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Christmas Past

I was sitting here thinking about my mother. God, she loved Christmas. Tears started to fill my eyes. I was about to get sad, then I remembered something that made me laugh so hard.

I remembered the day my mother bought this artificial tree. I was about 10. She was complaining about the price. She said, "Damn this tree is high [expensive]... this gone last." I heard her but I was so excited about the tree that I didn't pay her any attention. I just kept on decorating the tree. Putting lights and ornaments on it. Then, she said, "And these damn lights and ornaments were high too." I just kept on smiling.

So after Christmas had passed, I saw her put the entire artificial tree back in the box that it came in, with the lights and decorations and all still attached to the tree. She just threw it in the box and the next year, you guessed it, she just pulled it out and plugged it in and said, "Don't it still look good?" I didn't have the heart to tell her that the Christmas tree looked like a Christmas shrub. LOL. Most of the lights had burned out, but she didn't care. All she remembered was the $17.95 that she paid for it. I was so glad when I made some money to buy her another tree... You think Charlie Brown had a horrible looking tree? I wish I had a picture of that branch she called a tree.

Merry Christmas y'all. If your mother is alive, savor every precious moment.

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  • Annette Gibraltar

    Halarious, lmao memories is what keep us ticking. Merry Christmas Tyler times have most certainly changed. I'm sure that shes all around in joy. No matter how the tree looked, in her eyes it was expensive and worth it. The next year even lights missing, or even out. It served the purpose , you had, and didn't go with out. Funny , your laughing now while shes laughing with you. Speak of the charlie brown tree, I so re-call that .. So funny Tyler. Those were the days We looked forward to charlie brown specials every Christmas. Seasons Greetings !

  • Stormy013 Massachusetts

    Dear Tyler Perry, Those are memories to be cherished about your mom & the artificial tree. I personally have never owned an artificial tree. I guess they can look ragged after a year thrown in a box with lights & ornaments & all. I personally have not had a tree for 4 years. But I recall having a tree with my late hubby in Hollywood,CA. I let a ( get this) surgeon friend of ours trim the tree. Talk about looking terrible. That tree looked worse than Charlie Brown but I was so happy because we had one. I bought ( to think of this) cheap satin ornaments to decorate it with. It was homely but the memories of my late hubby are still there with that tree & I can laugh. He passed away in 1992 but my son is still here as a reminder. Plus a young lady from another mother. She lost her mom in August 2011 so I sorta been filling in for her. Keeps me busy as she has 3 children. Her youngest son Daiesan said Mom let's take a road trip I want to go see Patsy. They live in CT. When they come up for the wknd I find something for them to do, the last time we all sat & did calliography. Before they left the children left me notes of how they love me. So they are missing their grandmother but at least I can help. God bless you & the missing of your mother. My own mom need heart surgery & my stepfather of many years is dying from Stage 4 cancer. So it's not merry but I will get through it by going to my sister's in CT & than off to see those 3 little angels that miss their grandmother so much that they hold on to me tight along w/their mommy, Heather. Enjoy your holidays with the ones that you cherish as you keep the memories of your mom close to your heart.

  • Jennifer

    Mr Perry, This morning my heart is heavy with helping with the care of my husband's mother. I am care taker and a hospice 11th hour volunteer and I love what I do. Here is my problem: I have been married for 22 years to a wonderful man but his mother and sister made my life a living hell. I help to care for his father until his death (for my husband) and his sister and brother cheated him out of everything and we let it go. Now they mother has been relocated because she can no longer live alone with his siter who only calls my husband when she needs something. There is so much to this story that I can't write it all and because of my husband work schedule he can not care for his mother in the time frame hi ssister needs him to but I can. When I care for her father she lied on me and never said thank you and so her I am again having to go to the enemies camp for (my husband). To care for a women who was so mean to me and a sister who is like (excuse me praying right now because I just put Jesus in timeout and Peter is showing up)(PRAYING).. It is because of your email I read this morning that I am rethinking the statement I made to my husband(You made the agreement with the devil you keep it) and do what JESUS would do and that is help every and anyone. Thanks a lot Mr. Perry and the next time you do a show or a movie can you do something on in-laws the good,bad and ugly. My christmas is shot so I will sing a song to myself.

  • Tinee Lawrenceville, Ga

    I'm sorry for the pain you have from missing your mother and yes sometimes a laugh will come from the pain like yours did with thinking about the tree a happy moment from the past will help. I lost my birth mom who I didn't know to well but i still have my adopted mom who raised me and I thank god for her every day she is still here with us. I pray you have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. God Be With Us All In 2013 and always.

  • Tonya Holloman Clearwater Fl

    I am sorry for the pain you and your fellow followers are experiencing this Christmas season. I am taking your advice and spending every moment with my mom this Christmas. We are having a blast creating new memories and following our family traditions. May your mother wings surround you always in your time of need. XOXO Tonya

  • Aysha Lewis Pennsylvania

    Mr.Perry, I want to thank you for sharing your story, after reading it I felt better. My mother died back in 2007; life was never the same for me again. It has been difficult to celabrate the holidays since her passing. I remember my mother doing the same thing, except her idea of a Chsritmas tree was a tree made of foil. It looked like c*** , but after she got through decorating it and turning off the lights , all I remember thinking was how beautiful it was and, that my mom was the best at making things look better. Now with my kids grown and out of the house I only have my daughter left at home . I think this year I have finally come to to a point were I can enjoy Christmas the way I use to with mom. As I look at my tree that my daughter and I decorated I think to myself ...does she feel the same joy I did when it was me and my mom back then. I needed to hear your story today, it brought back some really good memories for me . Thank you again

  • Gwen Hargett New Bern, N.C.

    Tyler just looking at your refrigerator at Thanksgiving was a clue how much you missed your Mama. The holidays always brings memories of loved ones we no longer can physically touch. But we have a wealth of precious memories that buoy us on the days when we need them so much. My Mom died when I was 7 just before Christmas some 50+ years ago. My life was changed forever and I was the oldest at the time. Then my Dad died 19 years ago just before Christmas to say the least was a sad day. I think of them often and the precious Christmases we had with them and then I'm not so sad. Merry Christmas Tyler remember the times with your Mama and continue to make her proud.

  • Brenda Ft Gorden

    Dear Tyler I was read everyone comment about there mother Tyler it's ok to cry about your mother on Feb 15, 2003 my mother went home i still cry always around the Holiday I thought my whole world had end she was everything to me father and mother sometime when I get sad I thank about some of the joke she would said she was a very funny lady I remember being young in New Orleans the first day of School in the 9th Ward at Mc Donold 19 she taking me to school I didn't wont to stay so I hang on to her leg she told me you going to stay your little b*** her so do I need to leave my leg here with you. I remember when the color sheet came out for color TV she brought one home everyone was green red and blue she said you done have to wonder what color there clothes are now. Its a sad time for me I'm the only living family member everyone has pass with cancer. About 11 month after my mother went with God my older brother went home with her he was like my father did everything for me he was like one of them good father you hear kids talk about with there friend he drop out school got two job help my mom pay bill the love them two had for me. He went back to night school I remember when he began working off shore he took care of mom and me I miss them both so much sometime it pain my heart but I do know one day if I please God and do the best by other I will see them again and the threesome will be back together God willing I wishes everyone A safe and Happy Holiday and a Blessing New Year's

  • Flora Simmons Indianola, Ms.38751

    Tyler, I can relate to your story about the Christmas Tree, because my mother was the same way. The outside decorations were worst than the tree!

  • Diane Oahu

    Iremember the last Christmas mama spent with us. The price of a tree was so expensive..I decided that we could wait, but mama wanted one. So we went to the store not shopping for a tree, as she sat on the car, she sent one of the kids in to tell me that they had trees on sale for 75% off. I thought to myself, this couldn't be its still too early for this kind of sale...so any way we went and found the first tree, as though it stood there just for her...we took it home, had it decorated with lights and ornaments...it was the first year, that it was practically almost all red...its size was just right and beautiful as she came out to the parlor, it wasn't in the way for her to get by..mama was in a wheelchair she had a stroke, a month before. She never had use of one of her legs since the age of 4, so it was hard for her to get by....but she enjoyed that Christmas tree, by the way she paid for it, which cost only $17.00.I'll never forget that Christmas...she never made it for Christmas, she left us on the 14th of December 2000...This too was a Christmas Past I wanted to share with you..I miss mama. Merry Christmas to you...

  • Marletta Priscilla Fomby Hall County

    You see Tyler, your mother is still with you. In those tears she left you those memories. Her spirit wipes them away! She is still here looking after her baby boy, best friend, smile and just look up, you will always feel beside you in the memories she left you all. Goodnight, well good morning, my mother is with me all through the night so I don't get much sleep. Be blessed my brother

  • Charles K Poole St. Louis, Missouri

    This brief but thoughtful post resonated with me. It has been 20 Christmases without my mom and I'm painfully aware of her absence every year. Like your mom, mine loved Christmas--decorating for it, stressing over getting just the right fruit and nuts to put in bowls throughout the house, and making sure no matter how little we had that we all had her love and attention in equal share. I realize now that for me, she was Christmas. And I admittedly have never felt the same about the day since I lost her. But this post reminded me to smile when I think of the memories she helped me create, particularly those weird little things that, looking back upon them now, we're unique to her expression of the holiday spirit. Thanks for sharing, and inspiring, as always.

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