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Guard Your Heart and Mind

If you can get this, this will change your life… I was out taking my morning run. I love how still it is when I’m running. I can hear clearly and really commune with God. I wanted to share this with you. It’s a lesson I had to learn.

One of the keys to success is to be able to guard your heart. Now, usually when someone says guard your heart they are talking about keeping yourself from heartbreak. Although that is important (as long as you don’t go overboard... but that’s another conversation) that isn’t what I’m talking about. When we are born into this world we enter with such a pure heart but as we grow older situations, circumstances and people tend to make us change. Now I know it is nearly impossible to keep a childlike innocence in our hearts all of our lives, especially after people have betrayed, lied, mistreated and downright been the devil. Trust me when I tell you, I have seen it all. I have been there big time. If you’re like me you’ve been there too. But if this is your situation I want you to know two very important things about those moments of heartbreak. Number one, learn the lesson in it. See how it will work together for your good, because it will. Once you do, it’s easier to forgive and move on. Secondly, and this is just as important as the first one, you must not let that person or people change your heart. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are a giver and someone you have given to misuses your gift, don’t stop giving… just give to someone else. If you are a person that loves people and someone you love hates you, don’t stop loving… love someone else. Eventually, you will find people who appreciate your kindness and your love. Remember this, lots of people have been conditioned to not be able to accept purity of heart. They can’t take it in. Most times it’s not even their fault. It’s just what has happened to them on their journey in life. But don’t let them turn you into one of them. There will be a lot of people in your life who will not appreciate your pureness of heart. If they hurt you don’t stop being you… just be you with someone else.

Why is this so important? Because God blesses you according to what is in your heart. If you are being kind, giving, loving and sharing because it is in your heart and you are not looking for anything in return, then that is a heart that God wants to bless. If you change who you are because you’ve been hurt, then you’ve changed the thing that God wants to bless you according to, and that is your heart. The people who hurt you are not worth that. You can lose everything that you have, but don’t let anybody change your heart.


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  • BeBlessed70 texas

    Wow! Talk about an 'on-time' word! This spoke directly to me...at just the right time! My God has heard my prayer...and used you to confirm the message. Thank you!

  • natasha United States

    Thanks for that advice and I know that that message had me in mind. I am really crying because what you wrote is me in a nut shell giving not asking in return helping just because and i love helping making a difference no matter big or small it's just who in am i can't help it. Thank you , be blessed

  • TTurner Birmingham, AL

    Tyler, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I have been tearing at myself the past couple days about this subject. I've had some things that have taken place in my life that had started to make me doubt myself and God. I have been praying all day and night for some understanding and he brought it through you. Right now I can barely see through my tears because I'm so grateful that he used someone who doesnt know my story to reach me. May he continue to bless you.

  • Tina williamston,nc

    It's seems as tho you know me, thank you some much for talking to me. CONFIRMATION!!!!!! I will not stop lovin or givin, I will always do what GOD will have me to do no matter what. MAY GOD CONTINUE TO USE YOU TO HELP ME AND SOME MANY OTHERS LIKE ME! LOVE YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Janice Moore Atlanta, GA

    Tyler, there you go again...letting God use you. I needed this confirmation today because I had a situation just this morning that has filled me with anxiety. I have been searching for my lesson all day. Thank you and May God continue to use and bless you.

    • brenda Atlanta #1738205

      Tyler you have me crying cause I talked to God today on my route and that's exactly what I talked to Him about. Thank you so much for those strong words of encouragement. It means a lot right now. I will change who I give to love and do for. Just me and my kids. One one of your plays you said never give up on love and I told God I would never give up on love. It(LOVE) is the greatest gift in the Bible.

  • Jacinda Nashville, TN

    Tyler Perry, you were speaking to ME, whether you knew it or not. I admire you and your message and heart. Thank you sooo much. You could have begun your message with Jacinda... It is exactly what i needed to hear. God obviously used you to give me a word. Who wouldve thought? Bless you.

  • Ols Greensboro

    Thank you the message really hit home for me. I was in tears.. I have been really having it ruff but that message was inspiring. Thank you for reminding me to turn the other cheek and continue to show love in the face of the heat.. To contine live in the pureness of hearts.. Take Care TP Love ols

  • JoAnn United States

    Thanks Tyler! Your emails and wisdom is always timely and applicable to me... it's as if you are my guardian angel watching over me! Thank you again, for a wonderful email. I'll always love mom but from now on I promise to share myself with people who truly love and care for me.

  • Katrele Cesar Chesapeake

    Your message of guarding your heart reminded me of a conversation I had with my sister. She asked me why do people use and abuse people with big hearts, I started sing the Monica song, "Don't take it personal." I told her one way to guard her heart, because it is so big, is to not take what people say or do personal. I told her it's easier to laugh and give the situation to God than to hold on to it and allow it to become a distraction. I also reminded her if they did it to Jesus, they are going to do it to her. People are fickle, selfish, and honestly just don't know any better. At the end of the day, we need to guard our hearts by being anchored in the Word of God. Be Blessed

  • SimoniaMeChelle Memphis,Tn.

    Tyler those were some moving words, I just Love U!!! Sincerely Simmy ; )

  • Patsy aka Stormy013 Northampton, MA

    Dear Tyler, I have a dear friend in prison ( he actually has a masters in Ministry due to my love of the Lord) but we just spoke about this situation. For years my mom's hated me, for years I told her I loved her ( walking w/God of course-which my mom does not). Anyways, this past June, she came to my place & left me, took every one else out to eat, just left me. Came bk after their dinner w/out me & started to insult me. As she stated all her insults towards me I was crying & shaking. I mean she put me back to a place like I was a child. She made me feel like she did yrs ago. So, my friend in prison said, well did you answer her with Gods love? I am not sure, because as she was leaving she asked me, "What do you have against me?" Against her? Nothing! She has always insulted me, treated me like dirt. I was thrown in the streets at 15 yrs old. So I went outside & said I just want to know, "why don't you love me, what did I do to deserve that, you love Sandee ( my baby sister)." Well needless to say she clammed up & as I stood out there crying hysterically. So you are right. If some1 doesn't love you, Love another. I poured all that love on to my son, his friends, my Childrens Ministry & God. Plus, my teaching of the Word to prisoners. I am talking murderers that have changed their whole life & went to school in prison to be ministers. So, God Bless You. By the way God always confirms His Word. Thank You.

  • Edward

    This really ministered to my Spirit! God Bless You!!!

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