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If you can get this, this will change your life… I was out taking my morning run. I love how still it is when I’m running. I can hear clearly and really commune with God. I wanted to share this with you. It’s a lesson I had to learn.

One of the keys to success is to be able to guard your heart. Now, usually when someone says guard your heart they are talking about keeping yourself from heartbreak. Although that is important (as long as you don’t go overboard... but that’s another conversation) that isn’t what I’m talking about. When we are born into this world we enter with such a pure heart but as we grow older situations, circumstances and people tend to make us change. Now I know it is nearly impossible to keep a childlike innocence in our hearts all of our lives, especially after people have betrayed, lied, mistreated and downright been the devil. Trust me when I tell you, I have seen it all. I have been there big time. If you’re like me you’ve been there too. But if this is your situation I want you to know two very important things about those moments of heartbreak. Number one, learn the lesson in it. See how it will work together for your good, because it will. Once you do, it’s easier to forgive and move on. Secondly, and this is just as important as the first one, you must not let that person or people change your heart. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are a giver and someone you have given to misuses your gift, don’t stop giving… just give to someone else. If you are a person that loves people and someone you love hates you, don’t stop loving… love someone else. Eventually, you will find people who appreciate your kindness and your love. Remember this, lots of people have been conditioned to not be able to accept purity of heart. They can’t take it in. Most times it’s not even their fault. It’s just what has happened to them on their journey in life. But don’t let them turn you into one of them. There will be a lot of people in your life who will not appreciate your pureness of heart. If they hurt you don’t stop being you… just be you with someone else.


Why is this so important? Because God blesses you according to what is in your heart. If you are being kind, giving, loving and sharing because it is in your heart and you are not looking for anything in return, then that is a heart that God wants to bless. If you change who you are because you’ve been hurt, then you’ve changed the thing that God wants to bless you according to, and that is your heart. The people who hurt you are not worth that. You can lose everything that you have, but don’t let anybody change your heart.

Tyler

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  • Kayla USA

    I was raped at 13 and didnt tell anyone.As a kid I just ran away. I DIDnt remember it again until I was 25 and wondered why I was bitter. I prayed and ask the Lord to help me forgive him. I found out not to long ago that somebody kill him. I didnt realize I was beautiful until I was about 28 years old. I just say I'm a late bloomer. I never been married afraid of abusive relationships. My time is coming. I am doing well now and ready for that new faze in my life. I am seeking discipline and leadership from a good husband. I always said my husband Must love the Lord.

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    • Chevondria Bell new orleans,la 70127 #1747094

      Hi Tyler you are truly an inspiration to me, as I was going through my divorce I shut down from the world, quit school and everything, here I was 30 with 4kids lefted alone. I remember watching every play and movie of yours and somehow I snapped out of it, It gave me hope, and courage to go on, and now 3 yrs later I have forgiven him and it feels so good. I hated the fact that I was lefted alone again, both of my parents are deceased and I had no one to depend on. God took all my support and taught me to rely on him and I got through it. And I thank God for you and your mind cause you dont how much you encourage another person. God bless you and Thank You

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  • Candace Atlanta

    This message just made a big difference in my thought process. This came at the right time. Thank you.

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  • nicole atlanta

    Love it !

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  • LeAnne Kittrell Ft. Bragg, NC

    I think the world is a better place because of Tyler Perry, and Mama Dia-

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  • Debra Price McKenzie, TN.

    This message was right on time for me. God knew I needed this message at this time in my life and I just wanted to say "Thank You" for this message from God. It was exactly what I needed at this time in my life. I was not only broken-hearted but broken. It wasn't so-called friends who had hurt me so badly, but family Tyler...family who had stabbed me in the back & talked about me even accused me of being a thief. This message is like you wrote it especially to me. I have forgiven them & moved on & I wanted you to know I've let go & let God handle the situation for me. Man have I ever learned from this experience!! Thank you for allowing God to use you to reach people like me. I know you don't know me & probably never will know me but thanks for the inspiration. Just keep on writing & sending me these inspirational messages.

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  • Liska Holness Mt Vernon, NY

    This message came right on time (even though my response is late-so sorry). My heart has been broken in the personal area and is constantly being broken in the job/career area. I feel so weak but the crazy thing about all of this is that I don't know how to hate these people. I find myself from time to time going home in tears. And then this person that I work with disrespected me in such a big way. I just wanna hide away somewhere just for a little while. I do not want to be at the job anymore but I want to walk out on my own cogniscance and not be let go. I know that their plan is to do away with the old and let in the new so I just wanna do it myself sooner than later. Thank you so much for the encouragement. I love you dearly Tyler and may God continually bless you abundantly and overflowing! And I pray that God bring me through all of this successfully... spiritually, literally, mentally and emotionally.

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  • Mattie Bradford Clarksville, TN,

    Mr. Perry, I am inspired by your life and I thank God and pray for you, often. I am a 63 year old student in a Masters' degree program. I made some poor decisions in my life but I learned that I didn't have to let that stop me from accomplishing my dreams. One step at a time, I have through perseverence, written a book andalso about to publish my second one. I know I have to guard my heart but I think that I'm addicted to giving. I get this incredible feeling of satisfaction in doing for others sometimes to the point of overdoing it. Helping others helps me grow and mature. Keep up the good work, Tyler and may God continue to bless your accomplishments.

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  • Chantal La Vita Cape Town, South Africa

    I was really inspired reading this letter. I am a single mom & while I was going through my divorce & a even few years after I was constantly trying to "please people". I felt obligated to ensure my kids kept in contact with my ex husband's family. As I kept telling myself the divorce happened between myself & my ex and I needed to keep my kids connected to their family. Eventually I stopped taking my kids to visit their family because I realized if I didn't make the effort they never bothered to find out how the kids were doing. It took me 7 yrs to come to the realization I was "people pleasing" and needed to stop. I have no one to blame but myself, but during that time God brought some really amazing people into my life. It's when going through a tough time in your life that you realize who your true friends are. Even though divorce goes against my christian beliefs, if given the chance I would never want to go back & change a single thing. God really took me through some character building during that period in my life. I have so much in my life to be grateful for God has really blessed me & my kids & still He continues to. When people ask me what my relationship status is I say I am HAPPILY DIVORCED. I get the odd crazy look or that awkward silence, which is kind of funny. But I am just that ... HAPPY ... many people may see divorce as a "tragedy". I saw mine as a new beginning a new season in my life. It took me from been "dependant on someone else" to been independant. Had I not gone through it I would not have the amazing relationship I do with my kids & friends. But most of all I probably would not have realized that in ALL things I need to thank God for his constant blessing upon my life. I've learnt to embrace & celebrate the big & the small things in my life. My kids & I know what it's like to have everything and then to lose everything & have to start all over again. But now we know to trust & fully rely on God for everything ... there will always be people who will dissapoint & hurt us in our lives & I still continue to have my struggles. And I may not yet be where I want to be ... BUT... I thank God I'm no longer where I used to be.

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  • DeLisa San Jose, CA

    I love you Thank You brought tears cause I can Love Me for who I am @ 54yrs.

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    • Debbie Sutherland Port of Spain Trinidad #1750227

      Tyler i love you your plays and your movies except coloured girls i understood the message but the obsene language i did' nt like stay bless and continue trusting and believing God always keep coming with strong plays like that i wish that you could come to Trinidad though

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  • Marian Anywhere in America

    Hey TeaPea! This is your sister, M. I'm so excited! Why? Because I can send messages again! Wow! There's no way that I can reply to all of your messages you've sent in the past few months. I'll do the best I can. How in the world have you been doing? I see you're taking some time off and that's a good thing. (LOL) Wish I could join you, for real. Yes, the Bible tells us to "Safeguard your heart", (Proverbs 4:23), your figurative heart, what you think about, feel, your actions, etc. Very important. I consider myself to be a ROOT person. Yes indeed! My roots are so deep that I sometimes get strangled. (LOL) Take care. I'll reply to another Message now. Have a great day! your sister M.

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  • Marian Suitland, MD

    This is a test.

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  • Ms Platinumice Greensboro, NC

    Your comment has showed me to keep being who I am. I've wanted to give up on being nice and giving to people because of those who take advantage of my kindness. Now I know that I must keep on giving, just giving to someone else. Also I would like to add that giving comes in so many ways. People always assume that it's money or gifts. You can give of yourself, with your time and efforts to help someone that just needs some help. Amen

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