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Guard Your Heart and Mind

If you can get this, this will change your life… I was out taking my morning run. I love how still it is when I’m running. I can hear clearly and really commune with God. I wanted to share this with you. It’s a lesson I had to learn.

One of the keys to success is to be able to guard your heart. Now, usually when someone says guard your heart they are talking about keeping yourself from heartbreak. Although that is important (as long as you don’t go overboard... but that’s another conversation) that isn’t what I’m talking about. When we are born into this world we enter with such a pure heart but as we grow older situations, circumstances and people tend to make us change. Now I know it is nearly impossible to keep a childlike innocence in our hearts all of our lives, especially after people have betrayed, lied, mistreated and downright been the devil. Trust me when I tell you, I have seen it all. I have been there big time. If you’re like me you’ve been there too. But if this is your situation I want you to know two very important things about those moments of heartbreak. Number one, learn the lesson in it. See how it will work together for your good, because it will. Once you do, it’s easier to forgive and move on. Secondly, and this is just as important as the first one, you must not let that person or people change your heart. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are a giver and someone you have given to misuses your gift, don’t stop giving… just give to someone else. If you are a person that loves people and someone you love hates you, don’t stop loving… love someone else. Eventually, you will find people who appreciate your kindness and your love. Remember this, lots of people have been conditioned to not be able to accept purity of heart. They can’t take it in. Most times it’s not even their fault. It’s just what has happened to them on their journey in life. But don’t let them turn you into one of them. There will be a lot of people in your life who will not appreciate your pureness of heart. If they hurt you don’t stop being you… just be you with someone else.

Why is this so important? Because God blesses you according to what is in your heart. If you are being kind, giving, loving and sharing because it is in your heart and you are not looking for anything in return, then that is a heart that God wants to bless. If you change who you are because you’ve been hurt, then you’ve changed the thing that God wants to bless you according to, and that is your heart. The people who hurt you are not worth that. You can lose everything that you have, but don’t let anybody change your heart.


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  • Bethany BartlettQUEEN32 WEST ORLANDO


  • satara williams MIAMI FLA

    HI , TYLER PERRY please look at this video. it going bless you. on youtube mslisha 0284 type in that code. this is my pure heart. from me to you. its the video on top.

  • Journey

    When I read this message it touched my heart so because of the trials of attacks I go through as a christian. Most of the attacks are from certain family members and no matter what I do to be supportive, help, or not judge anyone they turn their anger, jealousy, and etc. on me or make negative remarks about me or my kids, which hurts more because they are suppose to be my family and that touches my heart. But no matter what I will still stand strong!

  • Felicia Boone Portsmouth, Va

    Thank you Tyler for this. Because I have been through some terrible things in my life. And I want you to know that I never did change who I am even though people did some horrible things to me in my life. I learned from every experience I have ever gone through. I Thank God for everything I go through because It makes me a stronger person everytime I go through a situation. May God Bless you Tyler. Take Care, Sincerly, Felicia Boone.

  • Lisa

    Thank you, Tyler, for the "Guard Your Heart" message. God bless you always. Lisa

  • Tonya North Carolina

    What is the significance of the names "Tonya" and "Giles" used in your work?

  • Ora Ohio

    Hello Tyler, Thank you for your words on guarding your heart. I'm right there at this moment; trying to move on. I have forgiven but I want forget.There had to be something that I needed to learn. You said in one of your plays, when you ask God for some things you are asking for heart break before you actually get it. Because you have to be at a certain place in your own life to receive it.True...true.. true. What I have learned, is just because I may have had people unworthy in my life; I don't have to let them shatter who Iam. Secondly, not to lash out on others who are innocent because of what somebody else has done. Which mean: give yourself time to heal. People sometimes take the cowards way out. They can't or want lash out on the person that truly hurt them; but will take it out on someone else.

  • Annette Gibraltar

    Im going for a jog down the trail something I havent done in about three months. Thanks Tyler ! Ive been alittle mind boggled lately.

  • V.Warner San AntonioTX

    The doctor is in the house and you have ordered the right prescription. I know exactly what you are talking about T.P. I lost my self in a man once and I knew that If I was not able to recognize myself then I was sure that my freinds, family, kids, and God himself didnt recognize me as well. I was ashamed of myself. I realized that man/marriage of 14 years was not the man God had for me. When I finally let go and decided to let God, I found myself blessing him soon after our finalized divorce. He thought that if I would give of myself and bless him with a little gas money, then the door to everything else would re-open. Of course the though ran through my mind, "that @#%! is just trying to take advantage of me all over again", and I knew I could'nt let into my heart again. I felt so good about my self when I informed him that I was no longer his wife and was no longer required to meet his marital needs but I decided to bless him with them little $30 for petrol. I also reminded him that I still loved him, because God required me to but am now lmited to what I will do. Then I decided to educate him by reminding him that love is not a feeling or an emotion. It is what you do without second guessing who you are nor focusing on your cirmcumstances that would discourage you from being a blessing to someone. The words he said next blew my mind. He said, he always thought that I would be there for him. Then he went on to apoligize for not being the man that I needed him to be. See I would've kept giving he would've kept taking. He extracted all that I had over that 14 year period. After the divorce I thougth, finally I dont have to worry about this man anymore, but God showed me differently. He showed me to be a blessing to him no matter what his intentions were, God re-assured me that He has shown me who He needs me to be, and now that I found my-self again (THE GIVER), all I was suppose to do was walk in obedience and let Him take care of the rest. In the real world, looking through the eyes of the worldly, I should've been the bitter and broken woman who would have reserved the right to tell him to kiss my grASS!!!, but I overcame that. I blessed that man and indeed blessed my Father and He instantly let me know that with sudden peace in my heart.

  • Veltee Davis Fort Worth, TX

    Humm.... I need to forgive a person that don't know what they did to me.. It changed me into not giving like I use to. I knew when I stop giving what would happen. And it did. I only have myself to blame. But, I really need to move on. Thanks for pulling me off this road.

  • Beverly hall Savannah

    Oh my God! Thanks so much Tyler, that is actually how things were and I've gotten to the place of forgiveness to those that have treated me that way throughout my life and I have move on to giving to others. I believe my heart is pure when wanting to help and give to others. The business that I currently have, God gave it to me to build by trying to help others. All of my life I've always tried to find ways to help or do for others, now I have the vehicle to do that. Thanks again for the words of wisdom and encouragement! God Bless!

  • Temi LA

    As always, I have caught a glimpse again of your grounded stance and YOU ARE SO SO RIGHT... I bet that is why the GREATEST BOOK OF ALL TIME: BIBLE says to guard our heart with all diligent for out of it follow the issues of life. Truth be Told?.... ave had my still moment.. when I just get so mad about users greed... but like you said, we must not allow others to define us: ACTIONS AND BEING. And?.. Bless God for God.. who always causeth us to triumph!!. I wrote a poem some years back that centred on HEART BREAK... in the process I discovered that it was a treasurable gift to Love... irrespective of Break ups and heart breaks... NOT TO LOVE AT ALL.. IS THE CURSE in EXISTENCE. Thank you again for this piece of your heart... AND I Celebrate again... Your mother: MAXINE: that groomed such a great heart and gave you the greatest gift in all TIMES (before, now and hereafter)...JESUS. Its all Seeds Tyler... and I always remind myself... That it is more Blessed to Give.. than to Receive.... I will guard my heart and wont change my person...!!!! hugs

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