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If you can get this, this will change your life… I was out taking my morning run. I love how still it is when I’m running. I can hear clearly and really commune with God. I wanted to share this with you. It’s a lesson I had to learn.

One of the keys to success is to be able to guard your heart. Now, usually when someone says guard your heart they are talking about keeping yourself from heartbreak. Although that is important (as long as you don’t go overboard... but that’s another conversation) that isn’t what I’m talking about. When we are born into this world we enter with such a pure heart but as we grow older situations, circumstances and people tend to make us change. Now I know it is nearly impossible to keep a childlike innocence in our hearts all of our lives, especially after people have betrayed, lied, mistreated and downright been the devil. Trust me when I tell you, I have seen it all. I have been there big time. If you’re like me you’ve been there too. But if this is your situation I want you to know two very important things about those moments of heartbreak. Number one, learn the lesson in it. See how it will work together for your good, because it will. Once you do, it’s easier to forgive and move on. Secondly, and this is just as important as the first one, you must not let that person or people change your heart. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are a giver and someone you have given to misuses your gift, don’t stop giving… just give to someone else. If you are a person that loves people and someone you love hates you, don’t stop loving… love someone else. Eventually, you will find people who appreciate your kindness and your love. Remember this, lots of people have been conditioned to not be able to accept purity of heart. They can’t take it in. Most times it’s not even their fault. It’s just what has happened to them on their journey in life. But don’t let them turn you into one of them. There will be a lot of people in your life who will not appreciate your pureness of heart. If they hurt you don’t stop being you… just be you with someone else.


Why is this so important? Because God blesses you according to what is in your heart. If you are being kind, giving, loving and sharing because it is in your heart and you are not looking for anything in return, then that is a heart that God wants to bless. If you change who you are because you’ve been hurt, then you’ve changed the thing that God wants to bless you according to, and that is your heart. The people who hurt you are not worth that. You can lose everything that you have, but don’t let anybody change your heart.

Tyler

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    Don't let anyone change your heart! Tyler, do u know I miss these post like this one from you?! You been on your move & all with your new movie #Temptation; which has been great & important information u have shared with us. How much of it, is your personal Outlook or thoughts? I wonder. Hmmmm. Tyler, are you going thru a transformation at this time? Or have u just recently come out of one? I don't know what u have been thru these last 20+ yrs in business & having to deal with ppl & or etc. However, I appreciate you! :-) And I'm so glad u are around. I don't understand why you don't talk thru just yourself though. I don't understand that. :-) Do know I have given it some thought though. Perhaps, we'll get time to discuss your facial expression & your hand gestures. LOL! I be just smh! Not in a bad way. Just I be wanting to know what's up with you! LOL! Maybe its because I been around just Tai & D'Andre so long. I would be just listening to them over all these years. D'Andre will be the one who does make noise. Tai doesn't. But it still don't mean he ain't the one in there getting D'Andre started. Tai is 18 this year & D'Andre still have many more to go being he is 12! LOL!! Lord Jesus! Would u like to have Tai & D'Andre work for you? They will. You'll just have to show them how it goes. :-) Cause I'm not working for you!! Lol... Lol.. LoL!!!!! I'm just following your butt. LOL! You are very interesting T! I'm really enjoying myself. Which it has taken up a lot of my time. LOL!! That is too funny!!! This is surely a dream come true. LOL!! What u be thinking? Do I be getting on your nerves sometime? I hope not! The truth of the matter is my sons get on my nerves but that doesn't change the fact that I love them. :-) This what I wanna know about you Tyler - are you mean or are you nice? What u say, "a little of both!" I'll let u tell/show me. I wanna know! I guess u say, "this girl wanna know everything!" LOL!!! That I do! :o !!!!! LOL... :-) ...LoL... :-)

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  • Yolonda Paterson,NJ

    Thank you for your heart. I have experienced two heart blows and I stopped to think what brought these experiences to me? I am learning to open my heart after years of hurt. Maybe these experiences are testing the hinges on the door. Your insight helps me to understand the scripture in Proverbs and how to move forward. Thank you Yolonda

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    EVENTUALLY

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    P.S. as for guarding my heart & mind! With u I don't wanna do either. I choose to let it all hang out. You deserve and you are more than worthy. I'm about to explode! LOL... Now stop making me way before I.... This wait is over! Done! Gone a way with! This is NEW & This is NOW! No sorrow to it! :-)

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    :-) T, its raining here. Who likes the rain? That's the one I was making it over to. LoL! :-) I'm looking forward to us playing in the rain together & afterwards warming in each others arms, laughing & talking, enjoying the beauty of Rib2Rib. I want u know that since u like the rain so much; then u will be My Driver, especially when its raining. I will enjoy that, too. Thanks! As for our Cooking Lessons is it gonna be The Mann's? I'm ready to play Air Hockey with u & Mrs Pac-Man! And I'm so ready to get to see any of your work I haven't yet seen, together!!! 2-get-her!!!! :P I do wish I could be with u right NOW! However, Tai gotta finish his Senior year out. You're ready gonna enjoy them both. You will love 'em. And they love you, too! :-) Anyway, u can always come see us or come pick us up on the weekend until that time comes. I would love it very much if u did so. Because Tyler, you no longer live alone! We live with together with you. Do know if by any chance your bed been preoccupied u will need to have it replaced before hand. :-) Thank you Sir TP! :-) :P Yeah, that's what I said & that's what I mean. I trust you will. And stop playing with my feelings & emotions, ok! I'm pretty vulnerable right now just in case you haven't noticed. Just know Im gonna love you & not let u go under no circumstances. Cause I want to! That's why!!! :-) Would u like to know how long I been liking on you? :P ...LoL... Or, how about, how long I plan on liking & loving u thru this life call journey? All I want, need & gotta have is you. All of you! And these are not flattering words. Trust & believe that!!! Are you ready? Cause there is one thing left for you to do & this will be the key. To be continued.... :)

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    Where that AOL, came from I don't know!!!! But it should say, "does take work..."

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    I was on my way to another one of your posting. However, before I could get to the one I had in mind. I came to this one. Which is just as well important. Have u ever felt like a fool? Do u believe that a woman should be submissive? I desire the person to whom I'm to be submissive to & with. I know what it is to HAVE TO BE in control. I dream of being with the man who is worth me submitting to. People don't know this about me but God does. And just because I'm one way doesn't mean I can't be another way. It AOL takes work but I'm willing to work toward that goal. No one said it would be easy. Me being a mother hasn't been easy not one bit! However, when I look back all I can say is, God knows best & he is good & he is faithful & caring & loving. A new job or whatever, that's not of importance to me. What is top on my list is to love, give love, receive love & learn to walk thru this life with the man that loves & care for me as he cares for himself. And for me to see that I respect him. What is more important than that? What is more rewarding than that? What is more beautiful than that? I'll continue this conversation in a little bit. Happy New Yearssssss Tyler. 2013! :-)

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  • Oneisha Johnson

    Amazing, this message was definetly needed Mr. Perry.

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  • Gonzalez Orlando, FL

    I got it..... Thank you Tyler for sharing....

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    These are some very encouraging & useful words/thoughts to remember. :-) I believe the heart matters a lot. I made a huge mistake(I know there's no such thing as big or small mistake) but as I was saying! Lol... After several failures, I ran into another one, like no I didn't do that! Lol... It was after one guy told me f' u & Jesus that I was too outdone. Just a few days later a friend girl & I ran into this guy that I knew since about 5th grade; that I never ever had given him even close to a chance. Even though he was the 1 my mom allowed to take me to my 10th grade military ball. He was/is several years older than myself & wasn't even in high school but my mom felt comfortable with him picking me up & taking me out. Ok, so back to I'm an adult w/ 2 young sons. Friend & I walking thru the store I run into Military Ball guy & we chat a moment, catch up briefly. Keep in mind I'm so outdone by this guy who snap crack pop & say what he says to me. That I immediately tells my friend girl, as her & I were leaving out the store, "maybe I didn't give him a chance, he has a good heart." She wasn't feeling me on that there! Lol... But I keep in mind at this time I still felt my sons needed a man/father-figure in their lives. And for some reason or another I said to myself, he liked me all these years, & I done spend time w/ dudes who ain't cared one way or the other about me. But I never liked him. Never was attracted to him. I just acted out of fear. I started planning a wedding immediately, like in 6 months we done said we do & we don't know if we got the same thing or not. In other words I had decided I wanted to do right. It was 1 month after that I came to myself & was depressed as hell! Worse than I had ever been b4 cause I done married this dude. U talking about feeling like u done failed God. That's y I was depressed, sick, sad, hurt, broken, shocked, u name it! We were already seperated in less than 6mos. I'm talking about for real seperated, like done finished over, no looking back. Lord, what were we thinking. I learned somethings so powerful, just by that experience along that I could have no other way. I learned something, believe me when I tell u. I learned somethings. That no one could have made me see without that experience. I just thought I would share that with u on today! :-) And that's been over 51/2 yrs ago. Right on! :-) ttyl.... :P LoL...

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  • Ms Carr Atlanta, GA

    WOW...... Just speechless. This was definitely for me.

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  • Junell Marrero

    That is who I am. I made a promise that I would not let a love lost stop me from loving. I saw it as a journey in my life, a path that God put me through to get where I'm and is going. It was a trial to test and mold me into who I am and where Iam going. I do learn and grow from my trials. Besides, to allow yourself to love and forgive is strength.

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