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Don't Stay Too Long

I haven't written in a while so this is a little long, but it's so worth your time to read.

I was in Wyoming recently and I was taking in the beauty of the place. I mean, I love it. As I was looking up at the mountains I saw an eagle flying above me. I had to stop and take in its majestic beauty. I had never seen a real life eagle. All I had heard about an eagle was in church when the pastor said that the eagle pushes its young out of the nest to teach it to fly. It really did move me watching this bird that had no doubt been pushed out of the nest and had learned to do what I was watching it do.

I got back to the cabin that evening and I started doing some research on eagles. I was so excited to read the story of how it learned to fly. Well, to my surprise, eagles pushing their young out of the nest is a myth. I was shocked. I know that I heard a preacher say that in church… now I ain't gonna say that that pastor lied but I will say he didn’t do the research… LOL. So I did it on my own. I did find some interesting facts that got me thinking about life… mine and yours. It's funny how God can speak through everything. Here’s what I found.

Eagles build the biggest nest of all birds. It’s huge, comfortable and deep. One of the most interesting things that I found was the way that the eagle gets its young chicks to fly out of the nest. For many weeks it brings food to the nest. The little eagles have no worries, they have all they need to survive. But when the adult eagle deems that it's time for the young eagles to fly, things get uncomfortable.

Now the young eagle doesn’t know that it's time to fly, but the wisdom and the bird’s eye view of the mother knows that it's time for the chicks to leave the nest. So you know what she does? She doesn’t bring food to the babies anymore, and this is what I found fascinating. Many times she will fly around the nest with the food in her beak so that the young eagles will be tempted or so hungry that they are forced to fly out of the nest and take it out of her beak. Stay with me I’m going somewhere here.

As I thought about this, I thought about my life and how many times I was in a very comfortable space. I had all I needed. There was no need for me to go any further because I was comortable. I wanted to stay there forever. You have to be careful when you get comfortable and stay too long. It’s easy to stop dreaming when your belly is full. You won’t feel the need to fly at all.

The truth is, as long as I was there in that really comfortable space, I wasn’t fulfilling my own destiny or my purpose. I wasn’t flying, I was content. Remember this, your greatest prayers are not usually answered in comfort. Think about it. I can really get deep into this with stories from my past but you’re probably tired of reading already… LOL… so I'll try and wrap it up.

It took an uncomfortable situation or being hungry to make me get out and fly. Many times in life things are going well, but then everything that was so great changes and we wonder why. We wonder what happened. We are caught off guard. I am of the opinion that in those times God, who knows when it’s time for us to leave the nest, is allowing it to become uncomfortable so that we can move on to our next mission in life. Our next hope, our next dream, our next level.

After not realizing this for many years and resisting changes and going through hell, I’m glad to say that I have become so sensitive to when it's time to move that I will move without having to have the turmoil. I’m telling you I was so stubborn that the house had to burn down for me to move. Now I know better. I’m aware of when it starts to happen, like things happen that don’t make any sense. People you have been friends with or in business with or otherwise for years just seem to go crazy and you don’t know why. What I’ve learned in those moments is that it is a time to fly. Business changes, jobs go away, friends break your heart, marriages end, relationships end, and most times all these things are signs that it’s time to take flight to your next level.

Nobody likes change, I get it, but don’t be angry or bitter when things change. Don’t be mad with people, especially when you know you did right by them and you did all you could do for the friendship or relationship. I’m sorry to tell you this my friend, but this moment was not about them it was all about you. I’m telling you if God has allowed you to become so uncomfortable in your situation, whatever it is, then its time for you to move! Don’t be afraid, just fly!

Last thing and then I’m done . there is one part of the eagle story that I haven’t told you yet, and this is my favorite part. If those baby eagles get out of the nest and they are trying to fly and it’s not going well, then that same mother bird that provided for them while they were in the nest, that same eagle will fly under the baby eagle to keep it from falling, to keep it on course, and give it a sense of security. God’s got you, don’t be afraid! He won't let you fall!

Now here's the question: what situation in your life has become so uncomfortable that you feel like you're being starved for what you need? Maybe its God’s way of telling you it’s time to fly! It's time to fly for your own dreams and your own hopes and goals. Fly for true love and real hope. This is your moment to fly, in 2014. Make this the year that you leave the nest without fear.

Talk to me, I'm listening.


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  • l.eltha Bahamas

    wow! thanks for the inspiration Mr. Perry. I have given my life to my kids and they are now old enough to take care of themselves. There is a business plan in my head that's been there for years and I think now is the time to fly. Thank you so much. Love the site, love talking to you especially the videos where you just share your heart and encourage us. God Bless you,

  • Ebonye Dayvs San Jose, CA

    Thank you soooo much! Just what I needed to hear!

  • Sistah Pat Atlanta, Georgia

    I am very comfortable/uncomfortable in my 9-5 and it is time for me to leave the nest. I know it... oh man do I know it...lol !!! I want more...I yearn for more....I feel it in my bones...my insides seems to be turning over upset at my present daily routine. This may sound dramatic but I am being truthful. This career path has allowed me a way of supporting my family. Now, I am divorced and my son is all grown up. I have no more excuses for not pursuing with a vengeance all the things that I have been placed on this earth to do. I have not just allowed my gifts to remain stagnant but now I need to roll into a full time affair with them. I am seeking God's guidance on my next move because a change in my life is inevitable. Pray for me.

  • James Wesley Atlanta, GA

    love love love that story Mr. Perry. ( about the Eagles) You're an awesome writer in all aspects of life. I really feel like its time for me to leave the nest in a way and pursue my dreams of becoming an actor or at least starting and being serious with this acting . After I got laid off from my government job a month ago, I really felt that maybe that was a sign to move on and go on to the next level of my life. So I'm going to shoot for it. Thank You Mr. Perry and keep up the great work......

  • Tashika Perry Dover,DE

    Hey Tyler, You would never guess,what was going on with me before I had recieved this email.I was in my car crying that God would give me direction,because I could feel him calling out from among my keen. At that time I had allowed my own fears and peoples opinions to influence me right out of one of the best things in my life,but I thank God for his mercy and his grace. I stood still through it all and GOD DELIVERED ME. The oppurtunity presented itself again,and now I was ready to step out and go forth.Thank s Tyler

  • E. Brown Chicago, IL

    Exactly what I needed to hear. Last year I wrote to you asking for a scholarship to get back into school. This year I have paid my $6,000 debt in full thanks to God. However, now I am 23, living in my own apartment in Chicago, with a pretty decent job and I am able to get back into school. But, I realize school is not my passion. I refuse to live this robotic, draining and unhealthy 9-5 life. I want to continue to model, write my first book, act and more creative things. I have been planning to move to Atlanta and fulfill my dreams but, I feel nervous. I have to make a decision to stay here and adapt to this life for my mom sake or follow my heart and bring my dreams to reality. Your post has been a sign to me. I have to leave the nest and fight for life.

  • precious miller Tulsa, Ok

    I read this message and I feel like this is confirmation to some things that God has been dealing with me about. I got it. I'm going to be bold and step out of my comfort zone and pursue a dream that I can't seem to stop dreaming. I can't wait to see what happens. God has never failed because he can't. Thank God and thank you for the confirmation and motivation. God bless you continuosly.

  • Jesse Mihayo Dar Es Salaam, Tanzania

    Dear Tyler Perry, Thank you... This is the most inspiring message I have got today, especially since I am in more or less the same situation... I'm beginning to feel a kind of pressure at home that entails that as a 27 year old, I need to move out. But life is a bit different here as a Tanzanian, as an African... Moving out, I feel, is not an easy endeavor as it takes having to figure everything out for myself from the start. Especially the fear that, if I move out, I would dread moving back in. But we shall see, I hope that this is all part of GOD's plan for me and I pray I may endure the worst of things in my life without losing myself, for I am truly afraid. I really am. At this very moment I am lost. GOD bless you sir.

  • Terrence Brown Atlanta Area

    Tyler Perry, everything you say is like poetry. It soothes me. Your words put my mind at ease. You say what people will not or refuse to say! May God bless you! Thank you for the words of wisdom. I will keep that in mind going through everything I am going through. I absolutely cannot wait on you to start your new series in September! I absolutely cannot wait to work with you Tyler. Love you so much, thanks!

  • Hello my sweet..

    I meet you here, for these are the very words that set me free.. I keep answering that very question daily.. I love you so much more!! Who could figure all this talk about eagles, rainbow, and clouds.. The very things that were there all the time... <3 <3 <3

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  • LaTanya Moore-Newsome Lithonia, georgia

    Mr. Perry this was so on point and conformation for me!!!! I moved to Georgia and worked at a Real estate Company in Midtown I believed they had my best interest at heart and honestly even with my spirit telling me I need more!! I stayed after all I'm not a native how could I become a Realtor to the stars or Luxury Home Sales, which is what my hearts desire has been? and I stayed the whole three years I have been here even while I was feeling the shift in the atmosphere the shift in the way my co-workers looked and distanced their selves from me. It was becoming very uncomfortable. And in Feb, I went out for a Land Bank proposal and found out via e-mail that my broker had went behind my back and applied for the same bid as a Agent and won the bid!!! I was crushed!! But God said your greater is coming!! You just can not receive it while your here. As I moved you to Ga to bless you I will do what I said and give you the desires of your heart as long as your obedient to my will and my way. The following business day I went to the office of the seasoned broker that helped me on the proposal to begin with from a different company. I started at Virtual Properties Realty in Duluth roughly three weeks ago. I have 1 listing in St. Mountain 1 i am listing Monday a piece of land in Jasper county and went on a listing appoint 3 days ago and 1 house to be listed turned into 4!!!! I have already received a award from coaching class and am working a 2 major bulk deals. tell me our God doesn't know whats best for us!!!! I am going to post this letter to my facebook It so deserves to be read seen heard about!!!you are such a humble man and we love you as well as God!! fyi I have been by your beautiful home also lol!!!

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