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Move On!

Here’s a thought (I DON'T WANT YOU TO DO THIS, JUST THINK ABOUT IT). Get into the front seat of your car, then turn your body around. Knees on the front seat with your back on the steering wheel, your face looking toward the trunk. Stay in that position and try to drive the car forward. It’s impossible, right? If by some miracle you do manage to go forward I guarantee you won't get very far. If the car represents our lives then the way we are sitting in the driver's seat represents the way we approach it. It’s really hard to move on when you’re looking the wrong way. There is nothing wrong with the car... what is wrong is the position some of us are sitting in, meaning there is nothing wrong with your life, and you’re just facing the wrong direction.

There are many things that can cause you to be out of alignment with life, but instead of focusing on the many, I’d like to talk about one thing in particular... And that is GUILT.

I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday. He was telling me about all the guilt that he feels. Guilt that his marriage fell apart. Guilt that he doesn’t get to see his kids very often. Guilt that he’s not in a financial position to do more for them. Guilt over the mistakes he’s made in his past. Guilt over lots of money that he wasted doing the wrong things. So much guilt about everything.

I had to stop him and remind him of a few things. What I know about guilt is this: guilt is a tool that is used to destroy you. We all make mistakes. We all have fallen short. We have all disappointed someone, including ourselves at some point. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. It's done. Instead of beating yourself up about it, how about putting that same energy into making sure that it doesn’t happen again and healing anyone who may have been hurt by it?

You can’t let guilt win or consume you. You can’t let it take over your thoughts because if you do, you will start a downward spiral. It’s like this... guilt is the trick that makes you feel that you’re unworthy, and if you feel that you’re unworthy then you will feel that you don’t deserve any good thing to happen to you. And so, as a man thinks so is he. If you think you don’t deserve good things you will never have good things. And when things are falling apart you will feel guilty that they are falling apart. Do you see the cycle? There is no winning here. In order to be free and be lifted you must let go of the guilt or it will keep you bound.

How do you do that? Well, it’s a process, but you start by asking forgiveness of whomever you hurt, ask forgiveness of God, and most of all ask forgiveness of yourself. Although God forgives us most easily, we sometimes can't forgive ourselves. You can’t get to great things ahead if you're always looking behind you. It’s like trying to drive your car in that awkward position.

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  • Shauntis Bradley Thomson, Georgia

    Great story and it's very true!

  • LyTonya Ford-Smith Rancho Cucamonga , Ca

    Thank You Tyler. I have been dealing with panic attacks for the past week. Reading this article has help me to understand what is happening to me. I have not forgiven myself for several things I feel guilty of. But now I can. THANK YOU

  • Shireen Pray, Montana

    'Move On' couldn't have come at a better time. Now if I can just do it. I too am always giving everyone else the same advice, but get 'stuck' on doing it for myself. But I'm gonna try. Thank You!

  • Becky Fields Grambling, LA

    Thank You is all that I can say right now. I am going to print Move On and place it on my exit door at my house so that I can read it as I am leaving to remind myself that it is alright and I am not by myself and I am right for letting go and moving forward, this is for me and if anybody does not like it then that is their problem and not mine anymore. Thanks so much for reminding me that I need to make myself happy first then I can make someone else happy. Again, thanks.

  • Deborah Simpson Phoenix, AZ

    I've been preaching this for years! I personally had a huge issue in this area - to the point that I felt that I was unforgivable. I didn't speak very often, certainly never initiated a conversation, and never felt I was worthy of an opinion. This also carried on into my personal life. I actually tolerated being in a abusive relationship for over 5 years because I thought I deserved to be beaten, belittled, and abused in any way that I got! What a lie from the Enemy! Straight from the pit of Hell! Even after I was rescued from the abuse, I didn't feel worthy of forgiveness - certainly not God's! You see, I had an abortion. And it wasn't because I was young, or because I didn't know better. I knew full well the choice I was making was to kill a human being that God had entrusted me to protect. But I was the single mother of 3 already, and was just about at the point that I could get a job and get off of welfare. I was 23 years old, and didn't want to wait another 3 years to start MY life. fast forward 3 years, I was the owner of two restaurants and had another baby. I took him to the doctor for his 3 month check up, and everything was fine. The next day, he died. I prayed for the first time since I was 16 years old that day, begging God to take me instead. I told God that I was the one he was mad at. Please don't take it out on this child. And as clearly as if He were next to me I heard Him say, "First of all, I was never mad at you, only disappointed that you didn't trust me more. And secondly, you still don't get it! You don't get to decide who lives or who dies! That's why my name is God, and yours is not." Fast forward again 15 years, and I was a real mess! I was angry at God, and religion - I still hate religion, but for a different reason now. I started going to a great church, then was led to go to ministry school. Then I had a meeting with one of the Pastors. In that 2 hours, I was finally freed! Bottom line, there is NOTHING in your past that God doesn't want to forgive you for - NOTHING! All you have to do is ask and repent (That means don't do it again!), and it's a done deal. When you find yourself feeling guilty about something after that, it's not God, the Holy Spirit, or Angels making you remember that garbage! It truly is Satan. And if you don't believe in Satan, remember this: Just cause you don't believe in trains doesn't mean one won't kill you if you stand on the tracks long enough.

  • LaNora Lewis United States

    Good Mor-Tins, Mr. Perry, First I want to give honor to GOD for using you as an vessel. AMEN Hallelujah (Hallelut-jer) But I sent that request of you, for this reply last Tuesday, October the 16th... via Twitter. Gown check it out, if you don't believe me. YES, it reads: Oh So LaNora Lewis @Tyler Perry S.O.S. You See iT? I know ALL Ya'll You, Madea, Alex and the rest of em' were all busy. Honey I'm just glad you came around. [sings quietly] "He may not come when you want Him, but He'll be there right on time... HE's A hmmm-hmmm-hmmm-hmm-hmm YES HE is!] Thank You Mr. Perry, LaNora P.S. Follow Back on Twitter I would just Die! lbvs

  • Courageous California

    Thanks for posting. Guilt is a weight that's too heavy to carry.

  • Ericka Gonder u

    Amen...words from the wise!

  • Anita

    Very Inspirational you inspire me to keep pushing and moving forward you are my biggest inspiration i believe in fighting the good fight and i believe that's what your doing your words and your films touch the hearts of many keep doing what god has called you to do. Thank You Mr.Perry for your Inspiration May God Continue To Bless You.

  • Victoria Corpus Christi, TX

    Love this message. Well thought out and well-worded. Thanks for this today.

  • Geraldine Mayfield Philadelphia

    Yes Tyler Perry, you are right, guilt is a trick of the enemy. If we focus on God, and what God want us to do with our lives, we will not have time to feel guilty. Everyday praise God, he gives us new mercy!

  • kgomotso south africa

    Thank you. For the wise and beautiful words of wisdom. You are so true its never easy to let go of the. Guilt. But with God anything is possible. And forgiveness too thnx .

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