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Have You Ever Been Cheated On? Have You Ever Cheated or Thought About It?

OK, so one time I had an accident in my car. I was so upset. I had the car towed to the shop and had it repaired. They tried their best to make it like new again. They fixed the damage and repainted the area where the car had been hit. But no matter how they tried to match the paint to the original color, they couldn’t. So every day after that, when I would go to the car, I would always notice that the paint didn’t match. Every time I got into the car I would see that area where the paint was different and it would always remind me of the wreck. And even though the car had been repaired it never rode or drove the same again. 

Later, I found out that because the car had been damaged it was worth less than it was before the damage. I thought about this the other day when I was thinking about people who cheat in relationships. When someone cheats, or you have been cheated on, the relationship is never the same. Sure, you can stay together, work on it and repair it, but every time you take a hard look at your relationship you will be reminded of it. I know many of you reading this understand what I’m talking about. The relationship was once so amazing and new and now has lost its value. You have tried to move on but it’s difficult to trust again. I get it, I SO GET IT!

That’s why I wrote Temptation, my new movie that opens this Friday. I WANT YOU TO SEE IT THIS WEEKEND! In this movie I talk about being tempted, I talk about how to forgive, I talk about how to move on from it, and I also talk about how sometimes the decisions you make when you decide to cheat can stay with you for the rest of your life. This movie is powerful. I showed it to several hundred pastors, then had them over to my house to talk about it and the sentiment was the same. This movie has the power to save relationships. So please go see it this weekend if you can. Bring your husband or your wife, your girlfriends and boyfriends, single's ministries and church groups. The subject matter is too strong for kids but it’s perfect for young adults and older. I can’t wait for you to see it. TEMPTATION OPENS EVERYWHERE THIS FRIDAY. 

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  • Maria Fresno County

    I have been married to an abusive man for about 8 years, and had been separated for over two years. I have always been faithful to him even though at times your mind wanders and thinks that if only you were married to this person, or that person that somehow it would change your current situation. Not only would you be so much happier with this new person, but he would treat you the way God wants you to be treated, the way you deserve to be treated. Thank God I am no longer with this abusive man, and I am on my way to recovery, and making wiser decisions thank you God. I am learning that no man or woman can give you what you are lacking, only God can do that!! God bless you always! :)

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  • Lilliana DMV

    I agree....the relationship is never the same. I've been in a relationship where I knew, I was told but I stayed in the relationship because I love so deeply and there was a child involved. When I love so deeply I hold on to the good memories and good times. I would not ask because I know my heart would of been tarnished so I looked the other way and as long as he was there from time to time, I made the best of it. He was killed and now I am left with mix feelings. My focus is my children...

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  • Beverly Pearson Riverside,R.I.

    Hey Tyler...I'll be there;you know I don't miss none of your "Movies". ;-)

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  • toondeyslim nigeria

    2cheat or b cheated on is so devastating I must confess n can ruin all u v ever worked for or plans for ur future. Really dis loneliness is pushing mi to cheat bt I thk God I v found solace in his words n some gd movies like urs D words in ur movies n d movies generally v bn so inspiring n touching, pls kp up d gd works cos u stood out n u r making a diff so also am praying 2stand out n b a faithful reliable man

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  • Ms. Proverbs Owings Mills, Maryland

    Hey Tyler, Not sure if this is true or not but Congratulations on your engagement :-) Peace & Blessings to the both of you....Ms. Proverbs

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    • Ms. Proverbs Owings Mills, Maryland #1808487

      Oops, I meant to say if this was true Congratulations to the both of you..All the Best! (*-*) Blessings Ms. proverbs

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  • JN CA

    Thank you Tyler! I will make sure I go see this movie. I have been cheated on and didn’t find out until 6 years later. And the reason I found out was because by me being in the military I have to take a DNA test to prove that my 2 girls were mine before they can be put on my insurance. Came to find out that im not the biological father of my oldest daughter. If it wasn’t for that who knows how long she would have keep this secret from me. Lord knows I wanted to kill her after I found out. Im still trying to deal with this but like u said the relationship has never been the same. I always get reminded of it and its very difficult to trust again. So I can really relate to your message.

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  • Fee Fee Texas

    Yup and yes. I had an emotional affair when I was married. He cheated on me. Cheating is a deal breaker for me. Im so glad you went back to helping others. I wish you would have recorded your meeting with the pastors. I would like to hear what they had to say. Alex cross, no sir...we need to walk away with something positive. Stay away from hollywood. If I marry I hope I will never cheat. The foundation must be strong. Foundations can be repaired too but at what cost? Can we afford to repair? I am single because I figure all men cheat so what is the point? I will see the movie next friday. I will not see it opening weekend. Good night.

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  • Stephanie Oxon Hill, MD

    Hello Tyler: It has been a while since my last post. I can't wait to see your new movie Temptations. It seems like it will be "HOT". As always, I congratulate you again on your strength, courage, and challenges you face in writing, directing, producing, etc., movies and plays for your fans to enjoy. I am sure this movie will be successful as well. I will write you after I see the movie on Friday. Take care , and God Bless you and your staff!

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  • stephanie j. holmond GA

    Yes, will be there fRIDAY. But I would like to know-have you even been cheating on Tyler Perry. How recently, if so, how did you deal with it??? And is this the real reason you wrote TEMPTATIONS- THE MOVIE?

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  • Life Changing Lonliness United States

    I am going through this situation at this very moment. We had been together for 15 yrs. He has cheated before and continues to lie about it. It's sad that he just expect me to forgive, forget and say it's all in the past when he keeps repeating the same action. I did all I could to give him trust again during the relationship. This time he says I was the issue, that I didn't treat him as if I loved him. I almost have to agree! After I loved him so many years, the right way, I felt so broken down, being lied to and cheated on once again. I had to let it go. Alcohol played a big part in his life for way too long. Now he's 4 months clean, and not hanging with his buddies anymore. When he had nowhere to go, they had nothing to say. Of course now he's on the right track to being the man he should have been all along and I can't let go of the hurt. He's back in church, the only place to be "fixed". I say this is one of the situations where if it was meant to be, we will be together again. I just PRAY.

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  • ADEOLA Ajax, Canada

    I think people cheat on their partners mostly because they lack discipline or their will power is weak. Most of them will tell you they don't really want to do it but they can just help it. It is better not to cheat than for you to be asking for pardon from the other partner. Once the deed is done it takes Gods grace to forgive, to forget and move on may take Gods SPECIAL GRACE. Is like having a friend that is not trustworthy, why would I keep that kind of friend, it's better I keep the person at arms length and relate when I know it is safe to do so. Relationship should be handled with extra care if really we want to keep and enjoy it. By the time cheating issue is showing up in a relationship, then there is going to be problem. For some its their live and really there is nothing anyone can do about it that's why marriage is no more working and be what God really designed it to be.

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  • Annette Hibbler-Wells

    I know that feeling too well. My husband cheated on me and when I found out he lied, which made the situation worse. My husband is deceased now and although I grieved his death. It wasn't the grief of a wife who deeply loved her husband. It was more like grief for a the man I once knew. The betrayal is unexplainable and the trust is gone no matter how hard you try.

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