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Guard Your Heart and Mind

If you can get this, this will change your life… I was out taking my morning run. I love how still it is when I’m running. I can hear clearly and really commune with God. I wanted to share this with you. It’s a lesson I had to learn.

One of the keys to success is to be able to guard your heart. Now, usually when someone says guard your heart they are talking about keeping yourself from heartbreak. Although that is important (as long as you don’t go overboard... but that’s another conversation) that isn’t what I’m talking about. When we are born into this world we enter with such a pure heart but as we grow older situations, circumstances and people tend to make us change. Now I know it is nearly impossible to keep a childlike innocence in our hearts all of our lives, especially after people have betrayed, lied, mistreated and downright been the devil. Trust me when I tell you, I have seen it all. I have been there big time. If you’re like me you’ve been there too. But if this is your situation I want you to know two very important things about those moments of heartbreak. Number one, learn the lesson in it. See how it will work together for your good, because it will. Once you do, it’s easier to forgive and move on. Secondly, and this is just as important as the first one, you must not let that person or people change your heart. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are a giver and someone you have given to misuses your gift, don’t stop giving… just give to someone else. If you are a person that loves people and someone you love hates you, don’t stop loving… love someone else. Eventually, you will find people who appreciate your kindness and your love. Remember this, lots of people have been conditioned to not be able to accept purity of heart. They can’t take it in. Most times it’s not even their fault. It’s just what has happened to them on their journey in life. But don’t let them turn you into one of them. There will be a lot of people in your life who will not appreciate your pureness of heart. If they hurt you don’t stop being you… just be you with someone else.


Why is this so important? Because God blesses you according to what is in your heart. If you are being kind, giving, loving and sharing because it is in your heart and you are not looking for anything in return, then that is a heart that God wants to bless. If you change who you are because you’ve been hurt, then you’ve changed the thing that God wants to bless you according to, and that is your heart. The people who hurt you are not worth that. You can lose everything that you have, but don’t let anybody change your heart.

Tyler

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  • withheld Chicago

    Tyler, If I could ask you one question this is what I would ask you: Back when you were living in your car and trying to make your play a success you spoke with your father on the phone and let him have it for all that had gone on before. You then stated there was a pause on the phone and then your father stated he loves you. It seemed to be authentic and sincere from what I read. If I understand this correctly this was the defining moment where you let go of all that pain and forgave him. The sign following was that your shows sold out and you went on to greatness in the true and best sense of the word. Thus, here is my question: what if your father simply hung up on you or asked you not to call him ever again??? Do you think you would be where you are today regardless of this alternate ending??? Or do you think you would have reached peace and forgiveness eventually??? Just curious.

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  • withheld Chicago

    Tyler, p.s. One more thought. I see you have your critics who do not understand your work. They simply "don't get it". Do not take it personally. Every great pioneer or leader faced tremendous adversity. Look at Jesus. He even asked why some hated him so much? They even came to get him in the garden of Garden of Gethsemane with weapons. He asked why they treating him like a violent criminal when they could have pulled him aside in the morning where they could find him teaching in the main square. You have a pure heart and others have responded to that. Look at your following. I know sometimes all it takes is one negative comment to bring you down. But don't buy it. Only you can make you feel bad. Keep up all your good work. Truth, Wisdom, Love and Sincerity, to ALL mankind.

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  • withheld Chicago

    Tyler, I just wanted to say thank God for you. You are bringing so much comfort and healing into the world. I am at the most difficult time in my life and your articles and movies are bringing me so much comfort. I feel you "get it" because you have been there too and you found your way out with the grace of God. I am up late watching Madea's Big Happy Family after working with your article"Guard your Heart and Mind". If you read this please take this moment and realize the sacredness of all your great work that is helping so many people. Thank you! I just had the thank you as I feel the goodness in your writings. God bless you. I know he already has!

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    :-) Don't stop giving!... Don't stop loving!... If they hurt you Don't stop being you... Just be you with someone else. Don't let anyone change your heart! :-) Thanks for my heart, too! LoL! :P LoL... LoL... Only you! Only you! LoL... :-) Well, today your New Movie, Temptation came out in theaters. Lol! The thing is this: How did I go see it yesterday/last night then?! Lol!! Another 1st if I can remember correctly. And I'm also wondering just how your day is going? Well, I must cut my nephew's hair. Lol!! You know, I be busy talking to you & I be making them wait. Or I just be reading my thoughts. I just used your site as my Notebook Tyler. Lol!! I been telling you for the longest I hope you didn't mind. And I don't mean any harm. But I'm sure glad its here. :-) Lol... And if you sit up there & keep allowing other ppl to read my stuff. Like I don't know or something. I was born just not yesterday. Lol!!! :-) Guess who my Coach is? Madea! It's not you Tyler! Lol!!! Madea talking about: come over here & let Tyler seduce you. Lol!! Anyway, Alright... I'll get back with you. Oh, you alright know, I live all over the house & the bed. Lol!!! OMG! Who is this Girl/Woman here? If you wanna know you must find out for yourself. Ok, thank you. Love you, you Root! :o !!!! #Blessed #IAm! :-) #Blessed #WeAre #Blessed #YouAre. #LoveNeverFails :-)

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  • Hattie Williams 3232 w Madison apt 201 Chicago ill,60624

    Thank you mr.perry I get it not never understood .... But now I do again thank you I love every move & play that you come out with...keep doing what you are doing and I pray to GOD that he keep on blessing you

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    I love you, Baby! Song: "Here & Now" LoL!!!! LIKE OMG JESUS!!! :-) Smile. When u smile...when u laugh I laugh too.... :-)

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    And in my eyes, their is no one in this whole wide world that even come close to comparing you with. I can only imagine. LoL lol :-). Your love shines thru the darkest nights. It leaps over & thru walls. Your touch is like heaven. I ain't gonna even mention the sound of your laughter & your smile (my cheeks). It's like ...Mmmm good the real thang! LoL!!! :o :-) LoL!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Lol lol lol... Mr I'm So Serious Tyler Perry, the Love of my life. :P

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    Who is Tyler Perry in ' one word'? Tyler Perry is "EFFECTIVENESS"! :-) ...LoL... :-) I love you, too!

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    It's no time soon that I'm asking to have grand children. I'm in no rush at this time. I actually feel the need to want to get out & enjoy. I wanna do that with you Tyler. Would u like to do that together? Would u like & care to do that together for the rest of our lives? :-) I can't see us doing it with anyone other than yourself. It was in 2005, when I first laid eyes on you & heard your voice. What year are we in now T? Lol! :-) Even within that time lots of things have happen. Most importantly, :-) I heard this beautiful, wisdom, handsome, greatest smile I've seen since my own father. This guys who is Tyler Perry. He prayers, he's like no other. It's you & I wouldn't mind sharing our lives with you Tyler. Only God could have done such thing/things. Only the Father! Cause I still love you. And I believe I love you even more. Will you love me/us as only I believe that you can/will? It's a joy & a happiness. :-) ...LoL... :-) Kiss & Hug. I'll put forth my best effort to love you back. And care for you & respect you & love you & cherish you & bless you & enjoy you & embrace you. And forgive me. I love you, too Tyler! LOL :-)

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    Good Morning Tyler, question: When u been away com Aldo, Peter, Paul & Mary for a length of time. How do our babies greet you? :-) And how do u greet each of them? Which one runs to you first? Or do they each do? What do yall do with each other when seeing each other? I ask these question with the thought in mind - you said, "they love you unconditionally." Well, with me having two sons & for all these years of not really being apart besides the holidays & summers at Paulette's house. And I would show up there cause I missed them so much. :-) Here lately, we haven't been apart like talking about it. And they both are getting up there in age. And have learned to do things on their own. Well, I'm more accepting of them doing it for themselves now. Wow! It's been 18 yrs. I'll be 40 this May. I won't say, 40 is old because I wanna live & enjoy getting older. Like meeting my/our daughter in laws & taking time with my grand kids & hopefully the first one will be a baby girl. :-) These are the type of things I prayed for during some really tough times. Stuff like this. LoL!!! :-)

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    I enjoy you TP! :-) And to have you know me & enjoy me, & love me is 1 of the best 3 prizes in the whole wide world. Tyler, Tai, & D'Andre. :-) ...LoL... :-) Kiss & Hug

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  • Sheneith Hawkins Dallas,Tx.

    :-) Heart! LoL! :-)

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