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This Is For Frustrated Dreamers

I was driving in to work this morning and I started thinking about all the days I dreaded going to work. I was so sick of it… the job, my boss, the people I worked with, the traffic… I would wake up angry every morning. I didn’t want to deal with the crap of the job, but I was forced to go. I had been homeless, I was broke, living paycheck to hopefully the next paycheck. I couldn’t take a day off for fear I would get fired. I was just frustrated. I thought I hated my life and the job.

It was so aggravating because God had placed all these dreams and hopes in my soul and mind and I had no idea how they were going to come to pass. To have a dream of being something better and living better than the way I was at that moment and to not see a way of getting there felt like death to me. I thought, “Dear God, why would you give me so much hope and not make a way?” But what I learned through prayer was, with no path in front of you and no road map… this is where true faith begins. With faith I realized that I wasn’t frustrated with my life or the job, I was frustrated because I was a person who had dreams for myself, a person who had visions for my life and I wasn’t living it. Have you ever been there, where you felt so strongly that there was more to this life than what you see in front of you?

One of the most difficult things about being a dreamer is the fear that the dream will never happen. I’m here as a living witness to tell you your dreams can come true. You can’t give up. And I am here to let you know that everything can work together for your good. The time that you are spending on that job that you think is a dead end is not. You’re being prepared just like I was. I was a shoeshine boy, I worked as a bill collector, a used car salesman, in housekeeping in a hotel, and they all were preparation for where I am now.

What do these things have to do with where I am now? I’m glad you asked. I am able to use skills that I learned. I shined shoes, so I know how to shine my shoes if I need them to look nice. Selling used cars was a great way to learn how to close a deal. Bill collecting taught me great negotiation skills. Working at that 5-star hotel taught me a lot about travel. Every experience in your life is here to teach you something.

Today, while you’re at work, don’t be frustrated. Look around you and ask God what are you there to learn and how will it be a part of your future dream. Honor that job, do the best you can at it, because God will bless you for honoring something that belongs to another. 

I hope this inspires you today. If you need a little more inspiration then watch my first sit-down interview in years with Oprah on Oprah's Next Chapter. It airs this Sunday on OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network at 9/8c. I talk a little about not giving up. I know it will move you.

Here’s a prayer for today: “God help me hold on, help me to get to what I dream of, help me to honor where I am today so that I can appreciate where I will be tomorrow. In Jesus' name.”

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  • Chanelle

    i feel a emotion of relief by this post. i recently just graduated with my MBA. I HAVE BEEN TRULY DISAPPOINTED WITH LIFE. being in my mid twenties i am starting to see thr harsh reality of how my generation is in huge debt from student loans, less work experience than other generations and stuck in jobs that could have been obtsined with a high school diploma. i am in this situation like many others and im starting to be a victim of depression but a survivor of several suicide attempts due to my frustration and anger of lost hope of even being able to begin my career. i have recently just started treatment with a mental health professional and slowly starting to regain my hope and self esteem back. i have been trying non stop to be hired at a start to my career and with no luck my spirits have crushed. when your younger people dismiss your frustrations with saying things like well you have the rest of your life to find success. which could be true.. but when your constanly dreaming and waking up to nightmares i often question what is the point of my life. this posting was very uplifting. thank you

  • Pat Currently in Columbus, OH

    Some have me labeled as a baby boomer...hint...hint...gives you an idea of my age. With age comes wisdom. This message made me think about my very humble beginnings and thinking during those times when I didn't have enough bus fare to get to work in NYC or to have enough to pay rent and the list goes on. Those experiences make you stronger, not to mention, helps to keep you leaner. You then appreciate what you do have later on in life. Now the funny thing is when you get what you thought would make you happy, you realize it doesn't really mean that much later on in life...what really matters is having your health, family and friends part of your life. The rest is just not that important. When you get older, those who shared a part of your life may not be around anymore. What I've learned to do is in the worse of times, share a SMILE, because whatever is happening in your life or to others around you, it's all in God's plan for you and to help you carry out the mission you are born into this world for and we are all here to help each other. If you're in a challenging position right now, start Smiling...because you will then know this is a test from God' to help you move to the next level.

  • Sheila Kenya

    Tyler this story has just uplifted my spirit because am in a position right now where all doors seems to be closed. I have been called into ministry but ministering to people without money is not easy. I enjoy ministering to the youth because i never had anyone to show me the way of the Lord when i was young. i use my testimony to encourage many but i have reached that point am asking the Lord who will encourage me at this point where all doors are closed. I read your life story and the abuse you went through as a child and i realized its similar to mine and more. May God continue using you to lead many to the way of the cross because its the best that has ever happened to me. when all seems blurrr, JESUS CHRIST is my present help in times of need.

  • Carla cleveland,oh and a dime

    Tyler , I feel ya.... I worked for a company for three years alheimers facility, we were overworked and underpaid the residents would beat us up and down LOL it was a journey as well as and adventure, my hours was six thirty until three pm , I loved that I adjusted to the time , because I love the early morning for meditation and praying, any who , the only thing I was concern bout was the leadership the HR, Admin. ect. they wanted a paycheck that it that is all we had so many residents died from neglect from so call leadership, I am aware of most protocol in nursing I have over ten years of experience, anyway , a patient fell on me and I was fired any way , I had made up in my mind to be the best caregiver , I know what you send out returns back, also I do have compassion for people who needs care, we never know what position we are going to be in , due to trails and testing?

  • ELLIE W. Collinswood, NJ 08107

    WOW, Mr. Perry. You totally spoke to my heart today in your comment "this for frustrated dreamers". I have had the same sentimemts in my heart. God has given me ideas for movie theaters yet i dont know where to go with or what to do. I went to "invent help" but they want too much money that i dont have. So God what do i do? Thanks for sharing your heart with me. It helped alot. May the Lord continue to use you and bless you. Looking forward to what Hes going to do in my life. Your sister in Christ, Ellie

  • Monica Elliott Jacksonville

    Tyler Perry... I just want to thank u and thank God for u... this is a rain Day in Jacksonville,Fl... and I was just sitting here and God lead me to see how life was looking for u and I look you up .... and you gave me a smile today reading your comment ... I lose my job in Oct. 2012 still haven't found a job and door close but my faith and knowing that God got me make me know something is on the way just not in my time in his time ... because when I was at work I want to see how it would be to be off... and now I have been off I am still not happy... for where I am ... but your words of hope tell me to hold on... I fell like my life is holding on to the tree... and the wind is blowing ... I was holding on to the trunk of the tree and now I am hold on to a branch... fun how life takes us...But faith will make us know how to rejoice,,,thank you for the words of hope as I hold on to this branch..love you for being you.

  • M. Maryland

    Hello TeaPea! (stranger) It's been a good while since you last heard from me. Use an older browser so I couldn't send messages. Been doing well, in spite of a few woes and trials, but Almighty GOD really is GOOD and He got me through them. I won't let this be a long message because it could be. There's so much happening in this world. It's a wonder we're still here. God's TIME is near! Just want you to know that I haven't abandoned you (completely) yet. Take care and I'll write again soon. your sister, M.

  • Evang:Cynthia T. Martin Greenville S.C.

    I first give praise an honor t0 my lord and Savior Jesus who is first in my life!Im here because it has been predestain even before the foundation of this world. I was born to a mother which I didn't get to no because @ 5 yrs old ,where I was born in Charlotte N.C,My mother went to get my 5 month old bro,some milk an left us with baby sitter,she didn't return because she was murdered that morn,it was 5 of us we was split up, and my life became a living he--, @ 7 yrs old 1st raped by a foster parent,then @ 10 put in a home the lady son couldn't read .he would eat dog food from can an make me watch him ejaclalate an touch,@ 14 yrs old locked in basement ,tire by ankels an sold to men got pregnant an carry it full turn @ 9 mos ,the lady stuck me with a s**** I almost died but had a beautiful baby girl, but she took her away an said she drown her cause I couldn't have her because the man was a business man that rape me an he paid her to get rid of it, I couldn't go to hospital or tell or tey would lock me up.I had so much pain,hurt,bitterness,anger,an hate, I ran away was on drugs hitting the pipe doing everything,people call me everthing but a child of God, thank God today I am a child of the most high King! I for gave those people,I gave them to Jesus, I got Joy,Peace, An Im bold in the word! he"s not threw with me yet!

  • Willie Mewborn Durham, NC

    You are talking directly to me. I am at a job that is a dead end. I barely make enough to make it. Because of the way I conduct myself all my co-workers really believe that I am wealthy. I often cry out to God to make me wealthy so that I can accomplish my dreams, goals and wishes in life. He can't just give me all this talent and let it go to waste on a dead end job. If you will please contact me. I heard you say on Oprah's Own that you were looking for writers. I am a writer and I need your expertise to help me put some of my work on television. I want to become a great screen writer. I have published about 4-5 books and I would love to promote them. I would love to do more with my writing and travel the country motivating and inspiring others to be all they can be.

  • Gloria Harris St. Louis Mo 63134

    Hi Mr. Tyler Perry How are you? fine I pray By the grace of 'God. I read your article and felt your heart because I to am/was a frustrated dreamer,'My name is Gloria,I am saved santified filled with the holy ghost so....proud to say. I raised four children's by myself. I been working all my life for taking care of my children, and my self, one of my kids passed away giving up all hope after Barry's death But I had a praying mother and God on my side. My children are grown and gone now.I have always had dreams of owning my own (Day care Center). but raising my kids trying to keep life in perspected by the grace and mercy of 'God I could not persue that dream. Now i can go forword with my dream. I have been seeking for grants on the internet and not having any results nor progress but i refuse to give up because I no there is a 'God, and the thing is he is able I am in the hospital field have been all my life taking care of people i believe in my heart that is my calling. Mr. Perry by you being a man of 'God and a bussiness man can you provide me with some advice in what direction's to go i don't no the first thing about bussiness.One of my member's at church told me to go and have bussiness cards made up and i did.(GOD'S LITTLE ANGEL DAY CARE CENTER) so can you please tell me how too get or go by opening up a day care center my dream is to have more than one day care center. I love your movie's your play's they are meaniful about life and 'God, living,holding on, having Jesus in your life with out him we are lost.And not never giving up. God give's every body a gift you are gifted letting the world no that there is a God and that you can have your dreams and live the life that 'God have set before us every one of his, his children's. I believe that you can give me some advice on what road to take how to get it going. Thank you for listening Mr. Perry. (Gloria Harris)

  • Angie Tyler, Texas

    Well said.

  • Shelly Valdosta, GA

    Wow, that is all that i needed - this brought tears to my eyes and it is just what i needed today, thanks Tyler, I hope that one day my path/dreams will cross yours...thanks God for putting me where I am today....thanks Tyler for allowing God to use you to bless sooo many of us!