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Don't Stay Too Long

I haven't written in a while so this is a little long, but it's so worth your time to read.

I was in Wyoming recently and I was taking in the beauty of the place. I mean, I love it. As I was looking up at the mountains I saw an eagle flying above me. I had to stop and take in its majestic beauty. I had never seen a real life eagle. All I had heard about an eagle was in church when the pastor said that the eagle pushes its young out of the nest to teach it to fly. It really did move me watching this bird that had no doubt been pushed out of the nest and had learned to do what I was watching it do.

I got back to the cabin that evening and I started doing some research on eagles. I was so excited to read the story of how it learned to fly. Well, to my surprise, eagles pushing their young out of the nest is a myth. I was shocked. I know that I heard a preacher say that in church… now I ain't gonna say that that pastor lied but I will say he didn’t do the research… LOL. So I did it on my own. I did find some interesting facts that got me thinking about life… mine and yours. It's funny how God can speak through everything. Here’s what I found.

Eagles build the biggest nest of all birds. It’s huge, comfortable and deep. One of the most interesting things that I found was the way that the eagle gets its young chicks to fly out of the nest. For many weeks it brings food to the nest. The little eagles have no worries, they have all they need to survive. But when the adult eagle deems that it's time for the young eagles to fly, things get uncomfortable.

Now the young eagle doesn’t know that it's time to fly, but the wisdom and the bird’s eye view of the mother knows that it's time for the chicks to leave the nest. So you know what she does? She doesn’t bring food to the babies anymore, and this is what I found fascinating. Many times she will fly around the nest with the food in her beak so that the young eagles will be tempted or so hungry that they are forced to fly out of the nest and take it out of her beak. Stay with me I’m going somewhere here.

As I thought about this, I thought about my life and how many times I was in a very comfortable space. I had all I needed. There was no need for me to go any further because I was comortable. I wanted to stay there forever. You have to be careful when you get comfortable and stay too long. It’s easy to stop dreaming when your belly is full. You won’t feel the need to fly at all.

The truth is, as long as I was there in that really comfortable space, I wasn’t fulfilling my own destiny or my purpose. I wasn’t flying, I was content. Remember this, your greatest prayers are not usually answered in comfort. Think about it. I can really get deep into this with stories from my past but you’re probably tired of reading already… LOL… so I'll try and wrap it up.

It took an uncomfortable situation or being hungry to make me get out and fly. Many times in life things are going well, but then everything that was so great changes and we wonder why. We wonder what happened. We are caught off guard. I am of the opinion that in those times God, who knows when it’s time for us to leave the nest, is allowing it to become uncomfortable so that we can move on to our next mission in life. Our next hope, our next dream, our next level.

After not realizing this for many years and resisting changes and going through hell, I’m glad to say that I have become so sensitive to when it's time to move that I will move without having to have the turmoil. I’m telling you I was so stubborn that the house had to burn down for me to move. Now I know better. I’m aware of when it starts to happen, like things happen that don’t make any sense. People you have been friends with or in business with or otherwise for years just seem to go crazy and you don’t know why. What I’ve learned in those moments is that it is a time to fly. Business changes, jobs go away, friends break your heart, marriages end, relationships end, and most times all these things are signs that it’s time to take flight to your next level.

Nobody likes change, I get it, but don’t be angry or bitter when things change. Don’t be mad with people, especially when you know you did right by them and you did all you could do for the friendship or relationship. I’m sorry to tell you this my friend, but this moment was not about them it was all about you. I’m telling you if God has allowed you to become so uncomfortable in your situation, whatever it is, then its time for you to move! Don’t be afraid, just fly!

Last thing and then I’m done . there is one part of the eagle story that I haven’t told you yet, and this is my favorite part. If those baby eagles get out of the nest and they are trying to fly and it’s not going well, then that same mother bird that provided for them while they were in the nest, that same eagle will fly under the baby eagle to keep it from falling, to keep it on course, and give it a sense of security. God’s got you, don’t be afraid! He won't let you fall!

Now here's the question: what situation in your life has become so uncomfortable that you feel like you're being starved for what you need? Maybe its God’s way of telling you it’s time to fly! It's time to fly for your own dreams and your own hopes and goals. Fly for true love and real hope. This is your moment to fly, in 2014. Make this the year that you leave the nest without fear.

Talk to me, I'm listening.


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  • precious miller Tulsa, Ok

    I read this message and I feel like this is confirmation to some things that God has been dealing with me about. I got it. I'm going to be bold and step out of my comfort zone and pursue a dream that I can't seem to stop dreaming. I can't wait to see what happens. God has never failed because he can't. Thank God and thank you for the confirmation and motivation. God bless you continuosly.

  • Jesse Mihayo Dar Es Salaam, Tanzania

    Dear Tyler Perry, Thank you... This is the most inspiring message I have got today, especially since I am in more or less the same situation... I'm beginning to feel a kind of pressure at home that entails that as a 27 year old, I need to move out. But life is a bit different here as a Tanzanian, as an African... Moving out, I feel, is not an easy endeavor as it takes having to figure everything out for myself from the start. Especially the fear that, if I move out, I would dread moving back in. But we shall see, I hope that this is all part of GOD's plan for me and I pray I may endure the worst of things in my life without losing myself, for I am truly afraid. I really am. At this very moment I am lost. GOD bless you sir.

  • Terrence Brown Atlanta Area

    Tyler Perry, everything you say is like poetry. It soothes me. Your words put my mind at ease. You say what people will not or refuse to say! May God bless you! Thank you for the words of wisdom. I will keep that in mind going through everything I am going through. I absolutely cannot wait on you to start your new series in September! I absolutely cannot wait to work with you Tyler. Love you so much, thanks!

  • Hello my sweet..

    I meet you here, for these are the very words that set me free.. I keep answering that very question daily.. I love you so much more!! Who could figure all this talk about eagles, rainbow, and clouds.. The very things that were there all the time... <3 <3 <3

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  • LaTanya Moore-Newsome Lithonia, georgia

    Mr. Perry this was so on point and conformation for me!!!! I moved to Georgia and worked at a Real estate Company in Midtown I believed they had my best interest at heart and honestly even with my spirit telling me I need more!! I stayed after all I'm not a native how could I become a Realtor to the stars or Luxury Home Sales, which is what my hearts desire has been? and I stayed the whole three years I have been here even while I was feeling the shift in the atmosphere the shift in the way my co-workers looked and distanced their selves from me. It was becoming very uncomfortable. And in Feb, I went out for a Land Bank proposal and found out via e-mail that my broker had went behind my back and applied for the same bid as a Agent and won the bid!!! I was crushed!! But God said your greater is coming!! You just can not receive it while your here. As I moved you to Ga to bless you I will do what I said and give you the desires of your heart as long as your obedient to my will and my way. The following business day I went to the office of the seasoned broker that helped me on the proposal to begin with from a different company. I started at Virtual Properties Realty in Duluth roughly three weeks ago. I have 1 listing in St. Mountain 1 i am listing Monday a piece of land in Jasper county and went on a listing appoint 3 days ago and 1 house to be listed turned into 4!!!! I have already received a award from coaching class and am working a 2 major bulk deals. tell me our God doesn't know whats best for us!!!! I am going to post this letter to my facebook It so deserves to be read seen heard about!!!you are such a humble man and we love you as well as God!! fyi I have been by your beautiful home also lol!!!

  • Gina Greenboro, NC

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  • Stephanie Georgia

    Hi Tyler enjoyed reading your inspirational story. I am a true nature lover, and I love to watch birds, smell flowers, and listen to the trees wrestle in the wind. It all reminds me of the glory of GOD, and I am so thankful that he created all this beauty for us to enjoy. When I see leaves falling from a tree it makes me smile because at that very moment I feel GOD's presence. So many people take nature for granted and don't realize it's a gift from GOD. To see a mountain lets me know the power of GOD is real and ever present. I do take time to smell the roses, and I often spend time with the trees because it gives me a peace I can not obtain through other means. There is a lot to be revealed through all that GOD has created, and I find it so sad that the world has focused all of its attention and placed all of its values of the things created by man.

  • knight Mc Donough Ga

    I just want to say I've heard that preached that way about the eagle as well thank you for the research but most of all thank you for the inspiration I too like many have been through the storm and by the grace of God survived, but what I want to thank you most for is just confirming to me that it's time to let go and walk by faith. Every sermon that I've heard in the last few weeks have been along those lines so it's definitely time for me to spread my wings because life has been uncomfortable but I can stand on his word and know that my gifts will make room for me before great men... I've sown and 2014 Lord willing it'll be harvest time... Watch for me...

  • Guy Jr.

    Good Evening Tyler, My daughter sent this post, it was amazing because the Lord had me and my wife of 37 years fly again. Just five short years ago we moved next door from a home we thought we would never leave. We raised our six children and ran a family drilling company there for over 30 years. But our lives moved in a new direction the Lord had planned for us, now after five years of comfortable living we received another message and are now settling in a new home, also the first time in 37 years we are renting. Our message was to have one of our sons move into our lovely two story home and raise his family as we had raised our, he is one of our sons that is still drilling so he can be close to their company. After surgeries and life changes it was time to change the comfort zone. If you are ever in Laveen, AZ our home has a guest room, stories I have many and with eighteen grand-children and the 19th and day I do have a good audience, when they are not watching one of your shows. You are Blessed with a great and awesome Gift, Thanks for sharing, God Bless You - Be Safe Always. Guy Jr.

  • Rachelle Warren Warren, MI

    May 8, 2014 Mr. Perry: Thanks so much! Your research on that eagle and the comparison that you made about us and God, and how that bird helps its offspring survive, is a great analogy. I can really appreciate what you said about how things seem to be going so differently from plans or expectations that were all mapped out (even with the way people that you thought you knew start to change so suddenly), and this chaos then forces a need for revisions in your own personal life. For example, I really thought that I had planned my future with going to school, getting my degrees and becoming a Teacher. Everything was fine - I had "table land" for years. Then I was laid off in 2008. As a result of losing my finances, I lost my home to foreclosure, and it seems as though no matter what I try to do, things are still crazy! I haven't really been able to get back on the right track again at all. Sure, I have had temporary and part-time teaching jobs since that time; and I've been depending on God, my Daughter, and my Nephew for survival, while I'm continuing to work on finishing my Doctoral Degree Program. I even start my very last class this week. Yet, I feel like all the work that I have sown into making my life perfect has been a life for others, while I've watched my own dreams for a perfect life not materialize into what I planned - ergo, the uncomfortability. I feel like God has this great plan for me ... I just wish I knew exactly what He has in mind. Anyway, thanks again for letting me vent, and for all your encouragement. Love, Rachelle Warren, M.Ed. rw

  • T'Keyah Harris Atlanta,Ga

    Crying! Wow..such an inspiration

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