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Guard Your Heart and Mind

If you can get this, this will change your life… I was out taking my morning run. I love how still it is when I’m running. I can hear clearly and really commune with God. I wanted to share this with you. It’s a lesson I had to learn.

One of the keys to success is to be able to guard your heart. Now, usually when someone says guard your heart they are talking about keeping yourself from heartbreak. Although that is important (as long as you don’t go overboard... but that’s another conversation) that isn’t what I’m talking about. When we are born into this world we enter with such a pure heart but as we grow older situations, circumstances and people tend to make us change. Now I know it is nearly impossible to keep a childlike innocence in our hearts all of our lives, especially after people have betrayed, lied, mistreated and downright been the devil. Trust me when I tell you, I have seen it all. I have been there big time. If you’re like me you’ve been there too. But if this is your situation I want you to know two very important things about those moments of heartbreak. Number one, learn the lesson in it. See how it will work together for your good, because it will. Once you do, it’s easier to forgive and move on. Secondly, and this is just as important as the first one, you must not let that person or people change your heart. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are a giver and someone you have given to misuses your gift, don’t stop giving… just give to someone else. If you are a person that loves people and someone you love hates you, don’t stop loving… love someone else. Eventually, you will find people who appreciate your kindness and your love. Remember this, lots of people have been conditioned to not be able to accept purity of heart. They can’t take it in. Most times it’s not even their fault. It’s just what has happened to them on their journey in life. But don’t let them turn you into one of them. There will be a lot of people in your life who will not appreciate your pureness of heart. If they hurt you don’t stop being you… just be you with someone else.

Why is this so important? Because God blesses you according to what is in your heart. If you are being kind, giving, loving and sharing because it is in your heart and you are not looking for anything in return, then that is a heart that God wants to bless. If you change who you are because you’ve been hurt, then you’ve changed the thing that God wants to bless you according to, and that is your heart. The people who hurt you are not worth that. You can lose everything that you have, but don’t let anybody change your heart.


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  • Kevin Memphis,TN

    I wanted to make a comment on the statement by Tyler Perry which read, "God blesses you according to what is in your heart." First off, I would like to know what scripture is that from. Second, I don't believe this is true that God blesses you according to what is in your heart. The Bible "clearly" states that the rain falls on the just and the unjust. So what that tells me is that just people get blessed (pure heart) and unjust people get blessed (bad heart). It is really getting out of hand with people throw out these "catchy phrases" that sound good like this one made by TP and we just say Amen because it sounds good. The truth is God decides who He wants to bless and who He does not. There are so many examples in the Bible about God blessing people who did not have good hearts. The Bible even says in Romans, God showed His greatest love in sending us Jesus while we were yet sinners." So, God sent HIS BEST IN JESUS while we quote on quote had bad hearts (sinners) We just need to be careful about giving our Amen to stuff that sounds good but it not scripture. Does God bless "sometimes" according to what is in your heart, yes. But, THAT IS NOT a condition in order to be blessed.

    • Derrick Db. Coleman Houston, TX #1738434

      OMG, I'm all for that, but sir, the man was just sharing an encouraging word , and here you go being all deep, Lawd .. Calm down !!!!!

  • monique matthews milwaukee, wi

    I really appreciate this artical. I do have a good heart & even though I have been hurt by my spouse, family, & friends more times than anyone one should have to ever suffer through; I still remain being optimistic, loving, caring, forgiving, and true! But sometimes I wonder if I should turn it all off sometimes because nobody seems to appreciate it! But my two children & GOD & maybe that's all that matters but I'm just tiered of giving love & not being loved! But I'm gonna remain paitient & wait for GOD to send me a man who deserves me & my heart :)

  • satara williams MIAMI FLA

    HI, MR TYLER PERRY SATARA response; thank you I will . I know it is the pure in heart that see GOD. so if I won,t to see the father face to face. I need to love with a pure heart.

  • Regina Baltimore , Maryland

    Purity of heart God gives us. As we start pull the Forbidden fruit from the tree of life. Our purity Of heart starts to vanish. We begin to taste from The tree of Good and Evil. The forbidden fruits Consist of deceit , anger, harming your brethren Stealing, , sexual perversion .....and the List goes on. But here is the Good news. Purity of heart can be re-establish . Just believe in the Healing power of our mighty God. He will restore you to wholeness . The taste of the forbidden fruit will cease to exist . Only the Good will Be your life. Allow God to Guard your heart. He will do a much better Job At it then we will ever do. Peace

  • Jennifer Smith Pembroke Pines, Florida

    Jennifer's Response: Tyler Perry, thank you for the emotional-felt inspirational message. Without a doubt, wholeheartedly, I agree with you. Because of God's Being, His Character, God, will bless you for giving your readers such upliftment, leading into the weekend, knowing that you care. An upliftment that I'm grateful for. Jennifer, God Sent Inspiring Author. Detour Project shipped part two to you, landing date forecast, Monday the tenth.

  • Kelli Maryland

    You betta PREACH!!! This message really blessed me just now. Keep using your resources to plant seeds of positivity.

  • Shorty B Bop Washington, DC

    I totally agree Mr. Perry. And another problem I have with people is that they do stuff for me, and I am very appreciated, like I will kiss the floor they walk on and they stab me right in the center of my back. Now, that HURTS. I am going thru that as we speak/write. I have been BLESSED so many times, and now I really need to be BLESSED because I'm getting kick out of my place of residents. My cousin is throwing me out. I don't blame her, I am unemployeed, I have had 2 or 3 temporary jobs and I just can't contribute. I am currently attending college will be starting my 2nd semester in October, and I'm trying to figure out how am I going to attend college on campus and online and I have no where elese to live. I'm sorry I didn't mean to type all of this. I just got carried away in my feelings. Thank you.

  • Jaime Smith Turlock, CA

    That is a very good word, Pastor Perry (j/k)! Thank you for speaking to the heart, for getting to the heart of the matter. This is exactly what I need to hear today...exactly what I need to keep going. Not everyone is going to get me, but God does and I need to keep doing what I do for him. God bless you!

  • Bonita Atlanta

    Thank you for the message. You are so right you can not let the people that has hurt you make you harden your heart. It is much easier to be the person you are in your heart than the person you are not.

  • Yaima Naples,FL

    Incredible!!! Just had a bad experience in which almost doubted myself and looking for anwers in mind I found your words all together telling me NOT TO STOP BELIEVING IN MY DREAMS!!! Thanks, you're special.

  • April McNair United States

    Coach Tyler....this is so true.....You cannot be defeated by what happens to you, only by what happens within you.

  • Peaches Atlanta

    Your message is confirmation to an issue that I have been fighting with for several months. Back in February, my dream job turned into a nightmare. I had given all my time, energy and sacrificed my social and family time to stay focused and succeed in my career. When I was let go without any fault of my own I was devastated. I became angry and resentful. I prayed, prayed and prayed for GOD to grant me with understanding, strength and to allow forgiveness. Prayer helped to ease the disappointment, but the thought of the betrayal kept haunting me. So, to guard my heart I said I would not allow myself to get wrapped up into another person's vision or dream, and never to trust anyone. As I thought about it, this could be more damaging to me than to the person I want to protect myself from. I realized that I couldn't be a mean person, close myself off to others in any setting or shut down. It's not me. No matter how much I would like to be cold toward people, I am not built this way. I am a good person, hardworking, loyal with a great and giving heart. So, I have to be who I am, but to be cautious and aware that everyone doesn't deserve my loyalty or me, and to continue to be the woman that GOD allowed me to become. I thought this position was good for me, but GOD has something greater in mind, so I need to continue on his path laid out before me. Also, in the end, it was revealed that my anger was directed at the wrong person, because my closest ally initiated the betrayal. You live, learn, forgive and move on. So, thank you TP for putting it all into perspective. I hope all is well;)

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