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Here’s a thought (I DON'T WANT YOU TO DO THIS, JUST THINK ABOUT IT). Get into the front seat of your car, then turn your body around. Knees on the front seat with your back on the steering wheel, your face looking toward the trunk. Stay in that position and try to drive the car forward. It’s impossible, right? If by some miracle you do manage to go forward I guarantee you won't get very far. If the car represents our lives then the way we are sitting in the driver's seat represents the way we approach it. It’s really hard to move on when you’re looking the wrong way. There is nothing wrong with the car... what is wrong is the position some of us are sitting in, meaning there is nothing wrong with your life, and you’re just facing the wrong direction.

There are many things that can cause you to be out of alignment with life, but instead of focusing on the many, I’d like to talk about one thing in particular... And that is GUILT.

I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday. He was telling me about all the guilt that he feels. Guilt that his marriage fell apart. Guilt that he doesn’t get to see his kids very often. Guilt that he’s not in a financial position to do more for them. Guilt over the mistakes he’s made in his past. Guilt over lots of money that he wasted doing the wrong things. So much guilt about everything.

I had to stop him and remind him of a few things. What I know about guilt is this: guilt is a tool that is used to destroy you. We all make mistakes. We all have fallen short. We have all disappointed someone, including ourselves at some point. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. It's done. Instead of beating yourself up about it, how about putting that same energy into making sure that it doesn’t happen again and healing anyone who may have been hurt by it?

You can’t let guilt win or consume you. You can’t let it take over your thoughts because if you do, you will start a downward spiral. It’s like this... guilt is the trick that makes you feel that you’re unworthy, and if you feel that you’re unworthy then you will feel that you don’t deserve any good thing to happen to you. And so, as a man thinks so is he. If you think you don’t deserve good things you will never have good things. And when things are falling apart you will feel guilty that they are falling apart. Do you see the cycle? There is no winning here. In order to be free and be lifted you must let go of the guilt or it will keep you bound.

How do you do that? Well, it’s a process, but you start by asking forgiveness of whomever you hurt, ask forgiveness of God, and most of all ask forgiveness of yourself. Although God forgives us most easily, we sometimes can't forgive ourselves. You can’t get to great things ahead if you're always looking behind you. It’s like trying to drive your car in that awkward position.

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  • Robin United States

    I read this on your FB page and felt it was meant just for me. So much of what you said is how I've been feeling for too many years now. Thank you for sharing this and giving me something to think about and a new way of looking at my life.

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  • ingrid pinkett Sacramento, CA

    This is so on point and confirmation for me. I posted something on Facebook a couple of days ago after reflectng on this same topic about 'the past'.. I just had to let somethings go and MOVE ON especially because I'm a thinker and I analyze EVERYTHING.. I've been told that's a trait I can't get rid of being born on September 1......Lol.... I don't usually comment on things like this but I wanted to this time to thank you for sharing I know you hear this allot but your postings have been a wonderful blessing and you're transparent heart has enriched my outlook on the public figures that are in the entertainment industry.. Thank you for just being you...enjoy your day, week and weekend...take care and God bless

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  • Joyce A. Toronto, ON. Canada.

    You're right Tyler. Guilt also renders us lost to love, especially God's love; the one love that can transform our lives. Guilt I think causes us to miss the wonderful opportunity to experience the joy of a new begining and forgiveness...its an awful awful thing. Moving on is easier said than done but definitely worth striving for because IT IS doable.

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  • Tenita Keaton NC

    Thank you for your encouraging words. You bless me when I read your messages. I work with a lot of hurting people. I sure God smiles when he looks down on you.

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  • leona las cruces

    thank you, that was right on time. i needed that

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    Thanks for sharing T! That's some good stuff; and may I add its worded so well put. Again, thanks! Good to know you are safe & fine. I must go & take myself a nap now! :-) lol.. yes, I'm about to get me at least 2 hours in. Lol.... Right on time! ;-)

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  • Regina J virginia

    Thank you for that much need word. You are a blessing from God.

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  • SUSIEQ falmouth

    HI IFORGAVE MY PARENTS THEYWERE BAD ALCOLOHOLCS BUT I LEARNED A GOODLESSONTO FORGIVE THE ONES WHO HURTME IDID FEEL GUILTY FORNOT SEEING THE SIGNSBUT LIKE U SAY TYLER IN YOUR MOVIE MADEAGOES TO JAIL UHAVE TO FORGIVE TO FORGIVE YOUR SELF :)))))

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  • W. Keith Sewell ATL

    Thanks TP, GUILT was the third dream killing principality along with Doubt and Fear I was struggling with. New Beginning.

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    • Dzunisani South Africa #1762570

      Thank you Tyler for such wise words.Its true in order to move on from guilt you have forgive yourself, forgive the people you've hurt and ask forgiveness from God.

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  • T. A.

    Preach Bruh!!

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  • Anabela Pereira Portugal

    ...in that car seat right now...

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  • Nhat Crawford Atlanta

    This was a timely lesson that has given me much needed relief, Mr. Perry. Thank you!

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