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If you can get this, this will change your life… I was out taking my morning run. I love how still it is when I’m running. I can hear clearly and really commune with God. I wanted to share this with you. It’s a lesson I had to learn.

One of the keys to success is to be able to guard your heart. Now, usually when someone says guard your heart they are talking about keeping yourself from heartbreak. Although that is important (as long as you don’t go overboard... but that’s another conversation) that isn’t what I’m talking about. When we are born into this world we enter with such a pure heart but as we grow older situations, circumstances and people tend to make us change. Now I know it is nearly impossible to keep a childlike innocence in our hearts all of our lives, especially after people have betrayed, lied, mistreated and downright been the devil. Trust me when I tell you, I have seen it all. I have been there big time. If you’re like me you’ve been there too. But if this is your situation I want you to know two very important things about those moments of heartbreak. Number one, learn the lesson in it. See how it will work together for your good, because it will. Once you do, it’s easier to forgive and move on. Secondly, and this is just as important as the first one, you must not let that person or people change your heart. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are a giver and someone you have given to misuses your gift, don’t stop giving… just give to someone else. If you are a person that loves people and someone you love hates you, don’t stop loving… love someone else. Eventually, you will find people who appreciate your kindness and your love. Remember this, lots of people have been conditioned to not be able to accept purity of heart. They can’t take it in. Most times it’s not even their fault. It’s just what has happened to them on their journey in life. But don’t let them turn you into one of them. There will be a lot of people in your life who will not appreciate your pureness of heart. If they hurt you don’t stop being you… just be you with someone else.


Why is this so important? Because God blesses you according to what is in your heart. If you are being kind, giving, loving and sharing because it is in your heart and you are not looking for anything in return, then that is a heart that God wants to bless. If you change who you are because you’ve been hurt, then you’ve changed the thing that God wants to bless you according to, and that is your heart. The people who hurt you are not worth that. You can lose everything that you have, but don’t let anybody change your heart.

Tyler

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  • Tracey Blackman Houston Texas

    Thank you Tyler Perry for your encouraging words. What you shared with us is so true!

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  • Ty Virginia

    Hi I guard my heart and mind because it is the right thing to do. Life experiences can and has caused some to protect their heart from hurt. However, that is simply closing the heart. No one can love freely and protect their heart at the same time. I choose to be loving and friendly regardless of how people act towards me. I want to reflect Christ. God is love. God wants us to shine so people can see how good He is! Real love is attractive. I want to believe that is why people say I'm pretty. :-) Keep guarding your heart and mind. I know you have a lot of love in your heart. You share your heart when you post messages. I love to read expressions from the heart. I just got back in Virginia from Maryland. I was there for a baby shower. It was a beautiful time of love, fun and fellowship.

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  • Edwina Memphis, TN

    Hello Tyler. How are you? I am writing to respond to your latest email entitled, "Guard Your Heart and Mind." I SO agree with you....especially the part where you stated that some people just aren't wired to accept purity of heart. And like you said, it probably has a lot to do with their own life experiences (hurt, disappointments, upbringings, etc.) Also, personality/mental disorders can have something to do with their mindsets as well. Unless you understand this about some others, it's easy to get drawn in to their world and to be left feeling confused, hurt, and bitter. People with good hearts are perfect prey for these type of individuals. Right today, in my mid-forties, I am still baffled at how certain persons can take the purest hearts and stomp on them with no regards for other's feelings. Even when you understand why this happens, it keeps you from getting "caught-up," but this type of behavior is still shocking nevertheless. It's human nature for good hearted people to want to give, give, give to those whom they care about. They feel that if they pour their total and complete hearts and souls into another, that the person will reciprocate and will appreciate them. I know from experience that that's not always true. We have to accept the fact that everyone is NOT going to give us the respect and love that we deserve. It's best to be very selective in whom we give our hearts and time to. If a person (whether it be a friend, lover, family member, etc.) isn't emotionally capable of reciprocating the love and respect to another who deserves it, that means that these two individuals are unequally yoked. That makes it impossible to be on one accord. Just like you said Tyler, that's why it is important to move on from people who aren't in tune with or aren't appreciative of your kind heart. No matter how much it hurts to walk away, you'll definitely be better off in the end. Thanks so much Tyler for that inspirational post. Enjoyed it!!

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  • Kim Small Homewood, Illinois

    Wow...I truly needed these words of encouragement. I definitely was at a point where I just didn't want to assist anyone because I've gotten burned too many times. Thanking God that I took the time out to read this. Thank you!

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  • Nethalee Gibson Bahamas

    Wow! I saw this email while I was working on a program for my church, so I thought I will read it later when I’m relaxed. Saturday night I read it and was amazed. Amazed by the fact that no matter how different we are, we all seem to go through the same things. GUARD YOUR HEART! Well, That’s a big one but your two points are very insightful and useful. Currently, I am dealing with several situations that seem to have come to flatten me for life. I’ve been trying to let things roll of my back but I’ve been internalizing everything instead. As a matter of fact, I am flirting with the idea of breaking all ties and association even with people who suppose to be God’s people. I know, IT IS SAD! You are right- Don’t allow others behaviour and attitude to change you. In the end, you will not like the person you have become. And guess what? Those people will still be living it up and smiling. THANKS TYLER and have a great time on the road

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  • Khe-Shan Thomas Brown Newark, NJ soon Atlanta, GA

    I dont always feel the need to comment on things because everything you say seems to come from God directly to me! I read, listen, read again then pray. Thats how I respond, this one got to me though Mr. Perry! You're and amazing soul and God's truly blessed you beyond belief! When Im feeling down and fate is being tested I look to your words of inspiration and know its nothing but God shining thru you! The thing is I am not super religious either! I believe in God and I believe that Jesus Christ has died for our sins. Im not perfect but I know there is a plan for me and one day all will come to light! Thanks for the inspiration, I wish you posted everyday you're like the father I never got to experience! Thanks so much! -Kay

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  • Monica Canada

    Thanks Tyler for such a well-timed message. I was reading your message while listening to Yolanda Adams' "Still I Rise" and it complemented your message so well. Your message was beautiful and very opportune because as I look into my own life and the things that I've endured, I came to the same realization. I am a giver and a loving person and in the past people have taken advantage of that and thrown my love back on my face and for a while it changed me. I was scared to love and be so giving so I shut down and pushed people away. Now, I'm slowly returning to the person I was and was always meant to be. Thank-you Tyler for your beautiful thoughts and insights. God Bless You and keep your messages coming!

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  • BJ Swayne Riverside, Ca

    Mr. Perry, I completely agree with you because I always guard my heart in this way. Something that I learned in my 20’s, is that everyone is not out to get you, but everyone is not for you also. While visiting a former professor, she gave me a copy of a paper titled “Perspective in Life…Wise Advice from Mother Teresa” on it. The entire statement is so true, from the beginning to the end. This is what she said: “People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-Centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the best you’ve got anyway. You see, in the final analysis it is between you and God; it was never between you and them anyway.” ~Mother Teresa~ Mr. Perry, from my heart to yours, God bless you always.

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    I would have lost heart, unless I had believed That I would see the goodness of the Lord In the land of the living. Psalm27-

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    LET the words of my mouth & the meditation of my heart BE ACCEPTABLE in Your sight, O LORD, my strength(rock) & my Redeemer. Search me, O God, & KNOW my heart: try me, & KNOW my thoughts. And see IF there be any wicked way in me, & LEAD me in the way everlasting. Examine me, O Lord, & prove me; try my reigns & my heart. For thou, O God, hast proved us: thou has tried us, as silver is tried... I would have lost heart, unless I had believed That U would see the goodness of the LORD In the land of the living. :-) Wait(in faith) on the Lord; Be of good courage, AND HE SHALL strengthen your heart; WAIT, I say, ON THE LORD! :-) HALLELUJAH!!!!!

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  • Hope Illinois

    When I read this message I was at work, so when I started it brought tears to my eyes. It was something I needed to hear and I think it was God telling me it was going to be OK. Im sooo glad to hae a personal relationship with God, because if not I would be a bitter and mean women and would not be able to forgive as easily. I am so in love with God just because of who he is. Half the things he do for us in our lives he does not have to do, but he does it because he love us. That is so good to know!!!! Thank you Mr. Perry for all your uplifting messages. May God Bless you.

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  • Bethany BartlettQUEEN32 WEST ORLANDO

    +++GOD+++BLESS!I'M CRYING, THANK YOU!I PROMISE I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS MORE THEN YOU WILL EVER NO!THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN!SMILE YOUR COUSIN+QUEEN GETUSFREE+ IN+++JESUS+++NAME I DO PRAY!AMAN +HALLELUJAHER!+

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