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A Picture is Worth More Than 1000 Words

I was looking through my personal photo album the other day, and I ran across some pictures of my mother from last year. I was looking at her face in these pictures...she was so happy. I had asked her to take a walk with me, as I was trying to get her to do a little exercise. She was so tired since she had just come in from dialysis, but whenever I asked her to do something she would always put on a smile and try it. She and I walked very slowly up her driveway. She was laboring but still so happy. She was telling me how much she loved her house and how thankful she was. She said she never would have imagined being able to live in such a fine house (her words). She said she always wanted to know what it was like to live like Mrs. Chancellor (from "The Young and the Restless") and wondered what it would be like to have a maid and "now I know" she said. We laughed about that for a second and then I asked her how that made her feel... she quickly said "loved." So, as I looked at that picture, I thought about that moment with tears in my eyes and I began to get really sad. Then I looked down at the bottom of the picture and saw the date, it was January 4th 2009.

I asked myself this question, if someone had told me that by the same time next year she would have passed, would I have any regrets? I thought about it for a few seconds and I can honestly say that I have no regrets. With that thought, I felt the greatest sense of peace come over me. I have no regrets. That is the best feeling. I know that I did everything in my power for her. I can truly say there is not one thing I would change. I didn't realize how much of a blessing that was until I thought about it.

I want to ask you that question today. Think about this...if I said to you, by this time next year, someone you love the most will not be here, would you have any regrets?

What a thought, right?

We waste so much time on petty grievances and arguments, being angry about things that don't really matter. If I can tell you anything, it would be to fix the things you have done wrong. We live in so much fear by not telling the people we love how much they mean to us, or never even revealing to them that we love them.

You don't want something to happen to the person you love and not have had to have a chance to fix it. Or, for something to happen and you let that person go to the grave not knowing they were truly loved. The guilt can be overwhelming.

So take some time today to mend some fences and make peace. Give some love and get some love. Even if you try and the other person doesn't want to hear it, you will rest better knowing that you tried to fix it, that you tried to share it. Just knowing you tried, period, is enough to give you peace.

This life is short and no man knows the day or the hour.

Tyler Perry


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  • Stella Nairobi, Kenya

    Well said and understood. I am happy at that part of no regrets. Wow!

  • Norma Sloan Pennsylvania

    Sorry my fingers hit the post button, yeah it amases me f some peoples family is not first in their life, that was one of the values we were taught in our family how important it was for each of us in our family to love and care for other strongly...i thank god for the mother and father i had...tyler may god b with u in yr time of grieving over your mother...i lost mines mother also..no i have no regrets i wish i was with her when her illness struck her suddenly thats the only thought i have...god bless!

  • Norma Sloan Pennslvania

    Tyler...that is unbelievable that some peoples family is not first in tu

  • Kesha M. Royster United States

    The subject of living with no regrets is a tough pill to swallow....but it's doable! I try my hardest not to let petty things get between me,family and close friends. I honestly do my best to apply the scripture that says "don't let the sun go down on your wrath"! So, I try first not to let words that I can't take back escape my lips! And if they do,I try not let the day go by before I go back mend my sometimes judgemental,thoughtless and even truthful but not helpful comments. I wouldn't want those moments spent with them to be my last memory. I've had that happen and it took along time for peace to enter my heart...... I'm a work in progress! K'sh

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