by the articles of faith of our Church, and the family proclamation from God, through our prophets, to the world, we strive to survive, with faith that God is our Provider, therefore, we allow no worldly afflictions to hinder our faith that God will do as His Word has said, to provide for His children. Sometimes God brings about circumstances to bring us to humbleness, as once I was married to a wealthy man who had no time for the things of God, therefore his worldly habbits brought about the distruction of our marriage. But the boys and I are still alive, well sheltered, clothed and fed. We are not wealthy but we are not desolate. We get on with what needs to be done to live as well as we possibly can. It is not because New Zealand is among the good countries, because New Zealand is one of the stinkest paying and most expensive living countries in the world. Most kiwis go to Aussie to find better paying jobs. I wanted to share this with other solo mums, in hope that they'll come to an understanding of how great God's love for us is. Your well being is of vital importance to our God. Money doesn't make us better than others - service to people does.

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  • Melissa Wilkerson Lake Charles, LA

    Mr. Tyler Perry, I recently (an hour or so ago) posted a comment in the "Talk to Me" area stating that I have emailed you a message (my story & a question) and that I wasn't sure if the email address I sent it to was correct, so, before I say my initial comment from your above post, let me first again say please if you did not receive my email message, please send me a quick 1 line email to my email that I gave in the "info" box above just saying you haven't got my email and please, please, please, allow me the privilege of knowing a way to get it to you so that you may personally read it yourself. Now on to the comment I have after reading your post "This Ticked Me Off"..... As you will come to see in the email message I so desperately want to reach you, I am a 34 year old single mother of 2. My daughter is 15 and my son is 12. I was married but my ex-husband was doing things I didn't want myself or my children to be involved in, so we have been separated for over 10 years. So, #1 I deeply appreciate you standing up for us when people try and act like we are wrong for leaving a bad marriage or simply think we are single by choice. HOWEVER, when I happen to run into one of these people that think that women should stay with their childrens father no matter what, I often wonder, why we are the focus of attention when we are the ones gladly sacrificing every day of our lives to raise the children. We (well, most of us) are the ones who have held multiple jobs just so the children can have a stable place to live and food. We are the ones because 75% of us single mothers get ZERO financial support for the children. In my case, I have NEVER gotten even a dime from my ex-husband or any of his family for my children. But, because they are old enough to decide if they want to talk to him or not, I beg him to just be there for them emotionally. But, nope. Their whole life, he will call or email one day, get them to forgive him for not being in touch for the past 8 months, then actively participate in their lives via telephone, email, and facebook for a week to 2 weeks MAX, then guess what, he is unreachable again for another 6 months or greater. I feel as though I am rambling on but I just don't understand why the mothers, the ones that don't abandon the kids, who do whatever necessary to provide emotional, mental, physical, and financial support are the ones that are viewed as wrong? I love my children more than I love myself. I couldn't imagine my life without them. A mother's love is unconditional.

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  • CRYSTAL ATLANTA

    THIS TOUCHED ME BECAUSE I'M A SINGLE PARENT OF ONE AND IT HAS BEEN EXTREMELY HARD RAISING MY SON ALONE ESPECIALLY AFTER HE GOT TO BE A TEENAGER, SOMETIMES I DON'T KNOW IF I AM COMING OR GOING WITH THE STRESS I DEAL WITH RAISING A MAN AND I KNOW NOTHING ABOUT BEING A MAN SO I TIP MY HAT OFF TO THOSE WHO HAVE MORE BECAUSE I THINK I WOULD LOSE MY MIND. BUT I WOULD JUST LIKE TO SAY THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART MR TYLER PERRY. I APPRECIATE ALL THAT YOU DO FOR THE COMMUNITY. YOUR MOVIES AND PLAYS HAVE SHED SO MUCH LIGHT ON SITUATIONS IN OUR COMMUNITY. YOUR MOVIE SINGLE MOMS CLUB WAS AWESOME BECAUSE I COULD RELATE ON SO MANY DIFFERENT LEVELS. THANKS FOR THAT I REALLY APPRECIATE IT. I ALSO WANT TO SAY THANK YOU FOR BEING SUCH A DOWN TO EARTH PERSON AND ALLOWING ME TO TAKE A PICTURE OF YOU.

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  • dorothea Columbia sc

    Hi thanks Mr Perry I watch your shows and plays and movies. And God always have a word in it for me. I to am a single mom of three 19 14 and 8 God helps me every day. Lol laughter is good for me as well keep listening. To God

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  • Traci Dionne Wells South African Citizen

    100

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  • Tasha Marie Rhodes Lady Lake, FL

    Dear Tyler, My mother raised my sister and me the best she could, with no help from the government! She had too much pride! She worked like a dog to put food on the table & clothes on our backs. She had 5 dresses. (one for each day of the week) I was young when I made a pact with myself that I'd never end up alone with 2 kids to support. Never had children. I regret that decision now that I'm in my 50's. So, Dearest Tyler, have your children before it's too late. You'll make a wonderful and beautiful child!!! Love, peace & soul, Tasha

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  • single mom of 2 n.c.

    I am a single mom of 2 and its so hard 2 raise 2 kids by myself. I wish there was a way I could make sure they have school clothes and shoes to wear, we all go on to the beach like other families,get haircuts on a regular basis, have enough food to eat all the time, my oldest needs braces, have gas in my car to get from A to B, I don't nor my youngest have a bed to sleep in, and live in a house where we could be happy and healthy.My so called friends don't help me even though when they was in the situation like I am now with no job I helped them. When you cant do for yourself or for your kids that's the worse feeling a mother can feel. I wish people would stop putting others down that have less than them because at the end of the day that struggling mom cries wondering how she is gonna do this and that. I hate myself for not giving my kids the life they truly deserve because I have some amazing and talented kids. Thank you Tyler for putting out a movie about us Single Moms because its hard for us all the time.......

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  • Michelle Spivey Athens Georgia

    I know thats right, Tyler. i don't think it's by choice on most terms. I have four sons. they are 12, 10, 8 and 6 years old. their father and i are married and there are short term times where i was a single mom. it aint no joke being the only estrogen in the house! lol. then my mother was a single mom as well. she had 3 girls and 1 boy. there is nothing more empowering than being a single mom and achieving morals and values thru your children. its very hard, but we can make it!

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  • TAREICA MOORE charlotte nc

    Hi Tyler I was first wanting to say I am a single mom of four kids my mom raised me as a single parent I have a education and my second baby is about to graduate!!!!***** I am goin thur and wanting to provide a future for my kids please Tyler I would love to b an inspiration an I have awesome story to tell I'm n need but I make sure my kids have wat they need education if u can contact me I would love to tell my story my mom is like madea an instilled n me gods love I remember goin thur goin to movies to see your movies brought an seen all your plays an my kids love u I would looove to meet u my my mom wanna act lol she so funny an real .Tyler so many ppl say u looking for menbecause gods spirit is moving an I WANT him to use me charlotte nc needs yourhelp a lot of innocent young kids dien sad an hope we can make a big impact and manifest knowledge n or community if this never reach u I did try to cry out hope I hear from u feeling excited god is moving!!!!!!

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  • Louise Texas

    Mr. Perry, I have a question. What do you call a married mom, that has a disable husband? A mom that still has to perform all duties as if she were by herself, and still have to care for him?It adds to tiredness, pain, heartache, and just being overwhelmed from taking care of the children. It seems that we don't get stories, movies, or sitcoms written about us and I think it is time. There is so much that we have to do for the ones that we love, and oftentimes lose sight of what we need to do for ourselves. I don't know what God's plans was for my life, but this is the second time I have been in this situation as my first husband has passed on. I will always applaud single moms, but there are some of that aren't single and are still fulfilling the same role.

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  • Ana St Petersburg, FL

    There's so much stigma about being single mom, more so than being divorced. I have not seen the movie and I now have to see it. It is a blessing being a MOM, single or married. God has a design in each of our lives that whatever circumstances you are in, God has a plan. I believe that or I would not have survived being a single Mom of a 13 month old boy who recently was diagnosed this Feb 12 of this year that he will not survive childhood due to a genetic disease called Alpha Mannosidosis. Then, later found out 3 months later that he was misdiagnosed before he was given a bone marrow transplant. I would not be treasuring every moment and living life to the fullest even just running after a 13 month old toddler. I am now curious what I will see in the movie. I rested in God, have my friends and family around me. I hope it is God-Centric.

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